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Gypsy Red
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If you know that she is cheating, you must know a little about where and when. If this s true, arrange for him to be in one of those places and find out for himself. My best friend knew my husband was cheating and it killed her but she didn't tell. I don't know how I would have reacted if she had told me. Part of me thinks she betrayed me by letting this go on without telling me and another feels like I really didn't want to know anyway. You have to judge what you want your friend to put up with before you let him know.
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Papa Bear
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I'm just curious, how did you discover this? Maybe you could follow her and take a picture of her with some guy and then mail it to him from another town. Or just leave him an anonymous note typed on a computer. I thnk its best you do your best to make sure he doesn't know your the one who tipped him off. |
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Elley
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I feel bad for you, this has to be a rough situation. This is going to sound a little crazy, but would it possible for you to get pictures of her with other guys? If so you could mail them anonymously. If not, I wouldn't say anything to him unless you have concrete proof. Most of the time the person being cheated on will find excuses, and the only way to truly convince them is by showing them the proof. Once you get the proof you need, type him a letter, do no say who you are, explain the situation, and maybe sign it 'someone who's been there' |
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Forlorn Hope-only 5 suspensions
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create a disposable email address and email him... :D |
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julia d
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friend is a friend. I would always tell them. Just tell him how you feel and how you know. |
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italia2
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Yes, you should if you value him as a friend. Anonymous might be the best and give him plenty of details which he can check out. |
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Na say der
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Most of the time, men are found guilty or suspicious of this activity.So, it is basically up to you deep down inside if you want to spill the beans.........Women get away with a lot of crap and never get in trouble, yet the the man is always haunted and persecuted for it.....Do what you got to do! |
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masha
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Tell him in an anonymous note! |
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Hikari
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try to see if you can get pictures or video on her cheating so you have proof and send it to him by mail or something just don't let it show that you send it to him just act surprise that would give him motivation to get a private investigator to see what hes wife is really doing. because no one deserved to be cheated on and if a friends knows about it, they should tell that person or make a way to open that friends eye.
hope this was helpful |
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Dudette G
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try to find some one or some other way to tel him
but you should really tell him because that is not right |
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Leather and Lace
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How do you know she is cheating? If you have absolute proof, send him an anonymous letter with the proof. |
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justme
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He probably already knows but doesn't want to accept it. Just be there for him when he does find out/and or confront it. Don't be a gossip monger. Just a friend. |
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Man in Black
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Mind your own damn business. Unless you have been in the room watching her f*ck you don't know for certain what she has been doing. Why don't you grow a pair, stop acting like a junior high girl, and confront the wife if you think you know so much? Oh, yeah, you're scared! Grow up and act like a man. |
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realwrekonizereal
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All i have to say is this, if the shoe were on the other foot.. would you like to know the truth? I think if you have any respect for the man (cause his wife doesn't), you should man up and tell him what it is. It is much worse for him to walk around with pie on his face while his wife to deceive him in such a way. Any true friend would go out on a limb, which is very hard to find nowadays with such negative people. |
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gamedude0000
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Hes your friend, "bros before ho's" |
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10caratdiammond
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Honestly I can imagine Yourr concern...I think that you should tell him but tell him with out him knowing its you. you should tell him becausethat'ss your friend...do you want him hurt? noe if you can not tell himdiscreetlyy then don't. you are right, she may try to get back at you if she is that kind of person.
So here are some Ideas...If you have a camera phone Snap the Pictures of her cheating....send them to your email, save to the computer under simple names like pic1, pic2 etc....then send them to a email your friend does not know about (One that you created through YAHOO that has a false name and does not hint at you for example ButtercupJanedoe@yahoo.com or some ID that you create and email the pictures to him.
or print the pictures and drop them off at his home when he is there and she is NOT there.... But your friend should know he deserves better...good luck |
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catswimmer
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Tell him. Get someone to support you that is not involved in any of this. You could try anonymous, but would she really come after you? I'm guessing he would file for divorce and she wouldn't want to do anything that could show up in court... |
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eight-hours
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Sometimes things are not as they seem. I have been on the receiving end of false accusations.
