My husband got really angry over something small, what to do?
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My husband got really angry over something small, what to do?
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Well my husband and I got married about 6 months ago, we have never really had a fight. He has been an awesome step-dad to my daughter.But the last few days its been different. My 5 year old called him a dummy jokingly and he hit her in the face, no marks but she and I got really upset over it. The last night, I got home from work late because I was getting the care fixed, he wanted to go out shopping again then later that night he wanted me to go out and get shakes from sonic because they are buy one get one. So I drove to get them, it took me 40 minutes because of traffic and a train. Ive never been to sonic so didn't know that cookies n cream was listed as a blast. I looked under shakes and didnt see it so I got him a different flavor. I got home and he blew up about how I didnt care enough to get him the right kind, and I didnt go out to get HIM a shake. We yelled about it for a little while and then he got mad because I didn't want to go BACK out and get the right one when I worked since 7 am and had only been home for maybe 30 minutes and it was now 9 pm.
I just dont know what to do we aren't speaking now. I mean he can be a great guy but sometimes he really makes me mad. Like "joking" (he says he is) about me not being as pretty as other girls, or not cleaning enough, not cooking good enough, not cutting his toenails everyday. I mean what about me? I work full time just like him. I cook, clean, take care of everything. He gets home from work and doesnt do anything but play his videogames. I don't bug him to death until we go running all over town. Am I wrong? Any advice helps! Thanks
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I just feel like I am the bad parent. I mean he started off like the most amazing dad ever and I was so thankful. And my daughterr has come to favor him more than I. And I am her mother. I guess its cuz he watches her while I work and they go to stores and he buys her things. I just feel like no matter what we do we are not good enough. So why did he marry me? He has helped her become a very well behaved child and brought us out of a bad environment at my parents house. Maybe that has something to do with it, like he knows we would be right back there without him.
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Michael
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~ The answer is within yourself, in your heart ...
Look after yourself, then you can look after your daughter... this is what counts the most...
Abuse is abuse ... Mental and emotional abuse is the same as physical abuse...
He is trying to control and manipulate you ... and trying to use your daughter in this manipulation...
A true partnership, is one of being with an equal ... it of love ... and within that love, comes something that is as natural as breathing... caring, honesty, empathy, helping, sharing... etc etc etc ... If these natural qualities are not present, then the partnership is way out of balance ... and you know what to do ...
Wishing you all the very best in desiring the best for yourself and daughter...
Michael ... :) |
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karen d
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He is not a good step-dad to your daughter if he is hitting her and yelling at you. He doesn't work. He sounds like a real loser. Trust me, things will get a lot worse. You need to get away from this guy before he does some real harm to you and your daughter. |
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Liz
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He hit your 5-yo daughter in the face and you didn't walk out right then and there. He is NOT an "awesome step-dad", he is an abusive moron. As for you, you should crawl in a hole and die for allowing your daughter to be assaulted. I hope someone notifies the authorities soon so she'll be taken away from both you and your drug-addled "husband". |
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Lady
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Yes, I agree w/ karen d. You are in a very bad place. If he hit your daughter once he will do it again and you too. He is testing the water now to see how much he will be able to get away w/. You need to get out!. So make a plan. Prepare. Gather some cash and get your name off any of his credit cards and his name off all of yours. You may want to open a new savings account too. Pack a bag and keep it at a friends house in case you need to get out fast. This is a deal breaker. You are worth more than you are getting. |
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fleur d
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Yikes! The other poster mentioned drinking; maybe that or even drugs? This is a real mood swing. He also has a mean streak, saying things about other girls and criticizing your behavior. I think you guys need to have a serious talk, if that doesn't help, see a counselor, or even consider a brief serparation to see if he will come to understand that he is in danger of losing you guys with this unsafe, unstable behavior which is very BAD for a young child. You need to find out why he has changed, whether it's substance abuse, stress at work, stress from your fairly new relationship or something else going on. Mental issues? Good luck, I hope it works out for you! |
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Michael
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A relationship is two equal halves each with the equal responsibility to make the relationship work, he seems to be trying to be the dominant partner and that does not make for a healthy relationship. Your partner is supposed to respect you and always look to strengthen you not try and push you back down.
More worryingly is the fact that he struck your daughter, if he is prepared to strike a small child then the future does not look good. At the moment you look as if you are a victim of emotional abuse. Emotional abuse can be far more vicious than physical abuse because it can totally destroy you.
Abusers can be charming one moment and vile them next.
Normally I would look for a way where the relationship can be saved, but in this instance the sooner that you can get this individual out of your lives the better. |
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I don't think so
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He is not a responsible person and will surely be an Abusive dad.
You should have seen the signs before getting married but now its' too late. |
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Expecting a Christmas baby
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if he slaps your kid.... kick him out and kick his dog if he has one... just dont be weak... tell him to fing respect u of sod off... get him to read this post... |
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A
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An awesome step dad? I don't think smacking her in the face is awesome. He sounds dreadful and you letting him get away with that obnoxious and harmful behaviour means it's only going to get worse. You need to kick him out. |
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KeyshaJ
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Perhaps he's drinking and you don't know about it. |
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