My husband can't leave his ex in the past, what do I do?

Rudi A

Not too much you can do, except sit him down and talk to him for
the last time, and make sure there is no misunderstanding as to
what you expect of him, as he should already know his ex should not
even be in the picture, as any loving husband would not put their
wife through any such nonsense. If he continues to do what he is
doing, then it is time for you to think what is it that you want in life
for your and your child. Remember things happens in life that one
may not want but has to accept, but still life goes on and if you
ever want to be happy in life,and you continue with the present
situation, happiness will never come, so if the time does come and
you want to be happy, then you will be the one that will make it
happen in the end if your husband doesn't. It will not be easy if it
comes to that , but remember you have a child and you have to think
what is best for the child also, so again talk to your husband and
let him know exactly what you think is best for the marriage and if
he still is in contact with the ex, then you need to move on, and
remember also if you do move on , make sure he still supports
your child that you had together, do not shun him from taking care
of his responsibilities. Good luck.

Blue Eyes

Leave him before he leaves you, and he is most likely going to

bill b

He's comparing you to her, and he's not putting you in 1st position. He emails her, texts her, meets her for drinks, and feels closer to her than he does the wife he has a child with. You're determined to stay with him so what kind of suggestion do you want? All you're going to end up doing is waiting for him to go back to her. I suggest you get a job, go back to school, or do whatever will prepare you for life as a single parent. Reliable birth control is also highly suggested. Married men who hook back up with their exes, behind their wives backs, while she's pregnant aren't committed to their marriages.

~Amarie~

Face it- you can't be with someone who is cheating on you with his ex- because that is what he is doing. Then he has the nerve to tell you he has more in common with her than he ever will with you? You need to give him an ultimatum or divorce him. Keep in mind it does your son no good if his parents are in a bad relationship and divorce doesn't mean he won't have a father. Do what is best for you and the details will all work out. Your husband is basically having an affair and for you to say "I don't believe he has actually slept with her" says a lot about your lack of communication. If you can't trust him, you have nothing. Good luck.

iyamacog

You're paddling an empty boat. Not e/one chooses divorce. It's oftentimes an unavoidable option. There's no way you will be happy with this guy. (I can't give him the honor of using the term of husband) Staying in this sad relationship will only negatively affect your son. I'm sorry, that leaves you with not many positive choices.

Sarah

You might have to divorce and find another husband to raise your child together in a happy environment because if you are not happy with your husband then your son will notice this and grow up unhappy.

reannen

your just going to have to leave him even no it will hurt so bad but hes like telling you he still loves his ex
im so sorry

Pet

"He tells me that the two of them have way more in common than he and I ever will."
Horrible, just horrible. He should not be talking to you this way at all. Be straightforward with him: either he drops the ex or loses his family. Staying together for the kids is never a good idea-trust me. My parents did this and now that I am older I still feel that way if not more so. If he hasn't slept with her yet he will. She is just as wrong for being party to this, I'm sure she knows he is married. Let him walk all over you now and he will do it forever.

wnc817

What is really best for your son though? Should he be taught to seek a relationship, based upon the one you have with his father? He will look to you two as role-models. Give an ultimatum to him. He needs to choose between his family and his ex. Good luck.

diamondgirl8216

If they have so much in common, why isn't he with her? Tell him to get out and let her deal with him. I'd be pissed.

thatartistwin

I cannot stand when people say they want their kid to grow up in a two parent household. First of all, no child should be raised in a household where the father is a cheat and is disrepectful to his wife (if you think he did not sleep with her you have your head in the sand). Second, you have no choice in the matter. If you don't leave him he will eventually surely leave you. Get out of that marriage before you get hurt and dumped. Your husband is a complete loser,

your friend

well if you can live in a relationship where you are not the only woman in his life then whatever. you're just going to be miserable and your child will have no respect for you or women when he grows up! Be strong, put down your foot! don't let that ***** win! hes your old man! get hold of her and tell her to respect your marriage and back off...you can be nice about it at first but if shes a player then shes going to enjoy making you miserable! I can't tell you what to do, but don't be a dummy! Sometimes its better to be a single mom then to raise a child in a situation where they can plainly see how miserable you are! kids are smart...way smarter then you think and they will see right through the lies and the phoniness! if you want whats best For your son, don't let your old man teach him to disrespect women!

Pickleheaded possum

You might remind him that he married YOU, not his previous girlfriend. If he had so much in common with her why did he leave her & have a baby with you ? He sounds very immature. See a good lawyer now before he empties your bank account. There are plenty of GOOD, HONEST men out there. Do it now before he hurts you anymore.His punishment will be when his ex dumps him & all he has left are child support payments & lawyer's bills.

Mazria143

What would make you happy when you see yourself in 10-15years being with this man? Don't lie to yourself...

Your child will feel even more like the problem growing up thinking he had something to do with the broken relationship you and your husband have

you can't ignore the problem you have with your husband, your son will be even more affected if you stay with this guy... chances are, your son will despise you both... who's going to be happy in the end?

i'm sorry for your situation and hope you really do divorce this selfish so-called husband of yours... coz in the end, it'll all work out for the better...if your happy, your child will be happy too and he'll understand as he gets older... :)

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