My bf and I have been together for 10 yrs. Can anyone give me one good convincing reason to get married?

doug h

sounds like 10 years wasted. should have been married along time ago

toyman

No! If you are both happy then God Bless You!!

wizjp

If something happens to one of you the other has no say in their care.

MaggieMay

For one... If one of you die, you will not receive anything if you depends on one anothers salary, etc.

For Two . . . That certificate means alot when it comes deciding factors

For Three.. IF you dont feel like its right, Don't have people tell you what to do....

Good Luck,
CosmoMaggieMay

BoxOfRocks

There is no reason to get married. If you guys have lasted that long obviously you two do not need marriage to make everything official.

chris_in_pdx

Well, if one of you has health issues, the other person can't legally have any say in your care. If you buy anything of any value together, you'll have to have it ironclad in the purchase agreement that it belongs to you both. Basically, it's a formalization of your relationship, but if issues like that aren't important to you, then there's no reason to get married.

RedRabbit

Only if you want to. Some people just prefer not to.

KelCee

How you feel

Mark

show intent
joint tax returns
medical insurance
firm foundation for children

peace.ofmind

um... tax redux? if you guys are fine with not being 'husband and wife' then get a civil union, you'll get a reduction on your taxes at the very least

ahmed

well if u both love each other alot then theres no reason why u shouldnt get married only if u want to then go ahed if u dont dont itd ur life u control it no one els has the control to tell u anything its ur decision

Jersey Boy

Marriage is the promise that you are bound together both legally and spiritually. If you have children, they are more secure in knowing that there parents are committed in marriage and should one die the other will be there for them.

Mean Carleen

If you and your boyfriend are cool as you are, there is no good reason to get married. G'luck!

ILoveSk8terboyz

Well one of you could die in moments, does it scare you that the fact is u guys will never be able to be one. You guys are two and what if u brake up, you just wasted 10 years of your life!! though what if you die he can just go and be with someone with not having that same affect of I do

SG GAL

Give me a reason why you should not get married?? What is holding you back from tying the knot? The answer if there...

chickey_soup

You both want to.

momma b

Morality and tax deductions, health insurance.

If you have lived together like that in California you already are.

HuntersMom

Love.

T-baby

10yrs maybe

furrryyy

If he hadn't married you by now, marriage will never happen.

Sweet Lilies & Lavender

you have given him 10 years of your life, and he has not yet asked you to marry him? wow, I think that you need to ask him what is keeping him from making it offical. Many say that a peice of paper should not matter, however it does matter. Every girl wants to have that special day.

daphine_h

Well, One. You will share your last name with your son,
Two, Your blessings will abound,
And Three, You will have a spiritual connection and intimacy that only marriage can bring.

I know, I lived with my husband five years prior to marrying him. I have never felt closer to him and we are coming up on our third anniversary.

Holiday

I always thought a good reason to get married would be to celebrate the love and commitment between the two of you.

l3al3y GiRL

HUH?? You guys have been together for 10 yrs and one do you want more to hear to get married

dory

Hey there I think if you are happy with life as it is then you should just leave it at that. Unless you want to legalize your relationship for your kids( if you have any) or for someother reason. I think what matters is that if two people are good with each other then it is not necessary to enter into marriage for the sake of doing it.

AnswerGuy

You may be married already and not know it.
Marriage does change the dynamics of a relationship in inexplicable ways. Many marriages after lengthy "dating" periods like yours, end quickly in divorce. You should get married if either of your consciences feels violated, which doesn't seem likely.
As previously stated, you should check with a lawyer in your area and have some estate planning, living will, and other documents drawn up to protect your interests if incapacitated or dead. You want to protect your kids and property from probate.
Some cultures would consider you married already. Your state may consider you in a common law marriage.

carriegreen13

Honey, he will ask you to marry him when he wants to, if you keep pushing the issue, then you are pushing him farther away from you.

I want you to think about this, I had a friend, who was dating this guy for ten years, and the reason why is because she thought that one day he would pop the question, so on the tenth year, she asked him, and he said he had no plans to marry her.

They broke up, and then she found another man who wanted to get married also.

If he is stringing you along then maby it is time you really have a heart to heart talk about where your relationship is going.

Willy

IF IT AIN'T BROKE DON'T FIX IT
That little piece of paper means nothing
being happy together does

CNote

Not enough info, does he want marriage? Do you want marriage? actually your question gives nothing to work with because there can be many factors at work with your situation.

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