My hubby held a gun to his chest....?

ymingy@sbcglobal.net

He's manipulative and destructive and this isn't doing you any good. Call the police, tell them what happened. You don't want to stay together for the wrong reasons, and this way he'll get the help he needs and you get the divorce you want.

And which side of the chest was the gun pointed? His heart, or just empty lung?
Also, next time he offers, take the gun, see how scared the look on his face will be. Then, with the gun, proceed to call the police and tell them your ex husband's being an idiot.

Spiked Coffee

He has no right to hold you emotionally captive. He needs therapy; you need out.

Ontheotherhand

File for divorce. I doubt he'll kill himself, but that's HIS decision. Allowing him to control you with a threat is silly. By the way, if you don't sleep with me, AND give me all your money, I'll kill myself. Would that work? Of course not. Whatever reasons you have for wanting a divorce, are just as valid now. Call his juvenile bluff.

Amy J

Have him get some help - admit him to a psychiatric facility. If he won't do it voluntarily, call the police and see if they can help you. Then, maybe when he is more stable, then you can separate. He is being very manipulative with his behavior. He knows you don't want him to die, but he is hurting and he needs help.

gummi bear

call his family, tell them what happend, then pack your stuff and leave. see if one of them can help him out. it's unlikely that he'll actually kill himself, but better to have them aware of the situation.

calif_dad.4ever

The first thing is to keep both you and him safe physically, and then healthy emotionally. Therefore, take the following steps:

1. Call the police to report the incident NOW (not in 5 minutes). They can advise you on what your options are to keep him and you safe.

2. Find the gun immediately. If you are able to find the gun, give it to the police. If not, call them anyways, as in step 2.

3. Contact a therapist immediately and explain what happened. You might have to try a few therapists before you find one that seems to help you but it will be worth the effort.

Don't kid yourself, if he was willing to do that last night he is very capable of hurting (or killing) you and himself. It may be hard for you to understand that because you've been so close to him, but all the signs point to a potentially dangerous situation.

For your sake and his, start with step 1 NOW!

Juggalo

hes totaly nutz call the police,the next time this happens he wont be aming the gun at him self but at you,do somthing now b4 u get hurt or killed...

Lil mama

throw away his gun or if you can just move out and let him stay

renee s

tell him to get help,call a therapist to help or a family member to help out with keeping him form doing that again..it sounds to me like he does love u and does not want to leave and yes the whole gun thing was not the right way to tell u that but he may be so mixed up he does not know any other way to express his feelings,my hubby has mixed emotions disorder and before he got help he did get a Lil crazy but he never hit me or our kids he just put a lot of holes in the walls,but he better now and so is our marriage cause he got help,tell him to go get some help then u need someone to talk to and then y'all can figure out if y'all wanna stay married or not but at least if he has had help he will have a clear head to make a decision,good luck and i pray all goes well for both of u.

thunder_kok

thunder_kok says leave if the douchebag offs himself that's his instability and not your problem

Brandy S

Leave him...NOW!! I the way I see it is the guy is a idoit, and he was trying to make you feel sorry for breaking up with him. If he was going to kill himself he would have done it last night. And by trying to put the gun in your hands that saying that he isn't planning to kill himself anytime soon. You could always hide the gun so he can't, or call the cops and have them there while he is leaving so he don't do anything stupid.

marieandlucaspape

Tell him to do it. It's all a smoke screen. when my husband and I were having problems, he'd do the same **** to me. But, when it came down to it, he wouldn't do it. Your husband is doing that because he knows if he does, your gonna stay with him, same as my husband. Good Luck. Maybe you two can work things out, we did and we are better than ever!

vampire angel

This is a true story: My cousin was a police officer. He was in his late 20's and his wife was also a police officer. He did something like you are saying a few times and his wife kept staying because she felt bad for him.
One day I was watching the news and they were saying that a police officer was holding his wife and baby hostage in their home. The wife was able to escape with the baby out a window but the husband was still inside with a gun to his head.
As I kept watching I saw my Aunt and her family standing outside of the home calling out to the person inside.
And you probably already guessed it was my cousin. This went into the next day and he did kill himself. He was really a good person but had issues with depression.
Your avatar says you are a nurse....so I know you know what to do...

