My fiancee got mad at me saying I treat her like a child. You be the judge please?

the_news_junky

Good luck finding your new girlfriend

Give Blood

Good grief! Grow up!

Emoja

Yes, you were wrong. No one should have to say "Sir" to you unless you're paying them for their services. What you should have done after she stopped responding to you was say, "I'm gonna let you go sweetie. It sounds like you're tired. Call me tomorrow okay?" And let her go.

Mrs_Jester

Is she your daughter???? You are an a**hole for even thinking that she need to say sir to you. You don't deserve respect!!!

Becky x]

Did you say 'so I told her for the rest of the conversation she would say "yes sir" or "no sir" to my questions as a sign of respect.' in a jokey way or in a serious way? because if it was serious that might of pissed her off...

and maybe she was just really tired.. :/

Scott

Sounds like you were the one being disrespectful.

vaneza4_7

lol you're psychotic. going to sleep is NOT a sign of disrespect she's just sleepy. respect the fact that she's tired. if you want your FIANCEE to call you by "sir" then dont get married, get a slave.

juliette

I do think you were wrong. Your fiancee was obviously tired. She didnt want to get off the phone with you because she loves you and wanted to talk or hear about your day. She cant help it if her body couldnt stay awake. Even if she was wrong for sleeping on the phone you handled it wrong. You should have said hey I want to talk and if you dont than we should have hung up you shouldnt say you want to if you cant. She is about to be your future wife you should be honest about your feelings not trying to "teach" her respect. Your reaction was just as disrespectful maybe even more.

Steve from PA

Dude shes not ur kid, she wanted to keep talking to u even though she was obviosly tired..U sound like ull be documenting the mileage on her car every morning before work and after...

Shay

well if you were joking about the yes sir and no sir, she shouldnt have blown up and she was just probably tired. but if you were serious i'd probably be mad too.
haha but if she fell asleep on you i can relate. i went to the movie theatre with my bf and he got off work and he said he wasnt tired, but 5 minutes into the movie he fell asleep and was snoring the whole time....it was embarrassing. hes not my bf anymore :) oh and he fell asleep on me over the phone too. jack ***

Han D

okay she isnt a little girl she doesnt have t sa yes sir or no sir it dosnt matter your about to get married anyways beside when your married and you go around in public with a wedding ring well wearing one youll say (example) I'm glad wer'e married, are you glad? some people heard you say that and look at you guys then she says yes sir im glad wouldn't that sound wrong?

ana

ok so i guess you were joking bout the yes sir stuff ...but i can see how she would get annoyed because she was taking it as a joke then u got kinda serious ....cuz it seems like she wanted to stay on the phone just to hear u breath ..i used to do that with my boyfriend to ..it was a long distance relationship....

sarah

Yeah she totally deserves to be treated badly, if she's stupid enough to stay with you.

Jas B

Respect is something you earn not something you have a right to, how can you expect her to respect you when you treat her like a child or I would say like a servant, if you do not respect her why should she respect you.

What makes you think you have the right to order her to do anything let alone call you sir. Your behaviour was controlling and bullying, I would have told you to take a hike, permanently and hung up.

Superman

wow, you are unfortunately very much in the wrong here. it would definitely be upsetting to have her falling asleep on you but a better response would have been to say "ok, you're falling asleep, we can talk tomorrow" or even lie and say that YOU are tired but what you did was much more disrespectful. you weren't wrong in being upset, you've just got to know how to react mate

cheers

Crystal L

I'm shocked she even did the "yes sir/no sir" crap 3 or 4 times, she's obviously MUCH more patient than I lol. Joking is one thing, but from the sound of your post you seriously expected her to call you sir. News flash: she's not your child! In fact, if you keep this nonsense up she'll be your ex. It's strange to me that you would even take her falling asleep as disrespectful in the first place. She obviously loves you and wanted to hear your voice despite how tired she was. Stop being as controlling and crazy as you sound to be and learn how to appreciate your fiance.

bestadvicechick

You were absolutely wrong in this situation. You started out doing the right, kind, and loving thing by simply asking if she needed to go to sleep. She was TRYING to be sweet back by staying up to talk to you but when she realized she couldn't stay awake, yes, she should have said something. But you, as someone who loves her, should have been more loving and realized she was just being nice. You should have said something like "sweetie, it's obvious that you're really tired and it's ok.....let's just talk tomorrow, ok? that's fine!" That would've made her feel like it was ok to get off the phone w/ you. Instead, you definitely treated her like a child and not an equal. She wasn't being disrespectful for falling asleep....she was being HUMAN. Next time, try being more thoughtful toward her by not talking to her about things late at night when you probably know what times she goes to bed!

Alex.

No effense, but I would have gotten mad too. I mean seriously?
Your fiancee shouldn't have to be THAT respectful to you, you're not her dad. If you were joking about the yes sir thing, then maybe you should have made it clear in a certain way so she'd know. But If I were you, I would tell her you were joking, even if you weren't. Say you're sorry. YEAH you're definately wrong.

-Sorry=P.

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