My husband had an affair about 2 years ago she recently began bothering us again what do i do?

Like I said he had an affair about 2 years ago and now she has began sending emails to him trying to be cute "just thought I'd say hi, how ya been?" He has told her to stop on many times and so have I. When my husband and I decided to reconcile it was like pulling teeth to get her to leave us alone, what stopped it then was threatening a restraining order and she backed off immediately! Now that she is starting her crap again I of course reminded her that we would press charges and she then tells us that what she is doing is not illegal. I called the police to see what I could do and they said the same thing that because she is not threatening she is not breaking that law! I have tried to ignore it and it has become hard being the better person. Dont get me wrong if I see her walking down the street its game over she will be choking on her own teeth, but her being the person she is she will never come around were I could put that plan into action. I just dont know what to do anymore, somebody, anybody please help me.....

jude

u could block her on your e mail, if she is calling your phone get caller id and just don't answer the call. she is just jealous and as long as she knows she is hurting u she will keep it up because she is the one who lost, u got the man back and she lost him.

Debbie B

Block her from sending emails.

Linda K Texan for Life

Sounds like he needs a new e-mail address. And she is harrassing you both, that IS illegal

Honey Bee

YES, this is illegal. My husband's military police, and I've had issues with harassment in the past. This is harassment. Plain and simple, if you make it clear that you do not want a certain person contact you, and they continue to do so, it's harassment. The police that told you that were either clueless, lying, or just didn't want to deal with a "small" case like this. Make a fuss. Go down there personally to file harassment charges. Talk to as many police officers about it as you can. Don't just let them shoo you away because it'll be too much of a hassle for them to file the paperwork. Most importantly, DON'T CONTACT HER BACK. Not even to say don't contact us, leave us alone, etc. She's goading you. You're just giving her what she wants. Send her one e-mail stating that you want her to leave you alone or you'll file harassment charges. Print it out as proof. After that, nothing! No contact. Take all of the e-mails she sends you after that, print out all the call logs of her bugging you, etc. It is illegal, end of story. Don't let her get away with her immature antics.

thatartistwin

Block her email address. Then, go to the police and politely and very nicely ask them if they will please go over and have a "talk" with her because you fear things may get ugly. If it were me, I would demand that my husgand change his email address altogether, The inconvenience to him is worth it

happy06

First of all, it sounds like you are the one worried how to handle this when it should be your husband. Why doesn't he figure out how to handle this. He is the one who started it so now he needs to end it. I think it is weird that some people say well you are the one who got your man back.....yeah after he went out and had his fun. She is not jealous, she has already had your man.

RedRabbit

Actually, yes, she is breaking the law. You have asked her to leave you alone and she has refused. Remind the police that it is in fact harassment if they refuse to leave you alone and if they don't do something about it, you will be seeking a lawyer.

On a further note, I would have divorced him. I don't put up with such crap.

Paul&Fran

First off if she sends an email just click on spam and it will block any further ones without her knowledge there not being received. Unfortunately the little things she does there isn't a whole lot you can do. Hopefully she will get bored and move on without further incident.

Aussiemum

If you have told her to stop and she keeps doing it .....then yes it IS harassment.

Send her one last email telling her not to contact you guys again, at the bottom of the email log the time and date, and say that it will be used for legal reasons if it continues.

Then change your email and phone numbers and any contact details that she may have. Block her numbers, call your phone Company and put a block on any of her numbers.

If she contacts you again take a restraining order out immediately.

hlnlange

This is a problem your husband brought into your lives. Step back and let HIM handle this mess.

Why should you break your back to keep this "element" away?

Jery E

you called the police on somebody that emailed your husband "hello how are you doing?" you are a DOPE!

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