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Lily Q
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The very fact that you're posting this question shows that you recognise that the situation can't go on. The only way to prevent it from happening again and to protect yourself is to seek help. He's never going to stop his behaviour until you show him that it's wrong and that he can't get away with it. Domestic violence currently claims the lives of around two women a week, please don't let yourself be one of these women. Please see this website http://www.helpfordomesticviolence.com |
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southernstranger2000
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what is more important here, your families reputation or your life, if you cant get your families support in this then screw them you are better of without them. if you stay long enough he will probably kill you or put you permanently disabled, which do you want? |
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katesdada2000
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WHAT KIND OF REPUTATION WILL YOUR FAMILYS HAVE IF HE KILLS YOU? GET OUT AND DISAPEAR!! |
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tsbr1963
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You are not helpless. But you sure are making some bad decisions. Sometimes it helps a person see how absurd they are being by getting OUT of the sitch they are in and looking back on it. I would say GET OUT. Get to a shelter, talk to the counselors...and give yourself some time to reflect and look back at the sitch you WERE in. Distance provides clarity. At some point, you will realize how twisted and nonsensical it was for you to remain in the relationship you were in. But, you can't get to that point until you get out. Also...yes, you will end up severely, permanently injured if you remain. Maybe even dead. But right now you cannot see that. I would say get out. Remove yourself for a few weeks. Oh, the MBA comment? About as pertinent as saying you have brown hair. Completely superfluous. Abuse is everywhere...as you are finding out. |
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bobweb
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Ask him if he's brave enough to try and beat another man that can fight back instead of you. Walk out of the house where the neighbors can hear him when he starts to get loud with you. Tell him you'll come back inside when he calms down. Buy several small canisters of pepper spray that you hide in various places and can be concealed in your pocket for an emergency. Attend a support group for women who are suffering spousal abuse and read about it to learn how to deal with it. |
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FloNightingGale
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Someone that is that educated should understand that this is not right..I am sure you are afraid but what's the end result..does he continue to beat you or worse or do you seek help...call some type of women's abuse/line or shelter they can help you legally and emotionally. |
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jiffner
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Get out of it now - it'll only get worse, and you definately need to get out i there are children. Call 911, get a restraining order, and GO!!! Been in that situation - he put me in intensive care before it was over |
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marketingguy
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What is more important - your families reputation or your safety? Of course if the family is sooooo worried about the reputation...use it against him. Threaten to "out" his violence if he doesn't stop. Make sure to do it with other people/help near by. If you are afraid to do this...get the hell out...ASAP |
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hannahlovesu6890
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you need help.....call 911....or report him |
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hey yo
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who cares about reputation? you should be more concerned for your life. |
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ali
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a husband who is beating up his wife is sick mentally, you need to seelkhelp from professional. you should not be a victim, you only live once, you should be happy. if he does not get help, he might end up in jail. |
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Sunny
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To heck with the reputation of your families. The man is BEATING you. Don't think that people around you don't know something is up, they probably know and are wondering why the heck you don't do something about it.The next time he raises his hand to you, call 911! If you are worried about the repercussions, the people taking your report will know who you should contact next. He is at fault, not you. What you are doing is not shameful, what he is doing is. You are worth it, and don't be afraid of rocking the boat, he's not worth your silence. |
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celticwoman777
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I am so sorry that you are in this predicament. I know that you feel helpless and hopeless. But there is hope and help available. When you are in a safe place (work, other family, friends) call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-SAFE (7233). They can give you the number of a domestic violence program in your area. You can call them 24 hours a day. They have trained counselors and advocates who can help you. They know what is available in your area. You will feel stronger and less helpless by making this call. I know it is scary, but I believe you can do it. I worked with victims of abuse for 11 years and saw hundreds of women leave abusive relationships and create new and better lives for themselves and their children. No, it wasn't easy. But it is possible. God bless you, my dear. |
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dittty2003
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GET THAT'S THE ONLY WAY, OTHERWISE HE MAY KILL U |
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jodie
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Contact your local Center for Abused Women. They will guide you and make you aware of the danger you are in and why it is hard to break away from the guy. Do not wait until he does it again...and again will happen. Try imagining yourself paralyzed from the neck down because of one of his tantrums. This will have a bad ending of that you can be sure unless you get away, today. |
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mv56123
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Report him to the police |
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honest guy
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Unless your hudini and hide it extreemly well, everybody else already knows and is looking on you with pitty. To he*l with his reputation. Be strong and call the police. People will finaly see you as the strong women you are instead of as a subserviant whiping post. No woman deserves to be beaten, see to it that his childish and immature ways are delt with properly. |
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uthmanadeola
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ask me mail bjpumpindogg@yahoo.com,lets talk and be friends |
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Justin
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Just grow up and take your punishments. As a child when your daddy used to beat you, do what he says and you'll be fine.. GO NBA |
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olderbutwiser
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No one deserves to be abused! Move out.....bad reputation to families or not.......YOU are what's important, and your husband needs to go to jail!! Get help, and do it now!!! Good Luck! Life will get better for you, as soon as you stop getting beat. |
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wantbrk65
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your family does not deserve the reputation they have if fear of then allows you to accept this. Seperate from him now |
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kidd411ca
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Wake him up in the middle of the night with a knife across his throat and tell him if he ever touches you again he won't wake up next time |
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Xorgon
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You definitely have to do something, ask an older relative for help, maybe his father? |
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Iron Rider
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I don't know what kind of help you want if you can't go against him, if I was in your shoes I'd be gone no matter what the family thought. He would never beat me again. If this continues, someday he might kill you. then what would the family think? |
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berry
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It's the fear of bad reputation that is keeping you his hostage. Ask for a divorce and move far away from him. If your family doesn't support you, abandon them too. They are of no use to you. |
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sridhar reddy
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hey suman,u r quite well educated ,and i dont understand why u r still so helpless,be on the move ,if the problem doesnt get solved by u speaking to him ask your elders to solve it,if it doent happen u better move out and start your new life |
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Mrs.Su
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Screw the reputation of your family, your life is more important. Please get help! im sure the family dont want you to die. |
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jason a
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you need help,,,,,,
if he beats you and you stay you could die...
get out and get help.
if you have kids he could d the same to your kids..
do you worry about your reputation more than your life or the lives of your kids... |
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jojo
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Who cares if it brings bad rep to family I wouldn't stay and get beat on for anyone. Your life and safe being is more important than reputation. Get out before he really does some damage to u. |
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aylsm
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definitely get out and if you read the info on the site below it will give you help on how to go about it. my girlfriend's sister was murdered by trying to stay. the website below has a 24hr hotline in all 50 states of the US. be really careful about making sure you delete any/all info regarding this subject from your computer. |
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lazgurl2000
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i hope there's some way you can get away from i would do it asap and get the police involved quickly |
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