My husband didn't get me anything for mothers day?

Milla

Oh mama. I would be hurt, pissed and anything else in the category.

First thing is first: Let your husband know how you feel. Communication is the key to most happy marriages.

Second: Remember that Father's Day is right around the corner. If I was in your shoes, I wouldn't be spiteful though. Give him a nice Father's Day to show him how one is suppose to be treated in appreciation of parenthood.

Third: Pamper yourself. Next year have him babysit while you got to the spa to get pampered, shop, etc. whatever it is that you really love to do.

christen

not at all. i went to dinner with my mom and dad today. and we were actually saying how it is the other spouses duty as a spouse and parent to make sure the kids take care of their mother and father on special occassions. your baby obviouslly could not have gotten you anything, but your husband should have made sure that you felt special today.

HAPPY MOTHER'S DAY!

teacherintheroom

HI....married lady here....15 years....
I didn't get anything from my husband either, or my 14 year old daughter...or the dogs for that matter!

Yes, my feelings are hurt too. Not only did they not even get me a card (which would have been enough), but I spent the day doing laundry, dishes and vacuuming. All that AFTER I went to my mother IN LAW's house and did yard work. (he did some...but I did most of it)

YOu are justified in how you feel. No one can tell you how you can feel. It's what you do with those feelings that make a difference.
I would tell you husband how you feel. It is possible that he totally forgot and feels bad about it but can't or won't admit it. Just tell him that you know it might seem silly to him but it would be nice if once a year, he acknowledged you in a special way on that day.
And what he said about the baby being your gift is VERY mean. I would tell him that. You might also point out that you already RECEIVED that gift once....he can't take it back and give it to you again! That's like regifting :)
Then, take yourself out and buy yourself a little treat. A new blouse or bag or nail polish or something that you've been wanting but didn't want to spend money on yourself for. When you bring it home show it to him and tell him " This is what the baby gave me for mother's day".
Next year, tell him exactly what you expect for mother's day. Make it easy on him if you have to. When my daughter was a baby, all I wanted for mother's day was a two hour nap, alone, uninterrupted in a quiet house. He took her out for a couple hours and left me to my nap. It was wonderful. Come up with something like that for him to do next year and you might get better results.
I'm not sure yet how I'm going to handle this year's lack of consideration. But, since I'm on the computer at 12:30 in the morning and he's in bed alone..., I guess I sent a pretty clear message.....:)

Happy MOther's Day! go treat yourself, you deserve it! (I'm going to buy a new pair of shoes tomorrow)

patsy

No you are not in the wrong, and he needs to be told that you are the MOTHER OF HIS CHILDREN, and yes you should have been entitled to a gift from him!! By the way HAPPY MOTHERS DAY TO YOU!!!

phxmilitarymom

Well, technically he does not have to get you anything. You are not HIS mother, so it is really not his job. BUT when the children are too young to do this he should at least get you some flowers and a card, maybe a nice "first mom's day" gift would be great too.
It is just a considerate gesture on his part to do this for you. But that's okay, honey, father's day is coming up!
Happy Mothers Day to you!

az_mommma

We women often forget that we are not our husband's mothers. My dad always told my mom, "You aren't my mother". He was right. We always expect people to give, give, give to us. When your child is older you will get tons of mother's day gifts.... this isn't worth getting angry over.

aimster_1968

It's only one day a year...damn right you should feel hurt.

Kitty

No, though I see his point, you are not his mother, it would have been nice of him to get you something. If you wanted, you could mention something to him about it, but depending how you think he might react, it could be better to just let it go. There is Father's Day next month, so you could either not get him anything, or get him something and say "I knew what it felt like not to get anything on Mother's Day, and I didn't want you to feel bad like I did on your special day so I got you a card" or something like that.

KEVIN B

If this is your first child with him, you should say something because this is a special time for you. I would want my wife to let me know that she was hurt by actions

Michelle C

No you aren't wrong. Mothers day is a day to show mothers how much you care about them. You're a new mom and the dad should take it upon himself to make sure the mom knows how much she is loved and appreciated. At least until the child can show that thenselves. I've never really gotten anything big for mothers day, but my son always brings home a project from school, and my husband always gets me a card that both the kids sign and then one from himself that is more adult oriented. It's not in the gift, it's the thought that counts, but if he reacted that way it doesn't even sound like he appreciates you. Don't get him anything for fathers day and see how he feels.

salemgirl1972

I think you can't help but being hurt....the way most holidays are commercialized these days....I got small things, and that was fine with me.....but my children are the most precious gifts of all.....so your husband is right in that regard.

