My hubby was 33 and slept with my 17 yr old babysitter 2 times while i was out earning the money for the?

nwnativeprincess

YOU HAVE ALLOWED HIM TO GET AWAY WITH IT TWICE, IT WILL CONTINUE. DO YOU NOT HAVE ANY SELF RESPECT??
SOUNDS A LITTLE PEDOPHILIC. YOU SHOULD BE VERY CONCERNED THERE ARE CHILDREN INVOLVED.

victoriap69

sounds like a no-brainer to me, girlfriend. once a cheater always a cheater victoriap69 ;-)~

shae

If your truly thinking about your kids you would have walked out that door already. Your children will grow up and learn about your husbands behavior (it's a pattern) and see how you've tolerated it. Your setting the wrong example for your son on how a woman should be treated and for your daughter on how a man should treat a woman. If you truly want the best for your kids you need to get them out of that environment. Good luck!

tallerfella

SO you are staying with him because of the kids. Want them to grow up in a house of lies and cheating? How do you think they will turn out?

Leave him. Once a cheater ALWAYS a cheater.

Find some one who respects you and himself.

mml619

why should you leave, throw his *** out. 17 ?? YIKES! i am sure her parents would be thrilled! He is scum and will not change. move on, you will be fine. your kids dont need a role model like that in there life!

GrnApl

Tell her parents.
Kick him out.
He didn't just have an affair with some strange woman in a strange place which would be in and of itself difficult to deal with but he violated the sanctity of your home.

dido

You should Leave him, it may be hard to let go and you may think that its better to stay and work it out for the Kids. But you will never trust him again and you will always be unhappy.
Leave him, he ain't worth it...you are the bread winner and you dont need him to 'F' around on you and still expect you to take care of him... Kick him out....

Mike Hunt

Your husband is not only an adulterer, he is a child molester. If he would sleep with the 17 year old babysitter I guarantee he would not hesitate to molest your children if they are female. If you cared about your kids, you would leave him... Even if he wouldn't molest your kids, he is still one sick puppy. I am 24 and I can't IMAGINE sleeping with a 17 year old. YUCK

fortyninertu

If you have forgiven him he may do it again. At 17 year old the girl is underage and he could be imprisoned for statutory rape. As for the kids if this problem has the two of you yelling or not setting a good example for the kids they may be better off with you too seperate. Your kids will see how the two of you interact and then emulate that interaction in their own relationship/

Liz

I don't know how old your kids are, but the inevitable will happen. I stayed with my cheating spouse for 7 years for the kids sake. I could have found the love of my life 7 years ago instead of last year. You need to do whats best for you. I had daughters and I didn't want then growing up thinking what I had was the best they could do. Now in this relationship I can show them what love is and how they should be treated.

And isn't that stautory rape what your hubby did?

iyamacog

Since you're out earning the $ for the family, there's no reason to support him as well. Who says that YOU must leave? He should be the one walking out the door. Believe me, you'll feel much better about yourself, once he's out of your life. Be sure to see an attny, so that he doesnt walk away scott free. He owes your children child support!

jhvnmt

Babysitter: fired!

Finances: Separate!

Husband: reported!

Kids: counselling!

kitkat

Not only is your husband a cheater but he is a child molester. 17 is under age and you should get out of there. Your kids don't need to be raised that it is okay to molest children.

gmconlan

Pack up your kids and leave. Why isn't he at work? And why pay a babysitter when he's at home?

kellygirlaj

You, or her parents, should have him arrested for statutory rape, and you need to get out of this relationship on the grounds of adultery.

Stacy Mae

I'm so sorry to hear that. I wouldn't put up with that though. It's time to grab the kids and tell him to leave.

noonee333

Leave! It may take some time but the kids will be OK. By staying you're enabling him to have his cake and eat it too.

Mindy

your kids would be better off with a happy mom, leave the bum, he should go to jail for sleeping with a minor. Girl go to your sisters or a friend but don't stay because of the children, they should not live in an unhappy home, plus by seeing you be strong they will learn from your strength and not be push overs themselves, that is a very valuable life lesson.

