My husband and I have become like roommates...?

RomeyM

Seduce him

What the......

Work on your affection...touch him more, snuggle, kiss, lay in bed together more often. Once 2nd baby comes, you'll have even less energy to put into your marriage for a while, so do what you can right now. Go on a date with him without your child.

LALA

In most relationships it isnâ€™t huge issues that are causing the rift but more everyday, mundane things that can easily be remedied with a little effort. Here are a few things you can try to give your relationship a breath of fresh air.

One of the simplest things that one can do to prevent the passion from slipping away in your relationship is to care about your own appearance and hygiene. I mean, you have to care about how you look if you want your partner to care. That only makes sense. Doesnâ€™t it?

Take the time to notice little things and compliment your partner on how they look. Tell them how much you appreciate it when they do something that is normally taken for granted, like cooking a meal or even taking out the trash. A kind word can go a long way to reigniting lost passion. There is a book called, â€œThe Five Love Languagesâ€ that goes over this and four other things you can do to keep passion alive in your relationship.

Sometimes just the idea of a romantic vacation together can help to spark your relationship. Just take the time out on an afternoon and sit together making a list of places that you want to go together. This kind of daydreaming together helps solidify the relationship and make each partner feel more secure, which leads to greater intimacy.

Plan time for each other on a daily basis to keep the spark of passion from going out, and to get it back if you have lost it. Everyone has the same 24 hours in a day and the couples that last are the ones that take time for each other and donâ€™t make excuses.

One of my personal favorites is taking baths or showers together! If you do this on a regular basis it is almost impossible to lose the passion in your relationship. Bathing each other is a very sensual activity and allows you to give to each other while relaxing at the same time. Try it, I promise youâ€™ll like it.

Just because your relationship is starting to lose its passion doesnâ€™t mean the relationship is finished. All of the examples above are easy ways that a couple can utilize to reawaken the passion in their relationship. As long as you still love each other, it is possible to bring back the passion and if you do the things I am suggesting that you do, you will never lose it.

Thomas

You must ask yourself why you're not affectionate towards him (your husband)? think back how the two of you start out dating and go from there...good luck

acmbeauty

It's not a one person fault, its a mutual decision and result. There are many things that you can do to rekindle the passion. You could both get a week off of work and take a vacation (make sure to leave your daughter with someone reliable ;) ), there are also other things that you could do such as dressing up and experimenting with certain lingerie. Is there anything that you two used to do that he liked? I know it's hard to be affectionate wgeb you don't "feel" it, but after you start planning at and going through with it than your moods tend to change.

jessie

Do something out of the ordinary. Place a little note in his wallet so he unexpectedly finds it. Give him a message or a pedicure. Place a rose in the seat of his car so he finds it when he gets in before he's off to work. Dedicate a song to him. Make his favorite meal along with dessert. Take a bath/shower together.......

Denis B

When he's near you, touch him a lot, rub your hands on his upper back, or if he's sitting, rub his neck and shoulders. Touching is one of the best ways for you to show your affection. Cuddle with him when ever you can, put your head on his shoulder, or just caress him.

minoritygurlgd

well for one you just need to have you time... just be with him it doesnt have to be anything big... just a movie on the couch or just be spontainious do something you normally do

Daisy S

have a candle lit dinner and talk pleasantly to him, tell him all the things you love about him. and as for dessert use your imagination. just make him feel like the man for you.

GIA0077

Try to make a atmosphere thats romantic...
Go out one of these days and relight the passion.
Even if you have to out for a whole weekend.
If not their marriage counseling try to get help.

Good Luck!

Stop and Stare

spend more time with him and ur daughter. sometimes u can hire a babysitter and you guys can go on a date or something

I kind of know that feeling, but with my spouse its the complete oppisite. Hes not very affectionate. And Im the one wanting the remance. Maybe make him a nice dinner and then try the longiere. Two things guys like the most.

gingygirl

Talk to him - be open and honest. Listen to him - hear him. You would be amazed at how much just talking - really talking, without distraction or judgment can put new life into a marriage.
Make the effort to fight for your marriage and your love and your husband/family!

splashdesign238

Go back to your first love.

It is very important to also understand, that sometimes without warning, it's easy to fall into life's rut and routine, especially with an already little girl.

