My fiance has forgotten my birthday...?

Troubled

Don't take it too personally, he didn't do it intentionally. People say that it's a man thing but honestly its not just men. My husband remembers our aniversary every year (even when it slipped my mind a time or two) But he's not to good with b-days and to be honest neither am I. I generally forget my brother's b-day and I was there the day he was born LOL. Just remind him. And talk with him then set up a calander and circle all the b-day's of friends and family to help remind you both. This is what my husband and I do and it works wonders.

Just Me

There is a reason he forgot....I wouldn't blow up with him but I would ask him why he forgot.

cntrylady012006

play dumb. tell him to quit teasing you, you cant wait to see what he got you so show you now. he should get the hint, and to save face go get you something. dont be to hard on him, its a guy thing.

Slartibartfast

Hi Jenny,

I'm afraid us guys have terrible memories.
I've been married 42 years and I have never remembered our anniversary once.

ihave5katz

My husband and I have been together for 14 years, married 12 of it. He never remembers my birthday, and I can't remember what day our anniversary is on. I never remind him. it's not that big of a deal.

lily

Typical male!!!! The only time they remember is in the first year when they are really in love with you... after that it is all down hill. But whoa be you should you forget their birthday!

pixi_doll

I'd bring it up in a subtle way, it could be that he's planning something big for you this weekend, but you might try putting it inot a conversation slyly. Like oh soandso was so sweet he sent me an e-card! Okay so maybe that's not subtle but you get what i'm saying. If you don't hear anything from him by this weekend though feel free and even obligated to blow up in his face.

life is

hopefully its just a blip in his brain cells - do tell him but in a kind way without yelling and throwing anything at him- hopefully he will make it up to you

Sleek

Just tell him. You're hurting too much to play games and wait. Some guys just don't think that way.. .you got one of them, girlie!

mia2kl2002

Oooooooh. That's kind of a major thing. His family may be the kind who don't make a big deal out of birthdays.
Talk to his closest female relative. Mother, sister, somebody like that... let them know what happened, and ask them to put a bug in his ear. If he still does nothing-- then get used to not having very exciting birthdays for the rest of your life. And that puts you off the hook, too. He will not expect much on his birthday, either, right?

Iâ™¥â™«â†’miaâ˜¼â˜ºâ€

greeneyed_angel362002

honey I've been married for 10 years and my husband doesn't know my birthday or our anniversary either just remind him.and don't be mad or hurt it's a guy thing.

soconfused_42

just make it sweet and dont be too pushy... leave hints .... he will realize it himself... he loves u! may be hes just trynna get u hyoer by playin hide n seek.. may be hes goinna give a surprise...

John D

get over it

Professor Snape

just relax every one forgets birthdays you should tell him and he will say sorry and you might get a special gift tomorrow

Jennifer J

Leave a b-day card from someone else out on the table, casually. then let him beg.

The_Hundreds_is_HUGE!

Tell his friend to tell him its your B-Day, So that way you don't have to yell at him.

Big R

i would wait !!!

in the mean time I'll take you out where would you like to go !!

cutiexpie101

wait a little and if he doesnt remmember then give him a hint

I would wait a minute then tell him as nicely as you can that he forgot your birthday. He will definitely have to make up big time for that. Happy Birthday!

di12381

Talk to him. After 4 years together and a promise of marriage, I think you owe him the talk.

mpicky2

If it's the first time he's forgotten your birthday, cut him some slack. Hum the happy birthday song when he's around, see if he gets it. For your sake, I hope he does.

davbig2

forget his birthday

PikC

so common, so male-like. They just don't seem to "get it", esp. after the "honeymoon" is over. He won't have remembered, so don't bother remind him - I'd just do my own thing after this !

~*Jenny*~

Aww I am sorry My hubby has never forgotten my birthday out of the seven years. You need to talk to him, and let him know that he should never forget your birthday, so that you guys can celebrate. By the way Happy early or late Birthday. Hun.

gettin'real

#1 Don't take it personal, it really is a guy thing.
2. Have a friend mail you a card a couple of weeks in advance & prominently display it.
3. Write it in large red pen on the calendar.
4.. Definitely handle it with humor "Honey, how would you know it if you forgot my Birthday?" If it's still coming up, a post it note on his rear view mirror "2 (days/hours/weeks) shopping days 'till Birthday time!"
My smartest friend learned after a few years of getting her feelings hurt to stop expecting him ever to remember, and to not take it personally. She will say to him "I know you aren't doing anything this afternoon except going down to the mall and picking me out a real nice Birthday present liket this, or this, or this". He appreciates the reminder, and actually picks great stuff for her, even clothes.Waitng is just setting yourself up for hurt and won't bring about a happy result.

Batman has left the building

damn that is not right. no you need to tell him that it hurts. relationships are about communicating, and if you are held back on this now, would it be eaiser down the road to express all feelings? Do it patiently and lovingly, but don't hold it in - my opinion anyways.

sexy_mom

Hi Jenny.... Welcome to the real world. Men do not forget boxing matches and lots of other stuff. What they do forget however are the intimate details we want to be remembered for.

I know you are hurt, just dont take it by heart, he cant help being himself. But I suggest you remind him and tell him your feelings. If he is the kind who takes your feelings by heart, he'll make it up with you, promise.

By the way, I hope you had a blast!!!! Happy Happy Birthday!!!!

roddy

I would probably wait until he mentions your birthday before saying anything. It is your birthday and we do expect for our family, friends, and significant others to remember this special day. However, give him some credit---it may not be what you think which is the worst. There is an acceptable reason. I'm sure of it.

livin_it_alone

throw lil hints and it willhit him like a ton of bricks and don't get mad u will jsut get a great gift!!! I for got my hubbys and i been with him for 10 yrs lol . it happens ,life comes at u fast these days but don't let it question ur importance to him. subtle hints like ..i must be getting a good gift..or look what i got from so and so..jsut act as if u know he is plannning something big.he will come clean and feel bad prob but that isn't what matters. men or woman we arent perfect all the time. god bless u

Brains & Beauty

You've been together for 4 years...engaged for how many? Perhaps he is planning a surprise ...has he actually pop ed the ? and given you an engagement ring? If not you're probably not going to wind up marrying him he sounds thoughtless and you deserve better! How are you going to feel when he forgets your wedding anniversary if you do settle and marry him? Past behavior is a good indicator of future behavior...

Have fun with him. Make sure he'd never forget by making this small thing something that he would regret for the rest of his life! You: "Ahem... honey, when is your birthday?" Him: "Can't believe you forgot!" You: "You remember mine?" Him: "Well... oh, it's tommorrow." You: Give him a fun beating, and say, "Never forget again."

Enter Your Message or Comment

User Name:
User Email:
Post a comment: