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Cyclist 2300
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At the moment.... there is nothing you can do......
you need to wait for him.... to realize his mistake..... and SEEK FORGIVENESS.
you can't get over it.... until reconciliation begins..... and for that... he has to express his sorrow.... and desire to move beyond. |
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re animated
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Leave him |
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HMUSN
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you go back to the guy YOU were seeing for four years.
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AslFB32YKAQ4FzZWUYgiSmDsy6IX;_ylv=3?qid=20080805094648AAYGstY
^^^ her other question. |
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Joice M
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It's time to walk away from your marriage. Once a cheater, always a cheater. He obviously doesn't care how you feel because he's too busy moping over the loss of his girlfriend! You deserve to be loved and respected. Hold your head high and move on sister! |
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Lynn
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You don't "get over it", you leave him! Seriously, he's been carrying on with this for TWO YEARS. It's not like it was a one night stand. He has zero respect for you OR your marriage...leave him. |
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♥
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You're obviously making this up. In one of your other questions you are talking about a older guy you have been seeing for 4 years.
Whatever.... nice story. |
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The Yeti
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Get a new husband. There is NO excuse for this. |
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:D
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divorce a cheater is always a cheater move on.. |
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Kevin R
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If he is a good man , then stay if you want to .
Wanting the affection of another Women can be very erotic and
rejuvenating to the soul . He is a normal man and as such , wants
to know that he is still desirable at his age .
It is times like this , that the opportunity arises for the two of you
to get totally honest about your feelings and evaluate your lives with each other . This can be a good thing .
Sit down in a place that is peacefull and talk to each other . |
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Maci
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OMG doesnt any1 have any feelings..if ur married 4 15 years ...y cheat on ur wife? |
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Just Me
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Hun, didn't you post a question asking something about an older man you have been seeing for 4 years who doesn't trust you? If that's the case, then you have been cheating on your husband for 4 years, so a cheater deserves a cheater... If you like posting random questions to make yourself feel better, go somewhere else. |
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bada bing bada boom
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Get counseling for him. This phone affair is also cheating, it can turn into a physical affair anytime if he felt that strongly about this woman. He shouldn't seek any relationship outside his marriage. Good for you that the woman admitted everything and stopped communicating with him.
Mine had a relationship with a married woman for more than three years when they were both working in a Gulf country away from their spouses and children. They continued on the phone and internet for a long time until she came closer to him. When I found out proofs, I broke up with him. Before my final decision, I called the woman, that lying ***** just denied everything even communicating with him. She said I don't have any communication with your husband for a long time, while I had some recent e-mails that both of them wrote to each other.
So, get counseling or it could lead to some potential damage. |
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Jenn
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as a woman you also have to have enough pride to say enough. you need to break it off and let him be happy. and in time you will be happy too |
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PRI
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hun you will never get over it trust... to me it seems like if you would never leave him even if he cheated again.. why? because you said that you love him very much and that you feel like if he truly loves her.. who would put up with even thinking that? start doing things a different way.. maybe he's tired of the same thing that goes on everyday.. spice it up.. appreciate him more... since your going to stay with him... other people would say F**k him leave him but you guys have been together for a very long time and it would be hard... |
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sugarBear
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Is he sad that he lost her? or is he sad that he got caught? I say you get over it by getting over him. Good luck! |
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Maureen
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you don't get over it you just move on and take things day by day |
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PuckHead -BH-
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go to survivinginfidelity.com . This site has helped me work on trying to forgive my wife for being unfaithful and loving other men. It is very difficult and you will always hove different triggers that make you think of the cheating, but if you love him truly, you both can get past this. Good Luck! |
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By looking at many of the comments, I can see that most of these individuals have very little compassion and have no clue what marriage is about. Our society is a fast serve, little compassion, discard quickly, but beware of the words and advice you give because Karma teaches everyone that is unaware.
First if both parties are willing to work through things, then it is time for counseling and rediscovering the love the brought you two together. Love and friendship is what made the both of you want to spend the rest of your lives together, so rediscover that part of your lives.
Divorce is a horrible thing and I wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy. Think of your worst nightmare that is what divorce is like, but everyday you wake up into it. At all costs try to work things out.
Warmest Regards,
TJ |
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Jianying C
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Well you gotta confront him. Ask him does he love this girl over you.....because I mean if he does you only have his body adn nto his soul. IDK I mean if he really wants her then let him go.....or if want to keep this marriage let him cheat and be ignorant,,,but that choice will only bring u a lot of pain |
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¸.•*´`*♥Kates ♥ Game11 ¸.•*´`*♥
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As HMUSM pointed out, what happened to the guy you were asking about a few months ago? I presume you cheated on your husband too? It sounds like you were made for each other!
Lots of people have taken the time to answer your Q seriously yet your other Q makes out that you are single. |
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imarockstar
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wow, that is just awful. He probably knows your going to leave him. Or atleast I hope you do. He deserves to be "alone" and "devastated" and "humiliated" and everything else that comes with it. do not let this man walk all over you with his affair. think about the pain your in. i don't think your going to be able to just "get over it" as you say just because you love him. |
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Susan M
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Keep talking to your husband about what you both want for your future. Don't place blame or get buried in anger. It is an awful, painful betrayal, but it need not ruin your life. You could come to look back and see it as the beginning of a better part of your life. |
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lotus006
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Any indiscretions in your marriage can cause a lot of long term problems, ultimately it is a question of TRUST.
The only way to really figure out if you can trust him, is to go to a counselor (be it a priest or therapist) and talk about how you reached this point in your relationship and see if there is anything you can both continue with.
If he feels like he's just going to get another girl when he's out there again, than can you except this? Are there limits you are willing to accept?
Also, it isn't fair for you to hold this over his head for the rest of his life if you should choose to stay together. Mistakes happen but they should not be the source of punishment for years it will only make things worse.
There is always the option of Divorce? Extra-marital affairs will get you a nice chunk of change in the courts!
Good luck and try to focus on you... what do you want. What are you options without him v. with him? And what will make you happy, this could be a great wake-up call, there's always time to change the road you're on... |
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Sparkle
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honest opinion
if you love something truly set it free - you'll find someone who truly loves you too
xx
im sorry this happened to you |
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Rachel Lisa Cullen
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shoot him in the head.
im sure you deserve wayyyy better!! <3 |
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Tryna-Hyde
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since he pretended to be your husband for two years, pretend to be his wife for four.
good luck. |
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dsafsa a
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Avoid seeing him for a few months and then follow up with him and see if he is ready to straighten up but if he doesn't it is over for good and you should avoid him if he doesn't fix his cheating/lying problems! |
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Bellavita
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No matter how much you love him, you can't be the only person in this marriage.
If he wants out, let him out. Move out and file for divorce. He will either realize he's made a terrible, stupid mistake or you'll be free of a husband who doesn't really love you. Win-win. |
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