First things first: Marriage before children. Before your daughter and upcoming baby, there was you two. And it is vital that your children understand that mommy and daddy are first, "then" comes baby and children. Despite what others may say about that.

On that note, you will need to hire a babysitter or family member and re-establish your personal date nights/family nights, JUST the two of you. Even if it's in the day, when you can do fun activities outside that you both enjoy.

Creating a routine at home, where just the two of you have time to be together without the children is of utmost importance. Have an established night time routine with your existing daughter (we speak out of experience!) and once they are in bed (to stay) then the two of you spend some cozy re-connection time together. You both have to MAKE time to be with each other. Life will not hand that to you.

Romancing your husband is quite different than how you want to be romanced. Communication is your most effetive healing in your marriage. Rekindle your intimacy and closeness by communicating to your husband what you like and ask him to tell you what things he likes. Then, the both of you do those things. That simple. No guessing involved. No guessing, so no hurt feelings.

Make it work!

raddy daddy

Meet him for a dinner and a movie. You might want to consider even looking at the sun set or gaze at the stars while making conversation on how much you appreciate him and what he does for you on a regular basis.

iamhere

Be more affectionate. Its nothing someone can teach you have to realize the intimacy that you are not providing and just go from there. Just remember even the smallest things count. Try to buy a small card [the kind that fits in a pocket] and write sweet nothings and place it in his coat pocket or lunch bag. I did this for my hubby and in a few yrs later I found the same card in my purse he wrote that he carried it around for years in his wallett cuz it meant something to him now I carry it in around and when we hit a few more years I'm gonna take that same card and put it in his suit pocket. Its the little things that count. Good luck sweetie.

robyn

First of all, that is not really the abnormal. I have been with my husband for 9 years, and we have been married for almost 5. Your relantionship will go through changes as you age, and you are a little like roommates because you are together so often. You can try little things to keep the spark going, like if possible, put the kids to bed eary and have a carpet picnic complete with candles. I once put out a blanket on the floor and surrounded it with white christmas lights and candles in the middle. It was a nice change of pace. Whisper romantic things in his ear while watching TV, sitting on the couch. Whisper....you know....private things, like a secret between the two of you. Your relationship has become like a friendship, but that is the most important part of your relationship.

allison b

tell him how much he means to you and how much you need him..............set up a romantic night for the two of you

DOM76

Well change is easy. Relationships do take work so work at it...get affectionate and learn to enjoy it. Get romantical and try new things all around. Be creative and genuinely enjoy each other...

heartsarebad

You need to talk to your husband. Talk, Communicate. He needs to put spark back into the relationship as well. You need to include him itn the revitalization.

Now that the bills and kids and the drudgery of everyday living is now a part of life, you are now ROOMATES.

When you talk to your husband make sure that you plan regular time to date each other and regular activities to do wsith the kids.

helo pilot cfi

HOn change you attitude and be romantic and affectionate willing or someone else will show ur husband the other side of the road

stanleys_2001

suggest DATING again.

And watch out .. for the 7 year itch!

Dulce Mari

feed him. no, seriously, i have been with my husband about the same lenght of time and we both work full time jobs and both have side jobs so our time is limited to the bedroom and the dining table. it is obvious the bedroom is taken care of as you are pregers but try fixing him sweet things he likes, like cookies, brownies, sweets, ya know. also, nothing beats a good home cooked meal. that will not only make him feel comfy but also very loved. i find that by making sure that we have dinner together every weekday and breakfast every weekend, it keeps up focused on us and HE does special things for me. like asks for dates, gives massages, and just in general becomes more affectionate. i too am not much of a mushy person, just because-who has time! but you have to remember its the simplest things that makes the difference.

dinos23381

tell him, from your heart. communication and understanding each other are vital ingredients for longevity. better not wait too long, the 7 year itch is just around the corner. when you get the itch disregard or your through

Carolyn W

You are already on the right track. You are thinking about it. PLan something special for him that does not include your daughter. Go a little crazy with the candles and the flower petals. Plan his favorite meal. Lots of things you could do.

STEBBOJ

simple answer work a bit harder even though your not affectionate compromise and make him feel special it's not hard

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