My husband comes hom late at night and says he has been with friend am i suppose to believe him?

Loza

from the moment you knew him if that's his way of seeing friends then he clear , if there's a weird change don't do anything just keep an eye on him and try to find out what he's really up to, but please please, don't think of bad things first, after all he could be lying but doing something good

smscoach22

Use your instinct about things. Does he do this every night or certain nights? Is his work demanding this of him or is of his own accord? Has he been spending any unusual amounts of money or going to out of the way places? Ask questions--detailed questions: Who, what when, where, and why. Then check out his story by checking receipts, calling where he was supposed to have been, checking with the friend. Get to the bottom of this ASAP!!1

fast_bird94

It depends on how well you trust him. I would hire a private detective or call that cheaters show. It couldn't hurt, then you would definatley know the truth. Well I guess it could hurt your relationship if he found out you were having him followed and he wasn't doing anything wrong. But I think you should call a private detective to follow him. Or else just see if you can spend a late night with him and his "friend." I hope this helps. Good luck with your hubby.

nwtobe

You already don't or you wouldn't be asking this question.

Monkeybunny

Unless you have proof of him fooling around.. Don't be worried. My dad does the same thing.. Except he's actually out with friends.. So does my boyfriend. You don't have anything to worry about. Not unless you find something that proves otherwise.

favour2001@verizon.net

if you want the truth about things ask him to take you with him some times when him and his friend/s go out some times. just tell him you don't want to sit home all the time and you want to spend time out with him and his friend/s to. or do research on your own seek and you shall find.

Carter

Well, if he is your husband, then he should love you. Does he have a history of dishonesty?

Richie

Yes , if he has not given you a reason to believe otherwise.trust him.

Mercedes A

well only u know him and his personality...does he do this all the time?...or is it once in a blue moon?..and why is it that people say oh my god the man is cheating?..it doesn't have to be about cheating..maybe he is out with the boys or just one male friend..it's easy to find out..Normaly when men go hang out with a buddy of theres..they go through a small period that happends the next day thats called the bragging period..it's normally about how stupid or retarded his friend is...if u think or feel this is not the case...then all i can say is just keep an open mind and watch him and take mental notes.if he is cheating u will know cause the truth always comes forward to the light..i wish i could help u more sweety..if i was your friend..i would ask u to invite me to your house to dinner one night and just hang out for a bit with u and the husband and by the time i go leave i will know if he is cheating by watching his body language

Obi-Wan Kenobi

Well, honestly, he deserves the benefit of the doubt unless you have evidence to the contrary. Suspicion doesn't count. If you have reason to suspect, talk to the friends that he supposedly is with.

If he's cheating on you, it will eventually come out. Just don't wait to find out. Do your own research discretely. Or just sit him down and talk to him. Either way, if you are suspicious for no reason, you're going to alienate him even more. So be sure before you speak.

Oceanlover

unless you have a reason not to..Trust is very important if you don't trust him you should get out of it and move on

diddy

If you trust him & only you can answer that!!

johnman142

Yes it will cause less trouble

mlco

i think you already know the answer to your own question but just afraid to find out the truth. womens intuitions are very powerful and should not be ignored.
relationship is about trust and you should trust your husband, unless you have reasons not too.
the best way to determine the future is to revisit past behaviour. good luck!
do you know he's friends? if not, ask to meet his friends (the ones he meets w/ after work) so you can be sure who he hangs out w/ if he refuse then u should go ahead and do your own investigation...bring a camera...............
good luck

mr_peepers810

Yes. He has been with a friend. It's what he claims he's been doing with his friend that you may want to question...

flowermaiden411

Believe him until you sees him in the act.

fatt_and_juicy

yes but if u don't follow him so u will know the truth.

msqtech

yes he probably was just how friendly is the question? And why wouldnt he tell you about it early. I think you are having trust issues and I dont blame you.

john_killebrew

when he gets home try going down on him see if you taste another woman.

shemowcow

if you asking this question then you got doubts and a women must always check on those doubts sorry...

cosaxteacher

Do you have reason to believe he is lying to you? If he hangs out with his friends, and happens to stay late, is that automatic reason to think he's cheating?

Jet

He's with a friend for sure. I just can't tell you the gender of that friend.

gimmieswag

wow lots of answers on this one ... Do u trust him?

nuff said

lucy

Has your husband just started doing this, or has this been going on for a while? If he has never given you a reason to cheat, then you should trust him. But, if your instincts tell you differently, then you need to take action. One of the first things you can do is to have him call you to let you know where he is. You can call him there if it is going to make you feel better. make sure that he keeps in touch with you, not to check in for punishment, but for peace of mind. It is only common courtesy for someone to call another person to let them know what's going on. If he says that he is with friends, then offer to have his friends come over so you can get to know them better. If he comes up with excuses each time you offer this, than you should probably have a talk with him.
The other option you have is to follow him to his location or have someone that he doesn't recognize look in on him to ease your mind. I know that these are dramatic steps but if this is what it takes to make you feel better than so be it.

HE'S NOT INTO ME

If it makes you uncomfortable you need to let him know your concerns. If he doesn't change the behavior than whether he's really out with a friend or f*cking the neighbor, doesn't matter, theres a much bigger issue- your husband doesn't give a d*mn about you. So unless he comes home smelling like musk or with lipstick on his c*ck you should believe him. BUT you should express your concerns and tell him you don't like it, and he should call ahead of time, not make you wait.

jubileefrey

ASK HIS FRIENDS

amandarochella

If he just did it once, let him slide, but other then that **** his *** up

i really dont wanna say anything bad ane ruin someone's marriage because i know my answer could make a big difference,if i would be u i would sit and talk to him and really tell him that i dont feel comfortable with that and once in a while its ok he can go out with his buddies but not every night i need him to be with me at night time like a good and decent family and even then if he dont stop that means either he care abt his friends more then u or he have someone else who he cares abt more then u,but make sure u talk to him first.communication is the key.dont listein to most of these imture ppl.

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