My husband doesn't allow me to call him at work, while everyone else is?

Playa

Try not calling him for 2 weeks in a row and stop being suspicious of him for your own good. In time he will appreciate you for being understanding to his situation and your willingness to let him have his own freedom instead of being 'watched behind his back' by you.

pinniethewooh

It's kind of weird to me. My husband doesn't mind if I call at work. He'll tell me if he's busy and I let him go.

He calls me at work some times - on my cell. Do the people he works with know that he is married?

Seems like there is more to this...?

Just dont call. Then after a few weeks he will be calling to check up on you. I would suggest not answering the phone call either if you can. It may start a fight but at least you can show him what it is like to not be available when needed.

Rosemary M

I THINK IT IS A BIG BIG BIG ISSUE AND U SHOULD
GET DOWN TO THE BOTTOM OF THIS. AND ANY-
ONE ELSE CAN CALL HIM? WHAT THE HELL?
DON'T GIVE UP FIND OUT WHY? REMEMBER THERE
IS A ANSWER FOR EVERY QUESTION. AND IT IS UR
RIGHT TO FIND OUT .... I HOPE THINGS GET RESOLVED
AND THINGS GET BETTER FOR THE BOTH OF U.
GOOD LUCK !!!!!!!!!!!!

You annoy him, isn't it enough you torture him at home, you have to call him at work

MR DESTINY

if he's mad on an emergency call or not so often calls he's seeing someone at work or wants to. PS. try not answering when he calls home sometimes and see his response and if he asked you were in the wash room or the corner shop or didn't hear the line beep while you were on the phone.

maestra

You have two choices here.

1. Come up with some kind of an agreement between you and your husband that you will call him at work just to tell him you love him. You can do this during his breaks or lunch hour. If he refuses, then he has a hidden agenda.

2. You can arrange to meet with a marriage counselor to help you come up with another idea. Sometimes going to counseling helps because you can get ideas that you never ever even can think up on your own.

Mike J

What can you do? Swallow your pride and apologize.
He's out there earning a living for your butt. Respect him at work. Just email him. Don't bother him.

Vegas81

quit pissing off your husband and quit being so damn controling. Try having dinner on the table when he gets home for a change maybe you should clean the house up instead of staying on the phone you dummy

Suzy Q

yep and you probably have reason to not trust him. its gnerally the thing hes told other women you dont' care lol

BaByCaKeS

YOUR HIS WIFE. TELL HIM TO GET OVER IT! MAYBE HE IS HIDEING SOMETHING...?!

presleygirl

I never call my husand, well mabey twice in over 20 yrs. but of course you should be able to if you need to. That is rude of him. Call anyway and make sure you leave the message that HIS WIFE called. Is he ashamed of you or what?? no, that isn't right. Honey, don't argue about it--just simply call.

michelebaruch

Who is everyone else? Other people employed at the same company? Why does he think you are checking up on him? Has he given you any reason not to trust him?

The truth is, he most probably has a very responsible job, and cannot be distracted, by your "any good reason" phone call.

I am sure that if an emergency came up he would want you to call.

What I would suggest is that you ask him to give you a ring during the day when he has the time, and is not under stress.

You should be the one that starts talking. Tell him that the discussion snowballed into an argument, which you did not intend it to become. Then when you feel it is the right time, you can ask him what I suggested to you.

I think you are making a mountain out of a molehill.

Husbands, do not like nags, and that is what it feels like to him when you call him every day.

Good luck, and hope I helped you.

mayrad

I think it is ridiculous why shouldnt be able to call him at work is he some kind of spy and you are going to blow his cover or something. He needs to relax i think its deeper than just calling him at work what if its a life threatening emergency.

Carla

I think there's a problem here. You stated that you can't call him but it's ok for others to. It sounds like he either out doing something and scared you will find out, or there's someone on the job he's "doing". You should never have to have permission to call your husband. He should be happy your calling. Unless you just call him 100 times a day. Then that's a problem.

48Special

Work is work! He probably feels he can listen to you better when he gets home. He probably has alot of his work on his mind at the time you call and can't concentrate on what your saying at the time, that's why it can wait until he gets home and I'm sure you can to. Don't over analyze it too much, it could ruin your relationship.

Jo-JoLuv

In general, I think most men don't like it. Respect his wish and talk to him when he gets home, unless it's an emergency.

