My husband call me a stupid cow?

Cravin

Turn off Your Phone.

Andy-Roo

Talk to him! You can't go being mad at someone forever and ever. Sure, your husband was being really horrible to you. Although, that doesn't mean you can't make up and be in love again.

Ignoring that *** for at least 24 hours, and then maybe talk to him and tell him that really, really hurt your feelings and if that's how he truly feels you two have a problem. Make him understand how badly his words hurt you, and if he's sorry enough maybe it just came out of anger and you can forgive him... Good luck!

opetke

While at risk of making an unqualified statement: you were probably asking for it.

Text him back and tell him you'll speak with him tomorrow and give him a time.

Then, tomorrow, go and LISTEN to him. Don't talk. LISTEN.

Then think about it for a day. Tell him you're mulling it over.

Then go back and speak your peace.

But if he called you a stupid cow, I doubt it was for no reason. Otherwise, it would't have upset you so badly.

Now is not the time to prove "I'M RIGHT AND YOU ARE SOOO WRONG!!!"

Now is the time to heal the marriage, restore the relationship, put aside bad feelings, and love the man you swore to God you'd never leave.

Good Luck!

Edgar Allan Poe

Call him a retarded donkey.

bimkye

Well you can either ignore him and let the calling continue...or talk to him. If I was in this situation I would sit down and talk to him. Let him know how that comment made you feel and make him understand that is not an ok thing to say. Talking usually irons out problems. Ignoring him may make the problem worse. Good luck!

Brandon C

id be like, oh hell no girlfriend. you did not just call me that. (beep, beep) go on jerry springer's show or something.

mr.obvious

Right or wrong just apologize to him, the calmer you are to him the nicer he will be, It's OK because you are taking the lead in being the smart one, it will take him forever to figure you out. ask him to help you to not get him upset, give him purpose and direction and watch things turn around right before your eyes.Jesus said to be the greater one, you have to be the lesser one, in other words, be submissive to him and let him be the head of the 2 of you, it will work like a new car.

Mrs. Madrid

He's probably calling to apologize so you should probably stop playing games and take his call. Ignoring his calls isn't going to resolve what happened between the two of you. Yes what he did was completely rude and uncalled for but you're married, you need to work it out. Tell him how you feel and let him say whatever he has to say. And make sure he knows that if he ever calls you that again you will rip his balls off and serve them to him for dinner...get it?!

Claire Dunali

seriously thats crap
my dad calls my mom fat we call each other names and no one really cares my parents get along fine, the only fights they get in are money issues lol.
my friends parents just got a divorce over money problems, it think thats a big problem.

>>accept him back and later on work on your problems camly

Medusssa

Every time he tries to talk to you or text you just reply "Duh, Moo".

Erica H

Wowwww, I can't believe he called you that!!! If he is calling you non-stop I would sit him down and talk to him. In person! Explain to him that no matter WHAT arguement you both get into, it is in no way shape or form acceptable to call you a fat cow, or any other degrading word he can think of.

In order to have a healthy relationship, when arguements arise, they need to be talked about. If one or even both of you get to the point where you feel as if you can't continue the conversation without saying rude comments or being violent, you need to walk away, calm down and then come back to the situation when acceptable.

It is never ok for your significant other to put you down in any way what so ever. Make sure you make that known. If you are really really upset right now, maybe it's best to wait a little while until you aren't as upset. For me, personally, I feel as if the more I don't talk to him, the more mad I get, because I have no real resolution to it until we confront the problem and solve it.

Good luck!