Just remember this come his bday/fathers day.

luvlisteningtomusic

No you are not wrong. You are the mother of his child. He was being selfish for not even buying you a card. I would be really hurt and rather upset. He could of done something special for you like make dinner or do the dishes. He should appreciate you for taking care of your child. I would tell him that you do not feel appreciated and you feel like he is taking you for granted. Happy Mothers day to you.

ChristiNA

not a least bit. you should feel hurt i mean it is mothers day and sure you have a brand new bundle of joy but the least he could to is apperciate you.. he could have atleast helped you with the baby or cooked dinner so you wouldnt have to do it or something that shows me loves you.. i may be wrong in my answer but thats my personally opinion.

Amy

No I don't think you're wrong, I would be a little upset too. Here's a hug for Mother's Day

::HUG::

Nina

Yes, you should feel hurt.

The baby is YOUR gift to him. Not vice versa.

Treat yourself to something wonderful this week (that's about all the advice I can give!).

...and Father's Day is coming up. Stick it back to him. Or make it very nice for him so he has a bad conscience. But do either one in the extreme. Either really nothing at all or something totally overwhelming.

PS:
HAPPY MOTHER'S DAY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

.Samantha

its fine to feel hurt my stepdad got my mom something for mother's day and i got my mom something for mother's day, but when your baby get's older im sure she/he will get you something for mother's day

teadropsue

what i did is take the kids to the store picked out what i wanted and got it then i took it home and said honey look what the kids got me isn't it great. what could he say .

smile_girl

Wow. A card wouldn't have gone astray. Man he would have made one on a piece of paper and just printed baby's feet on it for you.

Keep in mind Father's Day only a few months away. Make sure he gets the same treatment.

Very inconsiderate.

no-ones-beezwax

i would be hurt. did he bother to say happy mothers day. did he want the baby when you got pregnant. it almost sounds like him letting you have the baby was your gift and not to ask for nothing else. talk to him tell him about how you feel and maybe there is a reason for his rudeness.

THEMENACE47

did he get his MOTHER anything?

dominique

No, you are not. They even make Mother's Day cards for wives. He should have known to give you a gift and honor you as the mother of his child. Um, the baby is his gift, too.

I remember my mother got REALLY angry at my dad when I was young for saying the same thing to her "You expect a gift?" (they separated a few years later, for many other reasons, obviously).

I don't have any children of my own yet, and I'm really hurt today and hating Mother's Day since my mother got unreasonably angry with me after I tried very hard to give her a great Mother's Day... but I still think that you are totally right for being hurt. I'm so sorry! I think Mother's Day means a lot more to women than Father's Day does to men. Hope your husband understands that next year and makes up for it big time.

shanaynay

no your not wronge but i have no clue what to say to him explain that your truly hurt by that

Theresa W

I understand completely!!! I don't ever buy anything for myself but he gets everything he wants and I don't say a whole lot. I always make sure my little boy has everything he needs and a lot of what he wants, more than he deserves. I think what hurt my feelings the most is that I'm pregnant with our 2nd child and all I got was. "Oh yeah Happy Mothers Day." Nothing else. No you aren't wrong for feeling hurt just remember Fathers Day is coming don't buy his butt anything!!!!

cnn360coffeebubbles

i agree with you being pissed and hurt..however..

here's the thing you gotta remember..men take things literally..they are real dense when it comes to reading in between the lines... they will tell you themselves sometimes too..if you want something say it out loud dont beat around the bush because we men can't tell..and dont know what you want..

Thats why he didn't get you a gift.

just my impression from reading what you said..

STEVE J

I think joking or not he should have got u something if nothing but a card i got my mom & my gf a basket of flowers hope this helps but heres you a happy mothers day from me hope it makes u feel better byby

exo

Oh........ Happy mother's day mama.

FaZizzle

If you're hurt, then tell him.

It sounds like you're a new mom and he's a new dad under a LOT of stress.

If you want something, ask him. That's all it takes. If he starts to ask all p*ssy, then ask him to go through labor for a change.

stitch witch

Replace your husband, and get rid of the dog. Keep the kids, they're great! Think about it...who needs this crap?

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