My husband can't leave women alone?

you must have zero self-esteem to continue along claiming to love someone who does not give a rat's *ss about you or your children. you have allowed yourself to become a dependent doormat.

Uin

Divorce.

He obviously doesn't love or respect you.

That's bs, you deserve and will find better. He continues to do it because he can, he knows you won't leave him..prove him wrong.

mommie_29801

DIVORCE him

crankyissues

You are hurting yourself by staying with a man that is not loyal. It doesn't matter what country he is from- If a person truly loves another person, they don't WANT to be with anyone else. It sounds like you may be a lot more in love with him than he is with you-
I could never trust a man that cheated on me twice. I would have to leave- hurt or not.
Good Luck to you- and always remember- YOU DESERVE BETTER!

annarrogance

I don't think it's healthy for you or the children to live in a situation where you're unhappy. I can't tell you to go or stay--I don't know the situation or your feelings well enough. What I can tell is that if my husband cheated on me, I wouldn't be able to stay with him. Marriage is a sacred trust and I couldn't deal with someone breaking that trust.

Unfortunately, love and happiness don't always go together. You have to do whatever you think is best for you and your children.

Also, you have to consider your health. What if he brings home an STD next time he steps out on you? Then what? What happens to you and your children?

If you are hurting, and you are consistently unhappy, and if your children are having to watch you fight, you may be better off apart. If you can reconcile yourself to his cheating, and can live with it without being miserable or without arguing all the time, well, then you're a stronger woman than I am. Whatever you decide, best wishes and my thoughts are with you in your difficult situation.

cyberwarlocklord

this is america i live in.......D-I-V-O-R-C-E

passionfruit

It's up to you,learn how to share and be in constant pain or leave and teach him that he cant do you that way without some reprocussions to deal with along with it.

Emily

***. Well, it seems that you'll just have to tell him that if he can't straighten up, you'll have to take certain messures. If that
s something that you can't do because ur not that type, well, either you toughen up or plan some special vacation with him. The way I see it, there is many pictures out there to look at, but to a man-or woman- there is just one special one he looks at. Someone very special to me said that.

AlexB

well... if he cheats on you with the same woman then it might be a good idea to get a divorce since he's making a relationship with another woman but it might not be for your best intrest to take any action over a couple of one night stands with women that he doesn't care about.

~â™¥Sabrinaâ™¥~

dump him,once a cheater always a cheater. you have 2 kids and if he can still cheat i doubt he loves or respects you sorry. good luck with it.

Mrs.Tricey

Simply because that isn't LOve that is SIMPLY INSANE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! YOU BOTH NEED HELP.

Teezam

Looks like he's got some serious MANUFACTURING DEFECT. Well nothin is to be taken for granted......

Looking/ flirting is ok but cheatin is not........

Ask urself the question "r u keeping him satisfied and happy in bed"
"doin things to keep him interested/ attracted 2 you"
"is he satified with u or have u gone supersized since having kids"
"u guys getting enough time around to spend with each other"

cristelle R

leave.
There are other men in this world who can give you more respect

Gone

If it was me I would get a divorce.

Romocop

Well, what you should do you said you don't want... He says he loves you, which is possible, but he also seems to love other women. The only thing you could try to do is satisfy him more so that he doesn't look to other women, experimenting with different things... Although, if he cheats on you, I don't see why you want to stay with him...

Warren Peace

chop his d**k off then he'll learn

Hoshiai

For one, follow your heart.

Two, try not to "stay in the relationship for the kids". My parents split when I was 8 or so. I didn't understand much then, but I understand now. They will understand/eventually understand the situation.

Just because he's from Nigeria gives him no right to cheat. If he loves you as much as he claims, he wont do it.

N3N@

You know what a majority of us are going to write... and although you're not going to be happy with the answers you get, it's the truth...

You're a mother, you deserve to be with someone whom will respect you and your children (since he's not doing it)... I understand that you're married and you don't want to get a divorce, but do you want this to keep happening till death do you part? I know you don't, and I strongly recommend that you either seek counceling or get divorced because he's not going to stop doing what he's doing...

Why? because you've let him get away with it so many times that he knows you're not going anywhere. You're children dont deserve to grow up thinking that it's ok for dad to cheat on mom and stare or even talk to other women while you're not in his presence. Kids are very intelligent, and I know you'll be better off being a single mother than one that is married to a guy that can't be mature or faithful to his wife.

God forbid he gives you a disease from another women he slept with... you don't deserve that, you can't love someone if you're constantly cheating on them and hurting them. I truly do hope that you open your eyes and realize that you deserve better... I guarantee you that he will respect you a lot more if you left him, only because you finally showed him that you don't need a guy like that in your life. I'm reffering to him as a guy because he's not a man... a real man won't hurt you or cheat!

JustAnother

consoler

Terry D

Girl, grab your two kids and show him what is like to be married to someone in the USA.

I don't care where he is from, if he loves you, respects you AND your children, he would not be cheating on you.

Get your self a lawyer and divorce him.

T.

amh

With kids involved, you want to be very careful, and besides that, you admitted that you still love him very much. Before you end your marriage, you need to try and work this out with a counselor or pastor. See if you can come to some kind of agreement, if maybe he can come to see how much this really hurts you. Cultural differences are hard to reconcile... if it's not possible, then of course, you need to get out of a hurtful relationship. But try getting some help, first. I really hope it works out for you.

Anji25

if you have to ask in a situation like this you are just being foolish...you already know what you are going to do, we know you are not getting divorced because you say you can't which is just silly, another thing it doesnt matter where a man is from if you and he are supposed to be exclusive and to me a husband is very exclusive then thats what it's supposed to be...bottom line

Threedaysgraceemolover

Honestly, I would divorce him. Especially if he kept cheating on me. If someone cheats on you then that means that they really don't love you they just think they have to have everything. The kids could still visit him or get over it.

Good Luck!

fin73

once a cheater always a cheater

Lisa G

If you stay in the relationship, all this is going to do is also teach your children it is OK for this type of relationship to carry on.

Seek counseling, give him the ultimatum, and if that does not work, you need to figure out what is best for you, AND your children.

Yes you may love him, and not be able to stand being without him, but can you truly be OK with him sleeping with other women? If you can, and you are willing to have your children grow up with that in their life also (yes you DO have to think about what is best for them as well as for yourself), then stay with him...

Otherwise.. well.. I think you know the answer...

nomad737

Well besides the obvious question of his commitment to you I think you should consider your health in this matter.

Can you be sure he is 'wrapping up' with these other women? If he is going bare back then it is only a matter of time before you contract Herpes, HIV, or one of a dozen different types of STD's.

If you died from one of these, where would that leave your kids?

lovely

I would kick his sorry butt out . I might dearly love someone but after being treated badly long enough it would kill any love I felt.

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