My husband has lied to me, what would you do?

flywho

You've already done it! You've packed all your things. Now you can take personal responsibility for your finances. If you get back together with him, insist on having an equal part in the financial transactions for your family. If you marry someone else, don't just 'be taken care of'.
Marriage is not adoption - you're not marrying a daddy, you're marrying a partner. Act as one.

karen i

stop take a deep breath; and realize that he is lying because he is scared. Talk to someone; a pastor, a trusted friend; a counselor and wait...and pray. May God pour out blessings on you in Jesus' name

fucose_man

How the heck could it get to this point and you not know anything was going on?
You and your husband have some serious communication issues.

You placed too much trust in him. He just told you "everything would be fine" and you completely neglected to ever wonder how you guys were doing, or ask about it?

Obviously he has some problems if this happened - but really, how could you be so blind?

crimsnclover

Men lie to cover up faults. They want to be perfect. They fear inadequacy. Discuss it with him. Tell him you are willing to work through it. You married him, why would you let lying get in the way of the person you chose to say "I do" to?

Communicate both sides without getting into a heated debate. Tell him you understand why he lied but explain how it made you feel, without being critical and judgemental. Hold your anger and speak with love.

Try and work through it. Tell him a marriage involved honesty and 100% trust. You won't be able to trust him fully right away. Ask him why this happened and if you cant pay bills and have authority over the checkbook until he has re-gained your trust.

Some good marriages can get through cheating, betrayal, and much more difficult situations than this... so evaluate the importance to you.

Is marriage, love, your husband, worth fighting for?

Gulfstream_five_fifty

Lie to him.
Tell him your going to vist Mama for a few days...
Dont come back...Let him sort it out!

Anthony C

maybe he is embarressed that he couldnt pay, are u just going to leave him when times are hard? what kind of wife does that? remember your vows?

donia f

discuss it with him!!

Stuck in the middle of nowhere

Maybe he needed a hand with things, and was to embarrassed to ask you for help. He is probably ashamed because he failed you and your daughter. Why don't you at least give him a chance to explain?? Why would you leave your husband over this, didn't you say you would stick it out through good times and bad times? It kind of sounds like he is just your meal ticket.

celestial_guy

always give second chance in married life
its my experience this second chance severs as good as
new life
any one can commit mistake
give them time to realize their fault
when they do they will love you morre than before

earthlove

you are cruel. IMAGINE HOW HE IS GONNA FEEL AFTER YOU LEAVE . IS this love you promosed?
or you wrote a contract with him?

I'll go with that

talk to your husband....maybe there is a reason why it wasn't paid....or maybe he sent the wrong check....one time my mother sent the rent check to the water company and the water company never told us....

shdwtalker2002

Why leave him? Hand him the eviction notice and say, "Now what are you going to do?" He needs a place to live too, so it seems highly likely that he will come up with the money, or else move the family.

JenS12

remeber your wedding vows...for better and for worse you need to work with your husband and fix things asap

masterzuaba

he didn't lie to you, unless he lost the rent money foolishly wasting it. He hide the fact that he was having problems. Now things get rough from time to time. Money doesn't grow on trees. You can ask him to tell you when things get rough and work though them or you can act like a spoiled brat and leave someone that loves you enough to keep you in the dark on how the world really works.

Gaga Warlock

Did you marry him just because he could take care of you? Do you work and contribute to the household income?

It could be that he was ashamed to tell you that there was a problem. Maybe he thought that you would not be the understanding spouse you think you are and leave him.

If you talk about the issue with your husband, maybe you'll be in a better position to assess the situation.

lauras1111

pray for the right answer to know what to do. It will come

whisper001

kick him out this is the start of many many lies , you are worth more than this and good luck

to_sassy4_u

Lesson learned........never ever NOT know what your financial situation is!! If he can't share financial information with you ....you are definitely better off without him.

jake

Are any of you people saying "Leave" in a relationship? She should at least try to work things out. As one person said, hand him the eviction notice and ask him what he is going to do. Talk it out over a beer tonight.

Princess B

WHAT WAS HE DOING WITH THE RENT MOMEY? YOU LEFT OUT THE VITAL PART OF THE STORY????????? Then maybe we can answer and feel good about what we say. Too many people wanting to cast stones and NOT know where that money was going????

Shelly

How is it a woman in the 21st century has no idea about the finances in the household? I know this is going to come off as harsh...but, if you choose to give up your independence, choose to not be a contributor, or at the very least keep yourself informed of financial responsibilities that impact your family ...then don't start playing poor me now.

I am so tired of listening to woman who feel as though they have no responsibility or accountability when it comes to finances.

American Beauty

What have you been doing, while your husband has been taking care of you? Have you contributed anything to the marriage? Have you taken any interest in the paying of bills? Do you even know how much your husband earns? How long are you going to hold him to a promise he obviously can't keep?

Instead of bailing out, why don't you sit down and talk with your husband? Why not discover the truth? If he's having financial problems, get a job and help the man.

kitkat

Leave the lieing dog.

Starla_C

STICK TO YOUR VOWS!! Stay and work things out together. That's what marriage is all about. It's not until someone gets angry, it's until death do us part. Neither one of you are dead.

Work through these kinds of things TOGETHER and your marriage will be concrete forever!

jlsmith

He has hit you at the core of your being and that is the home front. Have you any idea what he may have used the rent money for? If so, was it for your benefit at all? If not I would confront him and inquire as to what may have happened,(Give him a chance to prove he isn't a total scum) and if his reason is not one of extreme need, I personally would be headed for the airport straight away. Something in your gut has already told you that there is a problem so if there is no good reason for not having paid the rent or given you a heads up on what might be coming, leave now because it would seem that you may not play as important a role in his life as you should. In other words; save yourself.

Emptiness

Tell him you need to have the proof in your hands, so that you can prove it to the landlord.
If he can not give you proof he is lying and I would ask what he did with the money.
Start checking on the bills to make sure you are not going to be slapped with something else.
You can't do allot about his lying but you can start watching out for yourself.

peachez

i would seperate till he get his shi* together. you got kids to thi nk about

Amanda F

well one thing u have 2 ask is do u love him? if u dont then leave... if u do think about it he cant help that he cant pay for it... things change times change they get hard then they get better... i think u should stay and give him a chance try and help him pay for the rent that he owes... but its your choice i wouldnt leave just cause he told me that when i got married and i say if he said it he meant it... and he will do all he can to support u... but like i said times get hard especially in 2days society

harold g

hello left my heart leave the sorry sob and get a divorce he wasnt right telling you the lies he has told you gal im a male but i really dont like other men that lie to there wives

assfagjim

castration

delhi 80 girl

just try to find out whr he was spending money and try to fight with the situation

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