BoRiQuA_MaMi

u should stay away from him. he's dangerous. throw the gun away.

roonie

He sounds crazy you need to divorce him and get him help
He sounds like he may become a stalker and hurt you or others GET HIM HELP

GirlinNB

Call the police. Have his guns taken away, fill out a report, then call for some major psychiatric help for him. It's that or you'll live like that forever in constant worry about him killing himself, you or someone else.

mom2csm

It soulds like he definitely needs some counseling...get him some help

fighter06_xtina

wow thats terrible.... are u the only one that wants out of the relationship? if he was off balanced enough to pull a gun out..then he might one day pull it out on u or maybe result in some other kind of violence. i would get out at the most non violent time... maybe sit down in a calm mood.... just dont try and do it when he is hysterical! oh god im so sry for u... i wish u the best of luck.... maybe u should talk about it in a public place so that there is help around if u need it.

AresIV

Um, wow... see the police. Then a therapist.

I'm just me

If you have to call the police to get him out of the house. That's emotoinal blackmail and he's doing it so you'll give him the response you just did--to let him stay, to tell him that you'll work things out. Sounds like he's very unstable. Do NOT let him get to you. It's hard, I know it is, but 9 times out of 10 people who tell someone else about wanting to kill themselves don't ever do it. People who really want to be dead...simply do it. Those are the notes you find. He wants attention. It's called emotional manipulation. And upon reading one of your responses, I wanted to add that you cannot let someone else hold you reponsible for their death. The only person responsible for a suicide is the person themselves. You are NOT responsible, in any way, shape or form.

Tell him exactly what you told us, that you care about him and you most certainly don't want him dead, but the marriage is over, you want a divorce, and you cannot allow him to stay in the house any longer, especially after what he did. Be nice but be firm. And if tries it agian, simply go to the phone and call 911. He's trying to scare you into letting him stay and it's working. Don't let him get to you, honey.

(((HUGS))) to you. Here's hoping you find peace soon. :)

luvs2play06

duh stay together what else can u do?? or if u want u can call the mental hospital & admit him without letting him know

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seperating can be hard..if he wanted to end his life he prolly wants to stay with and not give you up

brandiwhine

I think he is just using his instability as an excuse to keep you with him. He's not going to kill himself, if he were he would have done it. Get out of the relationship before he turns violent towards you.

i love my son

if you want the divorce get it stay away from him if you have to let your lawyer do the talking for you don't let him hold that kind of power over you

You need to get into counseling now!!!! No matter the cost! He has some serious issues and it sounds like you care about him. Most marital problems can be resolved, it just depends on the work you are willing to put into it. Call a crisis line and talk to them about what happened and they might be able to help you figure out a way to help him. I also suggest maybe hiding the guns or having someone come get them and remove them from the house for awhile.

RUAQT?

Run before he kills you both.

Ms. GTO

GET OUT NOW!!!! Before he decides he wants YOU gone and pulls the gun on you. Sounds to me like he's a manipulative SOB.
He may yet kill himself. He is most likely very spiteful toward you, and most suicides are born of spite. Anyhow, you need to get the hell out of there before ONE of you ends up dead.

glw

he's just trying to scare you. he's not gonna kill himself.

Smooda 1119

I would have to say first you need to find the gun and hide it or get rid of it. Second you can't stay in a relationship like that. It's time to leave. I agree depending on your relationship with him, try to talk with his family and let them know what happened. If you can leave then you should. If he pulls the suicide bit again I would politely call the police and have him committed because that is not normal. It's about control. Now he has what he wants but you are miserable. I was in the same position and I let that situation alone. That is not love or respect.

daanzig

That man needs some professional help. Get it for him immediately. Next time it could be you at the end of the barrel instead of him...He is trying to manipulate you through threats and in no way should you feel sorry for him. Report this incident immediately to the authorities. Nothing but bad can happen from this. There is a reason you want the divorce so stick to your feelings and let him go and in the meantime have him get his head straightened out. I assume you are a nurse and you have contacts that can assist you in this situation

sparklesevilcarebear

get out now. he may be trying to scare you but who is to say he wont point it at you and pull the trigger. and when you leave get a temp restraining order against him.

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