My boyfriend has been unemployed for 12 weeks now any ideas of how I can cheer him up and motivate him?

Mr W

Get him to go back to his high school times and think of what he really wanted to be when he finished school. Then take small simple steps that will build up his confidence with that subject.

E.g, if he wanted to be a graphic designer, for say, advertising, get him a copy of photoshop and find a local tutor or something and then you can easily go freelance once you have the skills needed.

Just find what he is interested in and even if you dont like it, atleast try to show interest in it as well. Make it a team thing.

The Dark Lord

show him the movie 'slum dog millionaire" and he'll realize that he is not the only one who is jobless and troubled and besides when he'll realize that his condition is a lot better than the hero of the movie and the kids in the slums and besides he is lucky to have a caring gf like you:)

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I personally have been unemployed for more than a year. Besides the unemployment I had another problem. So in combination of two problems I was upset, I was depressed, but I realized that when you are not in a good of frame of mind-you definitely can't find a job.For the beginning of my recovery I started to exercise and going to yoga classes.I started coming out of my house, going to places with my husband, which bring me joy. Places that don't cost money-forest, gardens. Then I decided to finish my bachelor degree, so I am going back to college. Meanwhile, I am still looking for a job, and try to be in a good spirit.It did work for me, may be it might work for your boyfriend. He definitely needs your support.I can see that you care about him, therefore you are asking this question.

Onewingedangel

A couple of the answers on here are awful!!! Do people not realise how hard it is to find a job right now and just how much competition there is?! It took me two months to find a job over Christmas and soon I will be looking again, it's horrible and so depressing, I can't blame your partner for being down about it all sometimes. It sounds as though he has a big pride - hence his reluctance to take advice, but it is nice of you to try. Just know though, I too used to have a 100% success rate in interviews until I lost a job last year due to the recession, it is a LOT harder now!

You're going to have to accept that he's going to be down for a while. It feels awful to rely on other people, especially the people we are used to supporting equally, and it's no wonder his confidence is shattered. The best thing you can (and is what my boyfriend did for me) is just keep telling him that everything will be okay. Don't let him panic about money, and don't pester him about it at all (which I'm sure you don't).

He is bound to be doing his best to find something, just as long as you are there to love and support him, but make sure you stay outside of the situation, try not to let him associate you with the job situation.

I used to snap at my boyfriend when I was looking to, it didn't mean I didn't love him. It just really is so stressful.

I hope he finds a job soon!

zScorpion

As a guy who has been unemployed for a few months now i understand how he must feel sometimes. I honestly feel very down sometimes too. I think its something he has to find motivation himself to do. Often i gain motivation from spending quality time with my girlfriend. Since you have no power to help him get a job i would suggest showing that you accept him with or without one.

free_angel

Stop feeling sorry for him and tell him he better hit those streets and get a job. And do not loan him any money or pay his bills.

Denver

There is nothing you can do. There are jobs for people who want to work. Let it go. The only one to blame is himself for his situation.

burke48186

tell him to get off his butt and get a job, a job really gets your spirits up even if it is just a menial job of shoveling cow manure, you at least feel you have some worth.

WKDPIXY

You are trying to be a good girlfriend but it doesn't sound as if he cares too much about your feelings to be a good boyfriend. Since the day he got laid off he should have been up at day break - showered and dressed and out looking for a job until the day he finds on...no sleeping in or watching tv all day or playing video games...get off his hind quarters and find a job to support himself and not fall into the sofa and expect a woman to pay his way...if he has done nothing but make excuses then you need to face up to the reality that he is settling to be a bum and let you pay his way...There is always man power and day labor and all kinds of temp agencies...bad economy or not, if a person truly wants to work - there are plenty of jobs to be found...

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