My fiance has a baby mama straight out of the 7th ring of hell... custody questions...?
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My fiance has a baby mama straight out of the 7th ring of hell... custody questions...?
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My fiance had a child with a much younger female about 5 years ago. Since they broke up, because she cheated on him after having the child, she has gone to great lengths to ruin his life. She comes from a great deal of money in her family, he has to work for every penny he has. She has expensive lawyers, he does not. When she filed for child support, she failed to mention that he had supported the child's every need up until that date, when the child was 3. This automatically placed him owing back child support of $5,000. He works a minimum wage job. He can't afford anything.
He loves his daughter, very much. He would do anything for her. He is trying to pay this money so that she will let him see his own child. She is emotionally unstable, takes loads of prescription drugs, and has recently even told his daughter to call him by his first name, and not daddy. She is pregnant again by some other guy, and she just up and out of nowhere thinks she can tell her 5 year old daughter, who knows who her father is, to call someone else daddy. Sorry to go into so much detail, but this person just blows my mind with the amount of anguish she puts this child through just to hurt the father of her child. She is a heartless, immature, irresponsible brat. She has met and gotten herself pregnant, with another man. She is asking that my fiance sign over his legal rights as a parent of his child. She already doesn't let him see her, so I don't see why he shouldn't if anything to not have to pay the child support. I know, please believe me ~ I KNOW ~ that is just a horrible decision to have to make, signing over your rights to your child, but my thoughts rest on reality. I've currently got a court case open because she was stalking me and threatening my life so I had her arrested. This person is not mentally stable, and now she's having ANOTHER child. It's sad. Let me get back to my point though...
My question is:
If there is some sort of Mediation between the two, and he does agree to sign over custody, is there any way at all that he can have visitation rights? I know this is a long shot, but there has just got to be a better way.
Also, another long shot, but worth a try: Is there help for the light pocketed when it comes to legal assistance when you're being harassed by your baby mama? She makes constant whining phone calls, asks for money even though she needs to wait for her check, tells his daughter to call him by his first name, tells his daughter to say goodbye to her daddy cause she's never going to see him again, I have to know, is there some sort of pro bono work lawyers do when baby mama's need to be hypothetically bit** slapped?
Thanks for any help you can offer!!!
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Blonde Wife
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You are calling this woman immature and irresponsible, yet your fiance has a 5 year old child and a minimum wage job? The child support he is paying will not even come close to paying 1/10 of everything this child needs.
If he is so great he should have gotten government grants and gone to school at night in order to get a job that might actually allow him to feed his kid.
He is a bad father and a worthless person.
If he has court ordered visitation and she isn't complying, she would be in a lot of trouble right now.
You're jealous and a drama queen. And it is so painfully obvious that you begrudge the two peanut butter and jelly sandwiches that your fiance's child support puts in his daughter's mouth. What a sad excuse for a woman you are. |
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lilly
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Tell him not to sign over his legal rights or he can kiss his legal rights and visitation goodbye.he should keep fighting for access to his child he is the childs father and she will want a realationship with him someday and he will be granted access someday.i hope he sticks as it is his daughters life he is fighting to be apart of |
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Candycorps
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Hopefully, your fiance isn't thinking to sign over his rights just to avoid paying child support because that's not going to work. You should try getting social services involved because the things she says counts as verbal abuse. I have four half siblings whose mother said the same things to them and although we all all adults now, the emotional scars are very deep and there is alot of resentment and anger. If your fiance does sign over his rights than he needs to be prepared to deal with the anger that this will cause his daughter when she grows up hearing "your daddy didn't want you" for the rest of her life. My father had to make a similar choice with my half siblings and like I said, that will leave a mark. So yeah I really hope your fiance isn't thinking about this just to avoid paying child support. |
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Garnet Glitter
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There is her side and his side...the truth always lies in the middle and I suspect that is the case here.....he can always appeal all court orders and file a complaint if the mother ignores any court orders herself. It's always easier to whine about a situation and point fingers rather than DO something...think about it. |
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fredia
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do you know this woman personally? or do you only know what your finance has told you about her? there are two sides to every story and i believe you're only hearing one. do you have physical proof to back up the slandering accusations against her?
i'm a "baby mama"...how intelligent that sounds.
my first ex-husband had money and two high-profile divorce attorney's...all i had was a public defender.
i was awarded custody and child support. the court will decide in best interest of the child.
all your fiance has to do is go to legal aid and retain counsel. if he thinks she's such a bad mother, then he should go for custody...why would anyone in their right mind want to leave his child with a woman who's a compulsive liar and abuses prescription drugs?
if your fiance wants to go for visitation, the amount of child support he will pay will be based on his minimum wage job.
when i had my third child (by a third "baby daddy"...just like your "baby mama" here in question) i had this dead beat father sign over his parental rights for a thousand bucks.
this mom can ask your fiance all she wants to sign over his parental rights, no one is putting a gun to his head to make him sign anything. statutes vary state to state, and i don't know what state the child was born in. usually, the mom and dad have to have been married for the dad to sign over parental rights. were they ever married? was she underage when she gave birth to the child in question? if so, better hope her expensive lawyers don't try to go for statutory rape charges. |
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regjoeschmo
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He needs to stand up for his rights and call her out on her prescription drug use. There is loads of support for people in this situation (you may contact me for references or even said support)
Remember just because he signs away his rights does not mean he is not going to be obligated to pay support, many people have tried to take this way out and it only causes them to pay more support because they never spend time with the child.
DO NOT TRUST THE COURT EMPLOYEES!!!!!! The system is funded by taking advantage of non-custodial parents (both genders) through SS Title IV-D legislation, they will do whatever they can to increase their budgets!! |
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