My Husband Doesn't Like My Hobby?

Boozekiss B

Does he want you to snort meth and Jello wrestle in hte living room? I read and my husband plays Halo. -nobody that is married is "cool".

Julie H

If you like your hobby, continue doing needlecraft. He is just being controlling and a bully about it. Start again tonight and tell him he can feel like a senior citizen if he wants. You don't feel that way.

Happy-2

Recently, my wife had a short-lived interest in knitting, and I felt the same way as your husband! She'd be sitting over there wearing her reading glasses and knitting, and I'd be feeling like we were old folks.

But the difference in our stories was that I was polite enough not to say anything. I figured I'd get used to it if I tried (although it turned out I didn't have to). I say do what you want to do, and if your husband doesn't like it, tough potato chips for him.

life goes on

omg what a silly guy .
do your crafts who will know besides you and him.

teduardosportacus

yeah and old people dont watch TV all the time either?

Eat Funyuns.

Mary Kate

I think that by him complaining, he may subconsciously be trying to address other issues. Maybe when you do your needlecraft you two don't talk or communicate and that can also make someone feel "old" or "boring." If you two have healthy communication and truly enjoy each other's company then he will be happy with you whether you are watching tv with him or simply being around him doing whatever it is you feel like doing. I'm not trying to take his side, I just try to remember that sometimes things aren't so cut and dry.

?!?!?!?

Are you kidding me. Who cares what your hobby is. Your hobby is yours - he's very insecure. Dictating your hobby is a control issue.

*havin fun in the sun*

i don't see nothing wrong with it. if you enjoy it, keep on doing it.

Salinger

You're still your own person. Do what makes you happy as long as it doesn't hurt anyone.

Sitting around watching TV sounds kind of "senior" to me. Tell him to get out of the house - go ride a bike or something. Do something fun.

Beauty&Brains

Umm why would you stop just because he doesn't like it? You both can have seperate likes and dislikes. Keep your hobby and find something you both agree on to do together once or twice a week. Like a tv show maybe, scrabble, bike riding, swimming, working out etc..

kashmirkat7777

I understand... I like to crochet and it's not really something young women enjoy doing... I find it relaxing and I'm creating something at the same time.

I think if you can switch it up at times... just sit with him and watch tv. Maybe he wants to be closer to you? It would get old if you do needlecrafts every night. But he needs to be able to respect some evenings you do it because you really enjoy it. Tell him something he does that you dislike but tolerate it cause you love HIM.

kpopp

You have an ideal situation. You do what you like best and he does what he likes best. You do not disturb each other. So, please lay it out to him: old people watch television too, some even make love and, surprise, some you young people knit. So start knitting again and tell him to get used to it.

Devon

ever coples going to have there diferences, he may not like what you enjoy and the other way around. i feel a person should be alble to be themshevles . so do what you like to let him do what helikes to tv and movies . you should both be happy!

Sweetdaddy Rex

COMMUNICATE !!!

JUJUBABE

Why does he feel old? He's not the one doing the craft. Tell him to shut up and mind his business. You are an individual, and getting older is a part of life, unless you die young.

Space Cadet #5

He should be glad that you have a hands-on hobby. I think it's great. You should keep doing it. Don't listen to him.

In the evening at our house, my daughter crochets and she learned from my mother in law. My wife just watches TV, and I wish she would take up the knitting and do something.

Muschi

Your husband is a big baby! Continue your hobby and tell him that you could be having a hobby outside of the house so he should be grateful you're choosing something that keeps you there with him.

amy g

No if thats what you like to do, so what if you guys feel old or your husband feels that way, its what you like to do, if he loves you he should see that thats something youi like to do, at least you have a hobby.

loulou

I think your husband is being totally unreasonable. If you enjoy doing it, you should continue to do so. Your hobby isn't harming him in anyway and he shouldn't be so controlling! Its not as if your hobby is taking away any of your time that you spend together as you are doing it in front of the tv while sitting with him.

If you were off every evening doing strip teases or lap dances then yes maybe he has a right to express his opinion but in this instance, I think he is well out of order and you should continue to enjoy your hobby!!

Big J

Maybe just do it in another room or something. But I don't know what the big deal it. So you are spending time together. Needlepoint can be done while chatting or whatever. I didn't care when my wife would knit while we watched tv.

Pet

he feels old anyway, it has nothing to do with you. tell him to stop complaining.

chathamguy

Tell him to grow up, that is why it is YOUR hobby, not his.

Do what you like, what makes you happy. He should be happy you are spending time with him.

I like working on my care which means spending time in the garage, I now have it heated out there, put a lazy boy in and a TV, my wife will come out and sit while I work on the car, we can talk while I do it, she reads books or will watch TV, it is time spend together.

Unless it is a hobby that financially effects your relationship, or quality of life. it shouldn't matter, my sister is 15 and she knits, I hate getting the sweaters but she enjoys it

EG I was into racing but couldn't afford to keep it up, so now I just tinker with my own car.

There are loads of needlecraft groups out there made up of younger women (and even some men, too). Go online and find some pictures from their meetups to show him. That, or just tell him that you have no problem letting him sit around all evening like a lump because it's what he enjoys, so he needs to let you have your fun, too.

Chella-Raelynn Marie due 10/2/09

hes your husband? and hes telling you to stop a hobby? such as needlecraft?
That sounds a little stupid, im sure you dont make much noise, such as the tv.
maybe you should move your hobby into a different room, let him miss you. maybe he will invite you back in the tv room when he misses you.
just my opinion!

Lori T

I am glad I am not alone.

If I were you I would say "I enjoy this and it relaxes me. And I do not interefere with your hobbies because I want you to relax and be HAPPY as well. --then smile reassuring your husband that what you have just said is a 'request'...that's my best advice for a husband like ours.

Another answerer stated your husband is being controlling. wow. That is so true.

In the evening I have to watch home improvement shows or myth-busters with my husband. I have to. My husband will get back at me in other ways and make my life tough if I don't. He will usually go into my kitchen and start pulling pots and pans out of the cabinets and re-stack them the correct way. 'crazy' yes I am aware. Or he will pick on me about my cats, or complain that his shirt is wrinkled from the dryer-or accuse me of not using bleach in the whites or using too much bleach in the whites. geez. *sigh*

Be brave and keep the needlecraft!

Pyar

Tell him to stop being so selfish and controlling .... You enjoy your hobby . You are with him when you do it and you don't stop him from watching TV ... Sitting around watching TV sounds more like something an old couple would do .
You could change your lifestyle and start hitting bars with your friends ,coming home drunk or not at all ...Would that make him happy? No law says you have to stay home with him every night and no law says you must enjoy the same things . He should consider how lucky he is and shut up and stop trying to control how you enjoy yourself .

Mr. Cruz

idunno it is kind of a weird thing to do but it isnt that big of a deal

Carrie H

I think he should just accept it
It's part of you and if he's watching tv it doesn't really matter, because he wont be taking part in it, right?!
He can't expect you to feel bored. You may as well tell him to stop watching tv
Maybe make something really stylish and show him how amazing you are! There's nothing that should stop you from doing what you love

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