My husband always threatens….?

SwEEtie PiE

next time he does it get him in the car and tell him yawl are going for a little drive before you go call the hospital and tell them to have a Dr outside waiting for your car (tell them what you drive) when you get him to the hospital they will come and help him out of the car so he can't run...this way he can have a mental evilation to see what exactly is going on..

NEVER EVER TAKE THINGS LIKE THIS SLIGHTLY!

Crystal

He is either saying it for attention or he needs to be seen by a psychiatrist.

mORbid FaSi Na TioN

He needs to get to a Psychiatrist TODAY!!!! If not a hospital.
He is VERY sick. Do not take this lightly.
There is something seriously wrong with him, I would say he needs medication.

Good Luck to both of you.

benjamin m

He needs to grow up! If a bad grade on a test is worth his life then god help you when you have children and one gets sick or injured! I personally think he is just doing it to get attention. I have known a few people who have committed suicide-the 1 thing I NEVER heard them say was "I'm going to kill myself" They NEVER said it! So you need to tell him to see a Doctor or to just get on with it already! Call him out, he is being selfish and immature to try and make you feel guilty for his idiocrosies! In fact, get him a suicide help box-fill it with rope, a gun, razor blades, a hose for the exhaust in his car.

George

The people that talk of suicide are generally the ones that don't do it. It is the ones that don't talk about it that you have to worry about. Reverse it on him. The next time the mentions suicide tell him to get a big life insurance policy before he does. Tell him to make it look like an accident when he does so you will not feel guilty about it. These two things will make him think about what he is doing.
Looks like the pressure to succeed is getting to him. Anything you can do to help him be successful would help. See what you can do to help him study. Does he have a quiet well lite place to study? Can you actively involve yourself in his study? Help him prepare papers, question him on assignments, help him interpret what he reads, etc.
The more you involve yourself, the easier it will be for him. Good Luck

life goes on

He needs help , he has to many responsibilities for a 19 yr,old,
try and make life easier for him and do more fun things ,

Jane Marple

Doctor office right now! You're almost held as a hostage in this situation, he needs medical attention asap.

The bit part where he says he's only living for you is the clue that he's not really serious in his threats. It's a bit of a game that gives him attention. It's his way of making you tell him he's smart and good and worthy of something.

MissE

He needs help, he is clearly not in his right mind as yous say he can also be carefree he could be suffering from depression or manic depression.
Either way he needs help. As he is in university there will be school councilors available to him
But you need help as well.You may need to get support to get you through this. It is not uncommon for partners of depressed people to become depressed because of the weight that is on their shoulders and the feeling of not being able to help. You need some way to stay afloat so you can remain who you are and not loose yourself in the situation. If you are at uni as well find the counselor for you to learn about coping mechanisms

Jennifer

You need to get him into therapy..asap. He sounds like he may be Bipolar. If that is the case medications and therapy will straigten him out. Please get him help, he desperatly needs it.

Ann

Your husband has difficulty coping with everyday issues and he is learning that you will give him support when he tells you he wants to die. He feels better knowing that someone cares but you end up walking on eggshells. You are both very young, and it is possible that you won't last if he continues to guilt you for his issues. You do not own his fears and only he can get clear with them. I invite you both to seek professional help, doctor, counselor, rabbi, minister - who ever can help you to see through to his real issues. Do not own his feelings - and do tell him immediately that you can't handle his threats. It is abusive to you and damaging to your marriage. If you continue like this, you will find yourself looking at him with disdain and handing him the knife. Trust me. What is emotional now, will kill your spirit. Don't let him do that to your soul.

mack

I agree with Jennifer. Get him checked out by a Doctor; NOW!!! These are not idle threats.

lilly l

A test is a test , it can be redone . A course is a course , it can be done again and again,and when you finish you will have straight A's. That is the good in all the bad . Suicide is a very serious thing so take his hand and let him know no matter what he will always have you ,and that he is a very important part of your life . That should wake him up . Put some positive things in your friendship and let him know there is a light , a good light at all his hard work. Everyone needs someone and he must feel that there is someone that needs him.

Douglas B

He needs help and if you know all these things and you don't tell anybody about them, suicide hot lines or anything, if he ever does finish the job, it will be like you loaded the gun for him because when he needed help you didn't get any for him. Are you going to be able to live with that? And his outbursts like that are so that he has you in a twisted up mess, he feels he can survive if he's brought you down to his level, that he doesn't have to try harder as long as he can make you feel the way he does. That is not the way people in love treat each other, it doesn't have a ring of love in it. Love brings two people together to feel safe with each other without any other thing doing that to them. He is teaching you how to react for this is going to be the story of his life and you are going to be the wreck for what he does/doesn't do. Can you take a lifetime of that?

K D

Sounds like he is overwhelmed with life. Unfortunately, life can be overwhelming a lot of times so he needs to find a better way of handling. Tell him to go to counseling and you will be willing to go with him if he wants you to.

Think about it... if school bothers him this much, what he is going to be like when you have a mortgage, other bills, and children (if desired) on top of everything else? School should be the least of his worries.

Amber

I used to have that experience with my boyfriend until he grew out of "wanting attention"

I honestly think that's why some people do that when for no logical reason they're doing it. maybe he didn't get attention as a kid, but that's how it was with my bf.

It got so frustrating until I sat my bf down and said Enough is enough.

"Your life only looks bad because all you see is the bad. Grow up, and get over it. Life will always have its "downs" unless you work your *** of to see the good!"

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