Mind your own business and if there is any truth it will come out in the open without any help from you my friend.
And you never know what goes on behind closed doors that for sure. |
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♥ LIFE!!!
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I know the best advice is to stay out of it, but I'm putting myself in his shoes, and if my friend knew my spouse was cheating on me, and withheld that information, I would feel even more betrayed than I already do.
Maybe you should confront her, and tell her that she needs to come clean. Wait about a month or two, and then if she doesn't then tip him off.
I think staying out of it is beneficial in so many ways, but in the end, are you really standing up for what's right? Sometimes taking the right road isn't always the easy road. |
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Breeze
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Tell the wife you know, and demand that she sleep with you or you will tell her husband.
That way, you kill 2 birds with one stone: you get a piece of strange, and you won't be tempted to tell on her, since you'll be just as guilty. |
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Nancy M.
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You should stay out of it. I can understand why you want your friends husband to find out but if you are wanting him to find out you can always get a typewriter and do a letter to him. Do not put your name on it. Take the letter to a different city and mail it. Hopefully, the woman will not know that it's from you and then she will be after you. You can also tell him over the phone by disguising your voice. |
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Slide Ways
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Dude this is a no brain-er. You have to tell him not matter what the consequence is. Just think if the same thing happened to you wouldn't you want to know. |
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Sui
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this whole thing of wanting to tell him is so your moralitic opinions, u dont know what is really in their relationship and u cant judge from outside. so leave them alsone and let them figure out their own equation. anyways who are we to judge people. |
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lmb
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DO NOT TELL HIM!!!!!!! |
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Kat
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This is a tough one. ..if you are really good friends with the guy then he needs to know. Think if the situation were opposite and he didn't tell you but knew that your "wife" was cheating on you. Do you know for sure she is cheating..? or did you just hear about it.. do you have proof? or is it hear say information you would give your friend? You want to make sure its a fact and then figure out a way to let him know.This is something very serious and life changing information that will cause alot of pain in his life but if his wife is out there messing around on him and he doesn't know it..that's going to really hurt him when he finds out later..usually it comes out anyways some how. If you are really sure he is cheating and know its a fact then make a fake email address or something and tell him that you are someone anonymous who wants to let him know that his wife is cheating on him and he needs to look into it. If you are not sure..and its just a "rumor" then don't do anything because then you may cause alot of drama and it might not be true. I personally would tell a good friend because I couldn't just sit there and watch it happen. I don't want to ever hurt my friends but I surely don't want them being hurt either by someone . |
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kids
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just my opinions is that do not tell to him, i think he can check by himself,
if through he know about those,, his wife will attack you and some things happened,, just you have to wait and see again,,
do you know that love is only one,, if his wife do not love husband .who he too know,,
but i know your concerning of your friend of life ....but,, you must wait again,,.. |
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Fire Dad
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He's your FRIEND tell him, face to face that's what a friend does good or bad hard or easy be a friend a true friend. How will you feel if he gets HIV and you could have prevented it. If your one of her conquests then your not really a friend and never were!!!!!! |
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rpetch007
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aron you must get a friend to tell him someone he dose not know.. that way your not involve in it.. |
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ABH86
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i see the situation your in, and your right about everything....if i were you i would have a different guy write a love note to her and describe what a wonderful "night" they had together....make sure you use a name she has been with before, and also make sure you put something personal in the story that she has a habit of doing or a story a lot of people dont know ( to make it more believable)...and plant the note somewhere you know her husband will come across! it's that simple....and no one would know it's you...not even your buddy. |
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I'm tired of being serious
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Mind your own business.
If anything, you should confront the wife, and tell her you can't stand to see her hurt your friend, and tell her she should leave him if she can't be up front with him, but have evidence so she knows you know what you're talking about.
BUT if you are wrong - and you make false accusations and cause discord in the marriage - it will be YOUR fault. And how do you know they don't have an "arrangement?" Maybe he doesn't care if she gets some on the side on trips, and doesn't want to know? |
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