My boyfriends wants a baby but I don't think I'm stable enough?

The Fat Man

He's at least as sick as you are.
You both need help and the very last thing you need at this point in your life is to bring a child into the world.
Bad idea.
Bad idea.

don't do it. you're definitely not ready.
think of the child.

...

you dont deserve to have a baby, youll just f*ck its life up, face it, you will

kittykatsback

I really hope this is a fake post.

Really I do.

You are NOT mother material, probably never will be. He is trying his best to make you "normal" in his eyes. Babies make things harder, NOT easier.

xx Julie xx

how can you have a baby when there is no honesty and no stability. Let your head rule your heart on this one and for your own sake get clean. I wish you the best of luck and be honest with your boyfriend

bunny

Maybe it's time that you come clean with the truth to your boyfriend, so the this matter and others do not rest on deceiving one another...Bringing a child into this world is the biggest responsibility you will EVER have. You owe it to yourself, to your significant other AND a future child, to be COMPLETELY clean, COMPLETELY well in an open, honest, loving relationship <hopefully married as well, for a child deserves to loving parents!> No one can do any of this, BUT you, so please think about all this because you are already self-checking yourself and recognize the fact you're not ready for these reasons.

A good life starts by being open and honest and getting your health back. I believe by your message here,you have a ways to go and need to do better in this regard for a longer period of time before you even consider conceiving.

If you feel your relationship is based on having a child, then there is something less than solid about your guy and his love for you...

Think these things through clearly dear, listen to your heart, you know what is true and what is not - start today by acting on a truthful basis in all regards with him and let the "cards fall where they may".

Sincerely,

Grace

~*Honest Blunt Opinioner*~

you're right your not in the right frame to have a baby, you may have miscarried the first time, but you weren't willing to quit for your second baby. so no, don't have children if drugs are THAT important to you.

mamamia

NO WAY NO BABY NO HOW!!

THEY WILL TAKE THE BABY AWAY FROM YOU IN THE HOSPITAL IF YOU ARE USING ( THEY TEST BABIES FOR DRUGS RIGHT AFTER BIRTH)...TELL YOUR BOYFRIEND YOU HAVE RELAPSED AND ARE USING....NO BABY NOW..GET BACK INTO REHAB....

MARRIAGE
STABILITY
MONEY
HOME
JOB
TRUST
HONOR
COMMUNICATION

BEFORE HAVING A BABY

Bangle

You're not ready and you should never have a baby because someone else wants you to. I think you need to impress on him that having a baby is a lot of work and is stressful and is more likely to make you slip back into old habits and undo all the good work that you've done together. You need to reassure him that you do want a baby in the future but really can't handle one now.

DolceDancer

Please don't if you're using your baby will be born a drug addict. And if you feel you're not ready then your not. DON'T TRY FOR A BABY. And be honest with your boyf about not being clean, please.

JAS

Even without the drugs, you two are too young to have a baby. It's a crazy amount of work to raise a child. You should be enjoying life for yourselves for awhile before you tie yourselves down with a baby.
Your boyfriend seems like a caretaker type of personality if he keeps sticking with you with your drug problems. So his wanting a baby to take care of makes sense.
I know this is a decision only you can make.... but, please, please, please get into and stay in rehab!!! You can have a wonderful life with this guy who loves you so much. You deserve a good life, you know it. It won't happen if you keep up with the drugs. I will be praying for you because I know how hard it is to quit.

msdoss2b

Dont have a baby! People should only have kids when both want one! you wont be happy if you 2 do this now! just tell him that your not ready and if he wants to know why tell him that you are 19 yrs old and you both have the rest of your lives to have babies! Take it slow

phil750

ew! 13 and 18! he should be in prison and you shouldnt be thinking of having babies!

Unless you want your baby to be born a junkie aswel then don't have one. If you have a baby now, and you carry on using heroine, which lets face it is highly likely, you baby WILL be born addicted to heroine, guaranteed,
My mum's a midwife and see's heroine addicts like yourself day in day out, she says it's heart breaking to see these tiny babies (their small because of the drugs) screaming their lungs out because their so addicted to heroine and getting withdrawal symptoms.
You sound like a decent person, so please don't have a baby, not yet, don't do that to a baby.

Jonny D

are you asking this question twice incase u get an answer you want to hear ??

look my cousin is 22 years old and was / is a heroin addict .... her bf was a complete hero to her but we all knew better and he pretty much pressured her into having a baby at 18 and two months after the child was born when the baby took up her attention and he couldnt be the center of her attention and got everything hi own way he packed off now she went back on the drugs and has 3 kids now at 22 and is a complete mess

ask urself do you think ull be a good mother and provide a future for that child alone without ur bf if so and if u are clean do what u want but ive seen this to many times .... girl on drugs has baby with b/f ..... b/f leaves girl..... girl goes back on drugs and childs life will be ruined please please donr be selfish do what is best for a child not you ...... you said ur parents didnt care well doing this and being like you are bringing a child into that world is n different and please tell me what the bloody rush i had a child at 20 im 27 now and theres a lot of things i would have loved to do

hopeless

Please please miss don`t have a child just because your boy friend wants one. Be sure you can cope before falling pregnant please make sure you want a baby. And are well clear of drugs as kids born to drug taking mothers are suffering from drug with drawl soon after they are born. So please think of little might.Don`t do it to keep your relationship alive. Here wishing you every bit of luck good luck in kicking the drug habit.

dawnb

You are not clean and he wants a baby out of wedlock. Does this seem to you to be the best environment to bring a baby into? I don't think so. Take birth control pills or use other protection but don't bring a child into your messed up world of drugs.

Aria

Stand your ground. It's really not fair to a child to bring them into the world when either of the parents isn't ready to take care of them.

teresa j

Do NOT have a baby. He may be a great guy but you are in no fit state to be bringing a child into the world and you shouldn't feel any pressure to do so. Tell him it's a definate no at the moment - apart from anything else you're still quite young for having a kid even if you didn't have other problems. Slap an implant in your arm immediately (but do tell him you're doing so!!!) and concentrate on yourself, not him. Oh and stop lying to this sweet, good hearted guy about being clean. Either get clean and do it properly or admit you are not. good luck with everything.

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