My fiance wants me to stay away from him!?
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My fiance wants me to stay away from him!?
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I am engaged to my fiance who i love with all my heart, i have been with him for 3 years. I was with my ex partner for a long time and he is also friends with my really good friends back home, i will always have a place for him in my heart as he was always there for me but i don't love him & my fiance knows that. My fiance & i are going back to my hometown for a family party and he has asked me to stay away from my ex. I dont know how i can do that and still see my friends with him there. Do you think he is being resonable or what should i do? I dont want to cause any drama or anything.
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Angel's Wings
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He's your fiance, so try to respect his wishes on this issue. For whatever reason he is not comfortable with you being around your ex, so make whatever arrangements you need to stay away from him. |
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Love my kittys
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I think you should stay away. Just my opinion. Try to think how you would feel if it was a woman that he was involved with, and he wanted to hang with her. I would think your friends should be able to make time to spend with you away from your ex. |
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♫ Mad Luv ♫
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Well i would call first and ensure he isn't going to be there!
what is more imporant to you!
your fiance or your friends from home that you can call at anytime!
who are you planning to spend your life with.. You might not be able to see all yourfriends
small price to pay for added trust to your man!
VERY SMALL! only say this because any FRIEND will and should understand this! if they don't then i would guess to say that friend don't care as much as you would like to think they do! |
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Katie
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He is being 100% reasonable. You have a romantic history with your ex and it's inappropriate to be "friends" when you are engaged to another man. That's just putting yourself in a bad situation.
Bottom line, who do you respect more? Your fiance or your ex? This won't be a problem if you take your fiance out when you go out with your friends, as you should now. |
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angelcdm228
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i don't think it's unreasonable for your finance to want you to cut ties with your ex, i wouldn't want my hubby hanging out with his ex. if there is no way around seeing him at this party, then tell your fiance that you can't stop him from being there, but that you won't go pal around with him, nothing more than a friendly hello and chit chat. and make sure your fiance knows that he will be by your side when that happens. just my opinion...... |
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Mrs.P
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If you love and respect your fiance you will stay away from the ex or your fiance will also be an ex. |
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*. Bre Babe .*
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Can't have your cake and eat it too. You want a husband start acting like a women not a little girl. |
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China Doll 3
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Stay away from him. |
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Jamie
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What your fiance means is don't spend any alone time with your ex. And I mean ANY alone time. NONE.
If you betray your fiance's trust, you can kiss your upcoming wedding goodbye.
This is a test of loyalty, and if you disobey a completely reasonable request from the one you love, you have no reason to be trusted. |
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concerned1
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Look, if you love your fiance and are truly over your ex, stay away from the ex. This is a normal request from a fiance whether it be the soon to be husband or wife. He doesn't want you around a person that knows every nook and cranny of your life and especially body. Just move on from the ex or honey, there will be drama. |
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Jery E
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aww come on,you TOTALLY want to cause drama. don't lie to us. |
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Just Me
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Concerned1 is absolutely right. I may be mistaken, but I don't think for a moment that your fiance is saying don't be with your friends. I believe he is saying see your friends apart from him. I have friends that have broken up with someone and married. When he is in town and sees the guys and their wives or gf's we don't include his ex. It's no big deal and everyone simply understands it would be uncomfortable for his spouse (and him) and we do things without the ex. The ex understands that the wife does not want her their and does not want to be in an awkward situation and knows she can see the rest of the group anytime. If the ex were to say hey I want to come over when he is there, we would all look at her odd, like why do you want to cause stress in their marriage (e.g. you have broken up and everyone has moven on).
The way I look at it is this...if this is to be your life partner, why do something (needlessly)that you know would hurt them. Do you need to see your ex? NO. Is the only way you can see and have fun with your friends back home with your ex there? NO. So, your fiance's request is neither unreasonable nor burdensome. Why would you consider doing something you know is hurtful to the one you love? Your ex is part of your past, leave him there (in the past). I can't imagine that if you asked the same of your fiance he would do anything but agree to your request. |
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liason
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i think if it is in a situation like at a bar or gathering where all of your friends are i think it would be fine. it would be rude of you not to say hello.
but if you planned on meeting him somewhere i would say no |
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