My Wife thinks I'm Cheating?

Ontheotherhand

People won't like my answer. Nobody can "prove" they aren't cheating. But a marriage requires trust. In fact, your wife is being unfaithful, in that she is choosing to believe some unknown stranger rather than her spouse. As for what you should do- continue to communicate with your wife, and continue not cheating. This issue can't be settled until you get home, so try not to dwell on it. Staying alive in a war zone MUST be your priority. Deal with this when you get home. Good luck.

IndyGirl

Your wife thinks where there's smoke there's usually FIRE...
and sadly, that is often the case.
Someone wants to screw you over, Guy.
Hmmmm......
Why don't ya'll try getting OFF Myspace.

Rebecca W

This could very easily be someone you know (friend of a friend, friend of a family member, ex-coworker) who has fixated on you without your knowledge. She/he is using your deployment to her/his advantage and trying to put a wedge between you and your wife. This is very common "stalker" behaviour. By creating the rift, the person can then step in to "comfort" you. Enlist the aid of a trusted friend or family member to intercede on your behalf with your wife to tell her that this is most likely what is going on.

Candycorps

Hmm this sounds like something I would do. A previous posted said it might be someone whose fixated on you trying to create a divide so that they can step in and comfort you, as a crazy stalker type myself I would put money on that theory. Ask your wife what kind of things this person is saying and try to see if its any recent new stuff that you may have told someone.Try to make a list of who you think it may be and go to each person on that list and tell them some made up secret and see which one gets back to your wife. (I stole that from the movie The Departed)

akmal

ask her which person she should trust, her own husband or some person on myspace... if she didnt trust u... just sulk up or something, or just left her...marriage is about trust, rite?

Pink Sugar

wow....that's gonna be hard for u you convince her especially when this person has ur info....good luck

chris s

i would start thinking of people that are close to you and don't like your wife as the culprit. the only advice i can give is tell her that you had trust when you were married and that she should trust you now, that this is some kind of sick joke. good luck

pagan_air

You have to remember how much information this person knows about you. Not only physical and personality traits, but little details that only someone up close and personal would know about you. Was there ever time when you went out with people she didn't know, never called, never answered the phone, and never came home until 2 the next afternoon with no answers to her questions? (yep) Was there ever a moment in time where you acted suspicious, turned conversations around on her, even after a happy night, so you could storm out of the house and not come back until hours later? (yep) Was your text messages and your phone calls always deleted, even though you were always on the phone or texting? (yep) Did your wife give you the benefit of the doubt, but instead of telling her how much you loved her and it would never happen, you got extraordinarily defensive and turn the conversation to everything wrong she's ever done, makeing sure not to answer her questions? (yep)

So why don't you put more detail into your quesion, like about how your wife did trust you for months, or the way she reacted to the messages in a calm way, just asking questions and looking for the truth, or about how your wife found out when she was already pregnant withh your second child about how you went on dates with other people when she was 5 months pregnant with your first?

My answer to your question is there's always 2 sides to a story. If she's suspicious, there's probably more reason to it than some crazy chick on a myspace page. There's always more ways to come up with a conclusion that she was already suspecting before this bored crazy person starting messaging her. Like someone said, when there's usually smoke, there's fire.

knowitallandmore69

This is really said. I feel really bad for you.
Maybe you could say this to your wife.

"We are married and this girl is some girl we've never met before. Why would you believe some stranger over your loving husband, I love you."

Just trying to help. I feel really sorry for you. This is prove that the world is going down the drain. That a stranger would try to ruin your life like this.

blyton

Tell your wife you aren't cheating. I dunno. Tell myspace to delete her account or something..

Its internet. Is your wife really going to believe some lunatic on myspace... Unless you really are cheating?

Guess

First off, it's hard to be an army wife especially now you've been deployed and will probably get harder the longer you're away.
Any women would feel threatened and full of doubt with what is happening. You need to continue to tell the truth and remind her how much you love her.
Have you tried to find out who this home wrecker is? It might not be coming from your side. It could be someone she knows that is trying to hurt her, not get back at you.

Because you're not physically there to defend yourself, it's going to come down to your love and trust for each other. Is there someone with her that you think could speak on your behalf. A best friend or sister, someone whom respects their input?

Keep fighting for her, no matter how hard it gets and remind her of the little things you did together or said to each other.

I'm sorry I can't be more help. Good luck.

girlygirl

myspace is stupid, why does she have one? get rid of it... problem solved.

kitkat

How sad that your wife chooses to believe a stranger instead of her husband. Why would she have trust issues with you? You need to show her how committed you are to her.

candye

That is sooo cruel!! It must be someone that either wants you or just wants to see ya'll break-up...First thing, find out who it is! This may take some investigating... 2)Report them to the myspace "authorities".

Send me the link to your wife's page and I'll help ya...

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