"i will survive, i will survive, hey hey!!...."

freeman3905@sbcglobal.net

well the kids need a father but you are hurting bad cz you can't forget well you have to forget and forgive to go on with him you can let him go but you love him so do the kids forget and forgive thank you for being so strong and good luck to you and the kids

todream65

He needs a kick or two in the balls and a divorce.......seriously, you two needs to find a good marriage counselor or minister to work through this problem...It's too big to go at it alone.

Joesmoe

If he is not doing it anymore then it may be time to let it go and move on for your kids. If he is still doing it, then the kids will be more damaged by staying than if you left.

Annabelle

Walking out is the hardest part. If this is really something you can't get over & you know you have to leave then prepare for it. It doesn't have to be a dramatic scene where you scream & yell & walk out the door. Make arrangements on where you're gonna live, what you're going to do about the kids, money, etc. If you have a plan you will feel stronger & the transition will be easier.
Best of luck

rookie

First off why the hell are you out there making the living. Is your hubby a deadbeat ? You need to tell him he has a choice, either get out and get a GOOD job or move on. You can always work things out about the 2 affairs. Ask him what he would have done if he would have came home from work and found out that you had 2 affairs with the 17 yr. old boy that mowed your yard.

drumrb0y

Why walk out the door? Kick HIS butt out!

Or...leave and take the kids with you.

Or, just call the cops and have him dragged out for statutory rape; that leaves you the house by default.

Ms. Bossy

Honey yes you alway's think about your kid's but you also have to think about yourself, and if you aren't alright and happy how can you possibly take care of your kid's. Don't put it on the kid's you're still there cause you love that man enough to accept the B.S. he's giving you. YOU deserve better and don't ever love a man more then you love yourself!!!! Believe it or not that's what's happening and that's the only reason you are still there because if that man is a real man then he'll take care of his kid's no matter what you two don't have to be together for him to do that. Please don't wait around and learn the hard way that A MAN WILL USE YOUR LOVE FOR HIM AGAINST YOU EVERY TIME!!!!!! AND IF HE'S CHEATED ONCE SWEETHEART DO I HAVE TO SAY THE REST???!!!!!!!!! GIRL KICK THAT DIRT OFF YOUR SHOE AND KEEP STEPPING WITH YOUR HEAD HELD HIGH.

easyboy

I think he should'nt have done that. I can very well understand how you must be feeling. But please do not mind him...please try to forgive him. If possible, speak out to him about the incident when the baby-sitter is not there and let your bent-up feelings that you have been carrying in your heart come out. You will feel more relaxed and the situation will not be sounding so terrible. Indulge always in a dialogue process and speak out your heart to the one whom you love....and say this always that it is going to hurt him but you cud not have helped out without not speaking to him. I think he will very well understand and there will be much better understanding and you will definitely be a more happier person than now. Good luck!

berry

If you are not the strong type you might regret walking out. Being in an unhappy marriage might be better or safer than being out there starting all over again. Search deep inside yourself and ask yourself if you are strong enough. If not, stay.

Ginger M

Honey, don't you walk out the door, kick his cheating a** out the door. He should be reported to the authorities for statutory rape of a minor. Was he thinking about his children when he was with her? I would be concerned especially if one of your children is a girl. if he is sick enough to do that with a minor, then your child could be in harms way. Kick his butt out and notify this teenager's parents. He can spend time in jail, and that will give you time to get your life in order. Do it for the sake of your children. once a cheater, always, and he crossed the line when he did this with an underage girl. This is as decent advice as you will get. Good luck and be strong my sister.

Melia

Your staying in an unhappy marriage because of the kids? Don't you think the kids can sense that you and their dad are not getting along? Kids are smarter than we think.

You cant raise happy children if you and your husband is not happy, so the best thing to do is leave for THEIR sake. You can leave and still have a decent relationship with him. Your husband has no respect for you or his kids really, if he could sleep with a 17 year.

Don't compromise your happiness or the sanity of your kids. Leave.

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