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rorybuns
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Huh, the fact that he admitted it says to me he's a very honest person and probably wouldn't do it again. Do you feel like you have to dump him because society tells you so, or do you genuinely just feel you could never forgive him? Everyone makes mistakes...
Not saying it's okay that he cheated. That would blow my mind. But sometimes people just mess up. Ending your relationship over one (big) mistake just sounds rash and you might regret it 10 years from now. |
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brother_lu
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you've been together for 7 years and haven't gotten married yet, AND you're trying to conceive BEFORE you get married...
i think it's time to move on.. |
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bigandbadforever69
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Well be apart for a while, take some time to think. 7 years is a long time but he did cheat so its hard to say whether or not go back, Id say think for a while and really come to a clear decision. |
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Mindi
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Its SO OVER you should be thankful that it happened now and you guys DONT have kids together.....
Leave his cheating ***
ONCE A CHEAT ALWAYS A CHEAT!!! |
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shizuku.tonderui
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I'd say goodbye him immediately. I've got many friends who have gone through the same thing, a few of them stayed with the boyfriends, and it only got worse.
nml is right, dump him. He CHEATED on you.
CHEATED. |
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wish i was an heiress!
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once a cheater, always a cheater.....run! |
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got_ip
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Dump him there are too many people out there. It's prob, not the first time it has happend nor will it be his last. Cheaters are cheaters. Seriously respect yourself and move on. He does not think highly enough of you. You deserve better! |
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Mary Guernsey
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leave him |
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gotrice22us
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just remember you did nothing wrong and let friends ad family be your support. if he did it once he'll do it again. stay busy, mourn a little then move on, enjoy life and know it's never the end.... commencement the ending of one thing and the begining of another |
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ig0tdabest
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although i know how hard it is to be alone and leave someone you know for so long, but once a cheater always a cheater. do something good for yourself and leave him. you will forever have this scar on your heart regardless of the quality and quantity of his apologizes. im sorry your unable to conceive, but you would not be able to raise a baby in an unstable, questionable relationship. do something good for yourself and get out. it will be difficult--lean on your family, friends, co-workers and on yourself. start to live life for yourself, do things you love to do, live YOUR life and youll see someone MUCH better will come around. GOOD LUCK! |
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bgee2001ca
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Move on with your life, if he did it once, he will do it again. |
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asia
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break up, u don't want to marry a cheater, since he cheated on u already, he will do it again and again, hope that helps. |
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mim
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I just got over a 6 year relationship. IT IS REALLY HARD,BUT IT GETS EASIER EVERYDAY! hAVE FAITH AND TAKE CARE |
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SteelRain
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I'd bet most people wouldnt throw out 7 years because of one mistake.
Just my 2 cents. |
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Jill
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dump him! |
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bobo
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You have to search your soul on this one and really be honest if this is the first time you think he has done this. If so, why do you think he did? Is the pressure of the relationship gettng to him? You definitely need enough space to evaluate the situation. Just forgiving him on the spot is really sending a wrong message. It was an incredibly selfish thing for him to do and I"m sure you feel confused and dizzy over the whole situation. A bigger question is - if you felt like you could trust him and get over it - why were you so relieved you were not pregnant. Your gut is telling you something, you really need to listen. |
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princsara6
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i have never been in your shoes but i just wanted to say if it as me i would go back on the pill and get away from him. after 7 years hes gonna do that to u that's no fair to u I'm sure u r to good of a person for that kinda crap! i hope u will find some way to deal with it....good luck to u! |
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♥Šωèé†Ãé♥
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Yeah been there done that! When I got cheated on after 5 years, I just kicked the cheater to the curb and never looked back. I went back on the dating scene and found someone else right away. |
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sarah! [me love]
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you go girl! this man is not for you. this boy has lost your trust and if there is someone out there that he thinks is better than you, then he is so not the guy for you...the right person will never do that to you....he will care about you and love you. nobody else!!! i hoped that i helped! |
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firefly
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you need to think about what's best for you. give yourself time to get over him. don't have contact with him, avoid him. you know yourself better than anyone, if you feel you cannot trust him then it's over. to get over it, stay busy, hang out with family and friends, just have fun, and know that you didn't deserve being cheated on. |
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that hot chick
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I gave up on a 8 year relationship that should not have gone on that long. We had a child together that was 3 when we broke up and that was the only hard part. I didnt want a broken home for my child. I can say that although it was rough for a while I stuck to my decision and over time things go easier. The mistrust that you have for a person never really goes away. You may even forgive but you never forget, and that's a horrible way to live. Good luck. |
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mz_thang
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oh i am so sorry to hear that, and i cant imagin how devistated you are = (
Look you wont be able to trust him anymore if you have been together for 7 years and you thought it was forever and he goes and does that its horrible and weak.
Ive never been in this situation and i wouldnt ever want to be cause i cant imagin all these emotions that you are going through.
You deserve better and you cant be with someone who would betray you like that, especially when you were trying to have a child!!
I wish you and the luck and happiness
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punxsutawney phil
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You seem to be doing just fine. Be grateful that you found out the love wasn't real now and not later. There is no need to ever trust him, or see him again. Be careful not to assume that all men fall into the same mold. Put it down to an error in judgment and keep trusting yourself, despite the error. It will all fall into place one day. |
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Shelby
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I am sorry this happened to you. My ex and I were together 10 years. (broke up 2 yrs ago) I am back in college getting my bachelors degree and working, did some traveling. I am dating an incredibly loving and gorgeous man now. I never thought I would be this happy again! Focus on getting yourself together, get some hobbies, things to keep your mind occupied. Best wishes for you. |
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Grant M
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This is probably the hardest decision you will ever have to make..... How can you be sure that in the seven years he hasnt done this before.... You are very fortunate that you did not conceive... The rug has been pulled out from under you and no you cant forgive him no matter how you try... And trust nope... I even tried counciling..... Just move on you seem to have a good head on your shoulders. Just Gitter Done..... ASAP Good Luck... I do wish you love.... |
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Lupita
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#1 what makes you so sure that this was his first time?
#2 Why do you think in 7 yrs you are not married?
#3 Perhaps you will get through this and be with him forever like you thought.
#4 You posted in the wrong section, as you are not married.
#5Why are you trying to conceive before marriage?
just some questions to ask your self |
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Kitt
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Obviously you don't hold 100% of his heart. I was with my boyfriend (who was separated from his wife when we met) for along time and he went back for the kids - we now see each other weekly. We are so in love, but he is there for the kids. Wrong, but life is not that easy. You will never be able to trust him again - you deserve better than that. There is another man out there that will love and respect you and never, ever cheat on you. You just have to find the one. When you have someone's heart, their total heart, then it will never be an issue. |
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Dani Bosco
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I am with brother and Mindi. Thank GOD you didn't concieve. I wouldn't let him touch me again. MOVE ON and you will be fine. Maybe this isn't the first time.
BTW I divorced a cheater I was with for 15 years. I can tell you when you are slapped with the truth it is heart wrenching. I now am in the best relationship of my life with Mr. Wonderful. You will be alright!! Have faith. |
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Josh
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I truly am sorry for what has happened to you. My ex and I of two years broke up just a couple months before I had an accident and lost my leg. Just remember you are healthy and still have life, be thankful. You may not think so but life will get a whole lot better. |
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RedRabbit
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It's over. He can never be trusted again. Dump him. |
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