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Chetco
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He will never stop, and it will only get worse. Soon, he will have you thinking it is all your fault and that you deserve it.
Leave, leave, leave! Before he kills you..Yes, he will kill you or do so much harm that you wish you were dead.
The 'good' times are not worth it. |
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Marina
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He doesn't love you. When someone loves you, they don't hurt you and would rather die than have something happen to you.
I was in an abusive relationship. He hit me three times, the third time he broke my jaw. I am lucky that is as bad as it got. You need to get in touch with a center for battered women in your area. Google it. They can help you. Also, you need to tell your parents what's going on and move in with them. You need to have this guy arrested. You're going to be killed if you don't leave. You have psychological issues and are not healthy enough to see that this is not a good relationship. Love does not hurt, and I'm guessing there is something in your childhood that gave you the impression that it does. You need to get out of there and stay out of there. If you're on Prozac, I assume that you have a therapist. If not, you need to find one that you trust and get some help. |
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♥ ♥HONESTY RULES♥♥
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Leaving IS the ONLY option.
Do it while you are still young, or you will be killed.
Get out of the situation and get some self esteem.
Just read your question and know that it's a horrible situation. |
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They Don't Like Me!
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I didn't even read the details...Leave |
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goingrunningtoday
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The answer is you need to leave. NO MAN HITS A WOMAN PERIOD He is trying to control you and take your self esteem away. Please contact a womwns shelter. They will provide you with a safe place to live as well as get you emotional help and support. You are too young to put up with a loser like him. |
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~NIKKI~
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well if "leaving is not an option" prepare to spend the rest of your life being treated like a rag doll every time he gets upset...jeez have some respect for yourself. |
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vatot7
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leave him before he kills you |
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phenobarbiedoll@ymail.com
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Leaving is not an option?
Are you crazy?
This man is going to kill you. Do you hear me? HE IS GOING TO KILL YOU!!
Get away from him.
Then you can have a man who treats you wonderful ALL the time minus the beatings.
If you are truly serious about leaving not being an option then I have to seriously consider your mental health.
Please leave him! |
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Beck
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My parents got married @ your age and are still together now... My mum has been beat black and blue throughout there whole marraige. It was traumatic as a child and i moved out when i was 16, as they started to turn on me... |
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addddjectives
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'Leaving is not an option I want to take" You MUST go. I can understand that you think your happy moments compensate for him throwing punches at you, but its not enough, I'm sorry, this is a dangerous situation and he will kill you in the end. Leave before you bring children into the equation. Talk to your mother, your friends, don't hide this away from people. It will not change, it will not go away, and the longer you leave it, the more quickly it will escalate. Goodluck and Get out! |
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Cindy's logic
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Stay at your mom's house and send someone else to pick up your belongings. It will not change unless he seeks counseling and treatment. And you should not stay with him while he is seeking treatment. Leave him before he destroys your self esteem or hurts you badly. |
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Annster02
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Wow, you are so young. You shouldnt be having these types of problems at your age. He should never be laying a hand on you. He needs to go to a doctor not you. I understand its for the anxiety but he really needs to see someone to control his anger. I would just say stay out of his path when he/you are upset over something. If anything, call your mother if you are having a bad day or something is wrong. At least you know she wont hit you for it. |
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PANDA!! soon to be mommy!! :)
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it will never change!! sry! this will keep on happening over and over again! your 18 my age i mean u have a whole life ahead of you and you want things to change!? the only way that things will change if YOU change them you are the only one who makes the changes and thats that! if you wanna keep on living lik this and one day die keep on doing what you are doin! cuz that will happen if you keep on dealing with this behavior from him |
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Cheryl in PA
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First thing I would get a restraining order (PFA). If he KNOWS where to hit you so the bruises won't show- you're not his first VICTIM!!!
no typo- YOU ARE A VICTIM!
THAT is NOT LOVE- you don't hurt the ppl you love.
I'd say press charges, but you're young and won't listen.
GET THE HELL AWAY FROM HIM AND NEVER GO BACK
Leaving may not be "the option you want to take" but to live to see 19/20- it's the only choice you have
If your mom knows what is going on and LETS you go back- she has issues as well! |
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projectheartbreak
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I'm sorry to hear this. This sounds terrible. I really can only think that you should get out of that situation as quickly as possible. ask yourself this, Do you really want to be beaten for the rest of your life? And what if one time it goes too far? You could end up dead. What if you ever have kids and he gets angry at them? Will he beat them too? He has anger issues. He needs major major help for this. If he gets help, I still think you need to be away from him for the majority of that time and slowly work back into a relationship. Hitting a spouse if never EVER the right thing to do. |
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Phantom J9 Baby Girl DUE 6-09
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You've been knocked on the head too many times...
IF HE LOVED YOU HE WOULDN'T HIT YOU... ITS THAT SIMPLE.
A man should love, honor and cherish his wife... hitting her does not lover her, it does not cherish her and it sure as hell doesn'[t honor her.
Don't be another stupid battered wife who got out "too late" because you thought he would change.
You obviously have no respect for yourself if you would allow ANYONE to hit you and have the audacity to say they love you. |
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Dizzy Dame
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I'm sorry but I think you need to take a long break from each other before he does so much damage to your head that you end up with permanent brain injuries or he kills you.
