My abusive husband keeps telling me that he loves me and can't live without me. Is that possible?

mary_not_cathy

Yes he loves you, but he doesn't know how to treat a woman right!

This probably stems from his childhood, but it's still no excuse!

Are there children between you two?
That's the heart-wrenching part though!

Why do you stay?

Do you feel sorry for him?

You believe him when he says sorry? You believe he'll change!

...But you know what, he won't - really, he won't!

Are you staying for the kids sake?

One thing to remember... if you do stay for the kids sake, but intend to leave him later, you won't because you both will be old, and you'll feel sorry for him if you leave...

You need to ask yourself, are you happy (forget the SOMETIMES)

Where do you see yourself in 5, 10 years from now?

Stop any day-dreaming and seriously consider my above points.

Where are your goals, and how do you plan to achieve them?
Now, is his involvement as strong as yours?

If not, then re-consider the relationship!

taraleighsg

Hun, get out NOW!! There is no way a mna loves you if he's abusive to you. He is pulling a power play here, and appealing to the kind heart of a woman. Do what you need to do to get yourself out and eventually you can find a man who will love you and treat you with kindness. Remember, Love Dosen't Hurt!! Good luck...& peace & blessings to you!

Felecia M

well hell no if he's putting his hands on you

winona e

That may be in his mind. But what about you??? Do you enjoy the abuse???

Tonya C

That's codepency talking. If he loved you, he wouldn't be abusive. He's got some problems, and you'll end up seriously hurt or dead if you don't get yourself out.

Get yourself into a counselor. This will help you figure out what you've been going through and how you can deal with it.

Don't worry about trying to get him into counseling. He won't go unless he wants to and it's a waste of your time to try to get him there.

j M

depends if you wisen up and sew him up in the bed sheet and beat him with a baseball bat like he deserves... *fishing string works best if he's a biggin*

lolitakali

Tell him to abuse himself instead of u if he truely loves you... then you can't live without him just like he does and loves him back as much. There is then the possibility.

croc.rock

frankramirez_81

Put his theory to the test... leave him and be happy. If he dies, he was right.

I went through this for 3 years. No not enough to be a real man!
He may care in some way, but the question you should be asking yourself is do I want to live my life this way? If you have children do you want them to live life that way? It won't be easy but he will never change. Will you?

Patricia T

No, because if he truly loves u he would not hit you like he does u better be carefull.

....

kick him in the face and balls then tell him to get...who cares if he cant live without you...its if you can live with him...and it wont matter if he gets too abusive and ends up killing you...best thing for you is to get the hell away from him...(dont really kick him in the face cuz that would hurt)

aleym

NO! get out as fast as you can. it only gets worse my close cousin was married to a man just like that and he continued to say i love you im sorry until the day we had to attend her funeral because he choked her to death that was the last time i saw her.she died at the age of twenty five and now her kids dont have a mother because of there father. abuse is not love!

ThePhoenix

Maybe he can't live without you in his mind, but how long will you LIVE with him?? Thats the question. A real man doesn't hit a woman especially one he loves.

Discovery

Yes, it is possible, because you allow him to abuse you, and that's what he need, no one else will allow him to do that, that's why he can't live without you. wake up, take him to therapy.

pinkstealth

He needs help.
Make him get it.
This is a sickness that I don't fully understand.
Yes, it is possible that he loves you,
however, he can not control his anger.
You are in Danger.

sweetcheripie25

That's how he is trying to make you feel. He loves you and can;t live without you but it's your fault why he treats you badly. Fu&k that, if he loved you, he wouldn't hurt you.

Nothing that a pot of grits can't cure.

sicivic05

hell no u need to leave now get out and never come back a man who raises his fist to a women needs to be tortured extensively

hockeyplaya889

not if he abuses you...you gotta leave him girl

vonettawilson

He can love you but not the way you need and want to be loved. the best thing is to get out asap

sharon c

he is just saying that to make you feel sorry for him so you will stay, if he loved you, he wouldnt be abusive

perryb64505

I THINK THEY REALLY LOVE YOU....BUT SOME PEOPLE HAVE ANGER ISSUES.. RUN GIRL BECAUSE HE WILL ALWAYS HURT YOU. IT IS A SICKNESS.. SOMETIMES A POWER THING? GO WHILE YOU ARE STILL ALIVE

DisneyLover

no, he's tricking you psychologically to believe that so you won't leave him.
He's gonna keep on abusing you and talk is cheap and he has a serious problem. Its not your fault. Just leave ASAP.

iyamacog

No.
He can TELL you anything. But actions always speak much louder than words.

sundayschild63

No,thats just his way of controling you,making you feel guilty for wanting to leave.
If he is abusive,get out!

arrogant

How can he LOVE you if he is abusive? As far as living without you, if he is physically abusive, he doesn't deserve to live. Leave the loser and find someone who can show you what love is.

leadbelly

classic signs of emotional dependence.
he does not have an adult point of view to control his temper.

tomgurl2006

He dosent love you if he hurts you all the time. You need to get outta that.

sarahliz

You are brave and you are strong.

I suggest that you leave ASAP. It is good that you recognize that his behavior is dangerous.

PLEASE call this number and set yourself free. 1-800-799-SAFE (7233)

good luck.

egymah

Some people are so, as you mentioned, they are sick and need to see psychiatrist. If you love him, help him to get the right treatment through psychiatrist. Other wise get out.

lily

no body can love anybody and abuse him/her at the same time, he should seek medical help.
be careful ,because he could hurt you so bad if he knew you were going to leave him.

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