My hubby says i have a problem?

hayley m

sumtimes u have 2 sit back & look at what u have is it love or just having sum1 there or not! 2 wrongs dont make a right but i think u should have sum time out go 2 a very very very nice sister 4 a while make time 4 u let them get on with it xxxxxxx

Savannah

why are you married to him?

rosierotweiller

i had the same problem with my husband in the end i gave him an ultimatum your mates and the pub or me and the kids.
he did choose me and the kids but if he hadnt id have been well shot of him cos i wouldnt want to be with someone who had no time for me or my kids cos that says a hell of a lot to me.

starlet108

Men like this dont need a wife they need a house maid. Sadly I have seen this before and often they dont change xx

neinmom2one

Why are you married to him then? Was it like this in the beginning? You need to find other things to do while he is out with his friends. Maybe he needs time alone to decompress after the work week, even though 12 hours is excessive.

If he doesn't want to spend time with his wife and children, there is a problem. Either he needs to grow up or he isn't happy being at home.

Spirited

Sounds like he has his priorities all wrong, yes everyone needs their own space sometimes, space to hang out, but when you get married and have kids your first priority is your family, and he's neglecting that fact.

Maybe you should sit down and talk to him when he's not out and not been drinking and explain how you feel and how the kids need his time too, and if that doesn't work with seak family counselling or issue him with an ultimatum. You work 24/7 with the children, he needs to bare some of that responsibility and he needs to give you time and attention too.

And no I don't think you should do the same, because it would be the kids that suffered, not him.

Hope things work out for you x

skillman

simple.
either he changes or get rid.

short sharp shock and let him know you mean it.
the second he thinks your bluffing he will play on your weakness.

plan 2.
encourage him to go out as much as possible with his mates.
it wont be long before he starts thinking.

jo_g

get yourself a hobby and pretend you dont care what he does anymore

ribena

Tell him: "Dear, I am off with my mates next weekend. Don't ask me with whom, nor the time I'll be back. And yes, the roast dinner will need doing, and the kids will need bathing etc. Enjoy". He'll soon think twice - if not - your marriage is doomed. If he loved and respected you, he would stay out with his mates for less time and spend more in with you. He married you, not his poxy mates.

spatz

He seemed to be immature to me. All this time working and NO time for his family on weekends? No get rid of him,maybe he has got a gf alongside.

yumpypop

I have the number of a good solicitor if u want it??

kyle g

find a hobby then you won't be focused on him. without the attention maybe he will realize that he misses you.

molly

treat him the same way
whats good for the goose is good for the gander

goldstcy

Make plans to go out. Leave before he does, that way he
has to make arrangements for the sitter. Stay out later than hubby, so he has to pay for the sitter. He just might
get the point. Whats good for the goose is good for the
gander !

spaceman

............... this is going to be the pattern of your life ................ change it now ................. day will come you will have to sit in the veil ................ change ..............

monkeynuts

go out with your own mates - he'll soon realise 2 can play at that game and stop treating you like a doormat.

leighlouise2000

i think he's got the problem not you, have you tried talking to him? if he continues then play him at his own game, i wish you all the best

rach

First of all you don't have a problem. There is nothing wrong with wanting him to spend time with the family. You need to figure out a way where you's both get what you want. Maybe one day a weekend should be family day where your whole family spends time together doing something that you all enjoy. The let him go out with his friends the other day, or invite them over for a bbq or a get to gether. That way he is with his family but still gets time to have a social life. He has to understand that family is important as well as friend. Try to expalin this to him. Good Luck and hope it all works out for you.

jo w

play him at his own game, see how he likes it. (i bet he wont) then tell him whats good 4 him is good 4 you !!! go girl.

mamaexfour

YOUR HUSBAND SAYS YOU HAVE A PROBLEM???? GET A SITTER AND GIVE HIM A TASTE OF HIS OWN MEDICINE!!

Bryan M

Your not the one with the problem, your totally in the right for wanting to spend time with him, and I think it's wrong that he's being so selfish and not wanting to spend time with you. I can understand why you hate the weekends.

I think if you can get him to go, marriage counceling would be a huge step in the right direction. Because he needs to get his priorities in order, he needs to stop thinking so much of himself, and start thinking of you, your feelings and needs, and also about the kids. Because if he's treating you this way, when your kids grow up, they are going to think that it's ok to treat people the same way.

Hope that this helps.

Take care and God Bless.

mentallyill

Give him a taste of his own medicine, when ge gets in from work on a friday nite just be ready to go. make arangements to go and visit a friend leave him with the kids!

He'll soon start to respect you

sounds like he has the problem and he doesn't want to be at home for some reason or other, try talking to him ask him y he doesn't spend time with u, was he always like that? if not something in your relationship has changed and he probably doesn't know how to handle it and the best way for him is to keep away.

assassin

get a lover - he has

ronnny

Either just leave till he see's things your way or spend the time he wishes to spend with you busy at doing things with your friends.

ste53

Ask him if hes a homo

alec c

ASK A SILLY QUESTION. PERHAPS YOU SHOULD BE DOING ALL THE THINGS U MENTION ABOVE. LOL

your hubby has the problem maybe he shouldnt be married it sounds like he wants to be single again so maybe you should let him. if he doesnt want to be with you and your family tell him to go live with his friends and see how he feels when he thinks your not going to deal with it anymore

Jim B

Dump him and find a mate that appreciates spending time with his wife.

sugar n spice

i know hat you mean. have you tried talking to him when he is at home about the situation? if so and he isn't listening then you need to give him space and do your won thing until he eventually realises what he is missing out on.

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