While you're apart, please seek the help of a therapist or read books on codependency. There is also the recovery program through CODA, which should help you examine your definition and practice of "love," |
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Liz_B
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YOU ARE GOING TO DIE IF YOU DON'T LEAVE!!!!!!!!!! DO YOU UNDERSTAND THAT?????? ARE YOU WILLING TO RISK YOUR LIFE????? YOU ARE ONLY 18 YEARS OLD... YOU HAVE SO MUCH MORE LIFE TO LIVE! PLEASE CALL THE POLICE AND HAVE THAT A88H0LE YOU CALL A HUSBAND THROWN IN JAIL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! |
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Fallgal
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You can't do this, you don't want to do that - excuses, excuses. Women like you BOGGLE MY MIND. So stay and get beat up for the rest of your life. Is that what you want to hear?
And NO IT WON'T EVER CHANGE, with the exception that the beatings will get more severe. And you're wrong, he DOES NOT love you. Love is not aggressive, abusive, physical control over another human being. If that is what you believe love is, you will always tolerate this type of relationship.
Get out now before you are so broken, emotionally and physically, to ever have a normal relationship again. You are far too young to throw your life away to a maniac.
If my advice is harsh, I am sorry. I have been witness to several women who stayed in an abusive relationship, and the lifetime of therapy it took to get these friends somewhat back to normal.
Guess what? You will find someone who loves you and DOESN'T hit you.
Edited to add: I've read the responses before me. Please, please take the advice offered here Dear, from people probably a lot older than you, and who have either experienced it themselves or seen close friends and family members go through the same horrifying ordeal. Please take care of YOU. Good luck and God bless. |
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I have no Name
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You need to leave. I remember years ago a neighbor of mine was stabbed 56 times by her husband, he also claimed to love her, then the coward killed himself before any justice could be done. Please have the sense to leave now before you become a statistic.
By the way being punched on the head can be extrememly dangerous, there are area's of your head where you can be given one blow and die instantly, cause you to have a brain hemorhage (which can prove fatal) or give you brain damage, blood clotting etc, Im talking specifically about the temples (the sides), you mentioned he hits you on the sides of your head, well when he does that he has the power to end your life in an instant.
Seek help. There's plenty of it available, move in with family/friends where you'll be safe again. Nobody deserves such disgusting treatment from someone who is supposed to protect them from harm, not lead them into it. |
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serenity975428
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he needs to get help to control is anger problems. and you should leave until that is under control. if he starts to get mad and starts to break things leave right away. last thing you want is to be in the hospital because he beat you so badly. make him get help and move out until he does. for your own safety. |
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thewifey
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do you really want to live the rest of your life like that??? what advice do you want when you say leaving is not the option. you are doomed, really. and blind. |
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DRAGON
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I feel sorry for you because you refuse to acknowledge the obvious. Leaving is the only option and if anyone really loved you or cared for your well-being then they would be getting you out of there. What makes you think he will ever stop? What makes you think it will get better. It will not. He will end up in jail and worse you could end up dead. Honestly, no matter what he did for is worth what he is and will continue to do to you. For the record, if you were my daughter and you came to me after being hit I would be over beating the hell out of him. Your mom needs to get involved not just be a roof. You need more help than you can get here.
DRAGON 2008
"I BELIEVE IN U.S." |
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beyonce
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Baby girl please go right back home. To more beatings and suffocation and eventually murder......
p/s You want advice, right. So dont tell us what to say and what not to say. |
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Megan ♫ [Loves Bulldogs]
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Tell him to go to anger management. I think you should leave him but it is your choice. But most of the time it doesn't get any better, just worse. Hopefully he stops before he really hurts you. I think you need to think of your own safety instead of some "happy" moments. |
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New Jersey
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It sounds like he likes when you are home bound and scared so he can take care of you. He wants to control you. Either go to counseling together or leave him. You can't stay with a man who would beat you. You are too young to put up with that for the rest of your life. You'll feel like your 80 by the time your 30 or you'll be dead because he went too far and killed you. He needs hel. Get him into counseling soon. If he won't go, go by yourself and whatever you do DONOT bring a child into this situation. Why do you love someone who beats you? Do you think you won't find someone else? There are many great guys who would never hit a woman. |
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Mr O
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have him terminated |
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It's just me
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First of all, call the police and file charges against him. Believe me, you would be doing both of you a favor if you did that. Next, get a restraining order on him. THEN, get some serious counseling. You are living with someone who claims to love you, but he beats you on a regular basis. All of those "wonderful" things he did for you is his way of controlling you. I know you don't want to hear these things, but, really....going back to him will only get worse. He needs some serious anger management classes, but until he learns to get his anger under control, you mustn't be with him. |
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Imhisgirl22
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see if u can get him into anger management. He shouldnt be taking his frustrations out on u no matter how much u love each other. See if he will talk to a dr they may be able to prescribe something for his anger as well. Go see couple's therapy too. this may help him realize how bad he's hurting u when he gets upset and that may change him too. I've seen on like talk shows of men who beat their wives where they put them thru different situations where the husbands went to jail to talk to men who beat their wives, they also experienced a fake funeral w/their wife actually in a coffin. Alot of men realized what they were doing and straighted up right away. Either way u guys need to see someone about his anger |
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