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Soapbox
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Say no, there is no reason to marry a man that you have no connection with. I know that you may feel that you owe this to him because of the time you have invested into the relationship, but that is never a reason to marry someone. You will know it when you meet the right person and the fact that you are asking this question leads me to believe that you already know the answer to your question. Best of luck to you! |
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Roger N
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You are going to run into "connections" all of your life.
What defines who you are, is how you honor your commitments. |
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batmantis1999
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You've got to follow your heart, even if you think it's crazy!
If you're questioning this, then either way you should definately say no to you current boyfriend.
Marriage is not something you want to enter into with ANY doubts. |
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JENNIFER C
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you need to follow your heart, just remember lust will fade |
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Schwinn
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You're not ready for marriage. Don't commit yet. |
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BabeHeart
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Life's a gamble...whatever decision you make, give it plenty of thought and then don't look back...you don't want to spend time regretting not having made the other choice. |
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skabow♥
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Go with what your heart wants. Do you love your boyfriend? Because if you do - never leave a guy you love for a guy you like. |
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jonni_hayes
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if you are not ready to commit to your boyfriend then do not say yes..... |
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Deb S
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No. Don't give in to what is probably lust! Give it some heavy duty thought so you don't regret whatever decision you make! |
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Tissa
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never give up the on you love for the one you like... |
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channien y
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If you're questioning yourself, then the definite answer would be no, neither are you ready nor in love. |
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mrsknowitall
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I wouldn't, I say go with what you know this could all be an act to reel in the bait then what you got some freaky Jason psycho killer stalker on your hands. |
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richardz74
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Say yes to marriage, but cheat. |
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M T
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Dump them both, you're not ready for marriage if you have to ask. |
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☆ Heavenly ☆
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This is really tricky and I think you are going to have to do some real innersoul searching. I think you should really think about this and make sure that this new guy is the one you want. Don't marry your current boyfriend until you really settle this. You don't owe him to be married to him becuz you've been together for years. He deserves better than to be married to someone who doesn't love him. Also you owe yourself to be happy and a marriage without love is not healthy. If the love is gone then end the relationship before you go into another one.
Also things to consider with this new guy is what exactly are you feeling.
Is it love?
Is it lust?
Is what you feel for him more or less than what you feel for your current boyfriend?
Does this new guy feel the same towards you?
Whom do you see a future with?
The answers to these questions might help you in deciding what you want to do. Think about it.
Good Luck. |
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SST
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If you are even thinking about it.... then you already know the answer to your question.... getting married when there is a question, what is the world comming to? |
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halloweenbride97
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No. You need time to think. Sounds like you knew the proposal was coming & when it did you got scared. This would be a classic rebound romance & you would wind up regretting it.
Stay with the person who has been with you all these years. |
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jessica g
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A engagement is not set in stone- if you were married then it would be a diffrent story. Accept ur bf's proposal but also before you marry him find out if this other guy has your heart the way your bf does. if your feelings are stronger for this other man then let your bf know. Be sure though because you dotn want to lose your bf over some stupid affair. Be friends with this other guy- i am not saying to sleep with him or anything |
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UVRay
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Don't give it ALL up, just tell your bf that you can't marry him right now. It's not wise to marry when you have those types of feelings for someone else. If he loved you, then he'd understand that and give you your space until you have decided. |
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single&happy
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Dont say yes if you already have doubts because if you have doubts now you always will. Trust me! |
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miyshoe
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Don't give him up, but tell him you need some time to figure if you're ready to get settled. |
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jas l
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I think you should tell your bf that you will keep thinking. Tell him you still love him but try not to upset him. And im not sure if the new 'connection' is really a connection...I mean, you just met and...being best friends is better. |
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heion
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I'm the new guy in a current situation that mirrors this exactly. I still say that if you really love the old and if you feel that that is the best decision than work it out. On the other hand timing is everything, it doesn't sound like its your time for a relationship with either. Stay friends, the one your meant to be with will get you. Just don't mess up and sleep with one of them before that happens unless that's your decision |
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Baby Luvy
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You shouldn't give up years of a relationship for a guy you just met weeks ago and you don't even know if he likes you. Stay with your current Boyfriend and seee how things work out and if it wasn't meant to be you guys won't stay together/ Good Luck with your choice :) |
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Mark
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do not say yes unless you're prepared to keep that promise to God first and foremost. If you don't believe in God then don't bother believing in marriage because you're going to need Him to survive marriage... trust me on this one. |
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Mau
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Your boyfriend just ask you to marry him, why are you wondering about another guy, you are probably afraid of commitment, one thing is for sure, either you love your boyfriend or you don't, so marry him or not, that's your decision. |
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manda
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Marriage isn't going to make a relationship stop being "on and off" again, it's just going to make it worse. You know what it's like with this guy, go with the one with the connection, otherwise you may spend your life regreting seeing what could have been. But either way, don't marry someone that you don't already have a stable relationship with. Tell him you need more time atleast. Good luck! |
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sharethalove
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Seems like you are between a rock and a hard place. Well, you say you love the guy who asked you to marry him and then you say that you met someone new and its like he is your soulmate. I can see that the new guy isn't going anywhere if you can help it and the current guy needs to know that you are having doubts about marrying him. Just be honest with both guys but if you heart is telling you the 2nd guy is the one then get to know him better and let your current bf know that you need time and space to sort things out. God Bless but it seems like you already know that the 2nd guy is who you want. |
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Daiquiri Dream
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You are pathetic to leave a man you knew several years for a stranger of 3 weeks.
I bet if you were already married to your boyfriend, this new guy would be the one you would be cheating with, right?? |
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Manda
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This "new man" seems perfect because you don't know him that well. You have been with your BF long enough to know all his faults. That is why this new guy seems so perfect. I am sure that if you spent enough time with him you would see that he probably isn't as great as you think he is. I think to throw away a relationship over someone you just met is a little premature. You really need to sit down and reevaluate your feelings for your BF. Decide if you really want to be with him or give this new guy a try. If you do decide to give this new guy a try, please do your BF the courtesy of breaking it off with him first. He obviously loves you enough to marry you and to go behind his back would be cruel and unfair to him. |
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toyman
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Yes you should! Not because this is something out of a romantic movie but because you will always doubt in your mind whether you married the wrong man. You need to find out which guy is Mr. Right.
Good Luck! |
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