TAMPABAYLADY

It seems very unfair to me that everyone else can call him ,but not you. What gives ? Is he insecure with your marriage or what ?
Where is the trust in your relationship ? Is he doing something at work that you have to check on him ? I would find out the answers to these questions.

Paco

Respect his wishes people get caught up at work and may not have the time to answer or answer abruptly. Why go there if you don't have to...if you want to hear from him ask him to call you during his breaks. If he wants to make the attempt to talk to you he will.
If everything else is fine in the relationship then just respect his request.

Ms Gia

Don't call his azz! Call Friends and Family, for everything, Start doing a lot for you! Call his job may make him embrass, they my have to call him on the PA System! We don't know, So give him what he Wants. Or their may be someone at work he likes, go to any function at his job to check! Don't answer his call right away when he calls I do that let it go to the Message, Make him feel like you do, but do it very well! Give him real good excuss that you did not hear the phone ring! Give him a taste of your new medicine! He is not right! Start keeping busy and then he will start to call and check up on you, Don't take that mess and it should have never been a Fight Over that at all! Just tell him ok and do him the same!

donnelly_1925

Do you work? If so does he call you. Have you given him reason to not have his number at work? For myself, I would call and argue. My husband did the same thing to me.

In the end he was not only hiding his work number but many other things.

flateach33

Some men get embarrassed when their better half call them at work. I can tell you it is hard for me when my husband calls me. It almost should be a matter of life and death and he knows it. My husband is retired and stays home with the boys and I run our family business. When the boys were small I was the one that stayed home. This way there is always a parent with our boys. We have six children. The last thing I want to hear is what so and so did today. If the boys are not dying or in the hospital I really don't want to hear about it. Now I know what it is like to be the helpless parent. I still want to kick my self for all those times he came home or I called him at work about the children and it wasn't a true emergency. When we are at work there is not a whole lot we can do. It only makes us feel guilty and takes our mind somewhere it does not need to be.

~*tigger*~ **

thats weird
go to couples councilling

LDJ

Don't call him, wait till he gets home and then tell him. You'll find out life will be a lot better. And if he needs checking on something is wrong with this marriage.

hans2

does his work collegues know you exist? you dont htink hes hiding the fact that hes married or anything?

id tell him that the only time you phone him will be if its important and if he doesnt like that then he can get stuffed!

tell him theres thinbgs you dont like him doing but as a marriage you allow this and can work with it.

if he doesnt change id turn up at his work on purpose to embarras him for his petty rows

racykitty

my 1st husband did this, he wasn't n/e good, @ all.
Does his co-workers know he's married?
Is he ashamed or embarrassed by u?
His he a work-alholic?
What's his work ethic like?
U said other ppl call him, so why can't U?? umm? sounds fishy 2 me!!
Him saying, that ur checking up on him, sounds like he's protesting to much. Hiding something? maybe?

As an adult, u should know NOT to call him @ work.
No personal calls, ur on the bosses' time, not ur own.
But, u did say others call him, so why not u???

I worked the same job for many yrs., when my kids where still @ home, they Knew Not to call me @ work. When they did, my boss came & got me!!! Er'1 knew it must be important, if/ when my kids called.

ruckert12000

Honey your husband is acting very weird, you better check on that there. if you said the same thing would you be a suspect of cheating.

Velvet

I have gone through this with my husband as well. It is not that he has anything to hide or that he's ashamed of me or anything else like this. He feels that when I call him for what he believes as things that can wait until he gets home, I am wasting his time.

Now this did hurt my feelings at first and then I started to think about it...My man is in the music business and I have seen him in action at work. Most of the time between me and the rest of the phone calls that he encounters on a daily basis, this man's got his hands full. I don't want to contribute to making his day more hectic and it already is. Instead I put myself in the position to receive him with open arms when he gets home and to be an outlet and for him to confide in if he needs that.

I know that it can be hard, but try not to be suspicious unless you he has given you a VERY good reason to be. There are worse things to fight about. Don't make nothing into something. Besides don't you want to be the woman that this man runs from work to get home to?

Elswith R

He must have another woman and worst at work. He must not love you anymore and is just fustrated and you guys fighting just pushes him with another woman. do not ask me how guys think but they are dogs. Leave him. let's see what he does

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