Zoran

Money issues is a common topic that ruins many marriages today. Whenever it resorts to bullying and name calling this is unacceptable behaviour and needs too be addressed and remedied by open and positive communication between you and your husband. First of all he cannot live at his friends place forever. Second, he needs to come home and take you into his arms and tell you that you are the number one priority and that materialism is overrated. Third, if marriage counselling is a last resort then take full advantage because divorce is an all too common occurrence in today's society and there is nothing more sacred than love for one another!

mamamia

most marriages end in divorce over money ..this is a serious thing!
insults and money arguments will furthere damage the marriage...Stay away for a week...dont answer the texts....let him stew in his own soup for a while ..while you re-think why you are married to this man

Su-Nami

I think that if it was me, I would text him that 1) I really do not feel like talking right now and need some time to cool down before I say things that I can't take back, and 2). tell him at the same time that he is really being inconsiderate by calling you a stupid cow. Then turn off your phone or put it on vibrate so that if someone you do want to talk to you calls you can answer the phone.

Perhaps the two of you need some marriage counseling as well as some financial counseling to find out what the root is of this. Good luck.

mellie

I think you need to cool off before you talk to him again, and think about what you want to say about your feelings and your finances. What he said was inexcusable, and he should apologize.

Jill

Just don't answer his calls, he probably didn't mean it.

farmer_mi

Since none of us was there we have no idea exactly what started the fight. Maybe he had a good reason to be mad. I'm not saying it was right for him to call you names but it does take two to argue that way. Since I have no idea who was right or wrong none of us can truly answer your question. What both of you need to do if forget who was right and stop fighting over money. I would ask, do both of you work? Is one or both of you over spending your income? Think about it.

Lisa D

Decide whether or not you want to be his fat cow when you are arguing. Maybe you should tell him how much it really hurt your feelings and go from there. It's totally mean, but if that's the worse that he's said it really isn't that big a deal. I would communicate with him and try to come up with a solution regarding the money issue. Communication, trust, and compromise are key to a good marriage.

rooney

How rude to call you names and then to go and stay somewhere else rather than home. Boy he better have flowers, chocolates and come back begging on his knees.

Always communicate in a marriage. Answer the phone and tell him you need some time to cool off because you really don't like being disrespected.

Mrs.Black<3

You two arnt boyfriend and girlfriend so stop acting so childish.
this is Marriage we are talking about. avoiding each other
isnt going to help at all. it makes the situation worse, trust me.
let him apoligize and bare with him. hes your husband you can't
avoid him forever.

alrozz

Tell him sleeping at a friends house will do no good when someone else wants to milk that Cow:)

Girl Power!

There is no excuse for that! I say you let him continue to call and text and worry about it for a while. Then when YOU are ready, answer his calls and let him grovel and beg and apologize until he's blue in the face and then *consider* whether you want to take him back.

JESSIEBLUE

you both need to talkbythe sound of it ,

maryjane

good job keep ignoring his calls. just because you two argue about money, doesnt mean he can go out and call you names like that. he needs to learn to respect you, let him know how you feel, once your calm.

lions

so what? is it true? if you're not stupid or not a cow then ignore it, if it is true then get smarter and lose weight, as for me I love cows. they give us milk, butter and ice cream.

shy2008

Let him stew a bit more. Then make him apologize till you're sick of hearing it. Tell him that you will not accept being degraded by him or anyone else. Set him straight now...or you'll be hearing crap like that all the time. Hope this helps..

karna

money is not worth the pain he caused you, I would never call my love that, that is hurtful, wait for him to apologise sincerely and promise he will never do anything like that again, me him understand that a husbad is supposed to love and cherish you and not abuse you.
If he does not understan this you all may need therapy

sexzyredick#7

Verbal abuse is just as bad as physical abuse, at least that's the way i see it...just like you can't take back a hit or a punch, you can't take back what you say...and what does name calling have to do with your money issues? I mean seriously...do you think you deserve to feel the way you do b/c someone else got upset and doesn't know how to handle their anger? I am so sorry you are going through this and I wish you the best and the courage to get through this...hopefully this was just a one-time deal and you all can get past it b/c from my past issues i am quick to say tell his a$$ to kick rocks...but if you think you can get over it and forgive him then my best to you either way...i wish you the best

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