My husband has not touched me for 10 years. Is it still wrong for me to look for someone else?

silverearth1

honey if my husband would not have so much touched me after a half year i would have gotten me a divorce long time ago. Start living!

$weet@n$e*!

You have the right to look for a reall man. Just divorse him and go out with someone else.

nicole1

you should have left him 9 years ago, girl go and live before life pass you by

steve_sr2006

go for it...im surprised you waited this long

HAPPY BORI

MY DEAR ,10 YEARS! .I'M SORRY BUT I THINK YOU NEED TO LEAVE HIM AND MOVE ON (HE ALREADY DID).

pepzi_bandit 2

hoho, WHAT a selfish sh*t you live with
+way passed time to kick him out.....certainly hes not setting a good example to the kids and nor are you, get your self esteem and your life back, WITHOUT him
and take him to the cleaners at same time. cause he deserves it.
I wish you good luck.
wow, your gonna get some reactions from this Q
xx

curlycute

Have you lost your ever loving mind? No I want to start over again! HAVE YOU LOST YOUR EVER LOVING MIND? That question deserved all capital letters! Girlfriend......... What's Up? If my husband ever did that sh!t to me he would be the one crying a damn muddy river! I don't play honey! Every man I have ever dated in my entire life has given me nothing but big time respect! Because I'm a black woman that will dig a hole without it. Meaning that hole would be for their @sses to be buried in. I'm a fire sign.....Aries! And I don't play! At the same time I've always had men eating out the palm of my hands and tipping ever so closely on my heels! If you take Sh!t, they will dish Sh!t! I don't take Sh!t! You have to find your spine and do a 96 degree turn honey. If you're feeling un-attractive, overweight, depressed. THEN SNAP OUT OF IT! Get some Mary Kay, eat lettuce and tomatoes with grill chicken w/low carb and get some anti-depressant and give your husband your @ss to kiss! It works for me!

peachez

yall need a DIVORCE!!!! you should have been getting some a long *** time ago. and ppl who stay together for the kids dont realize they will probAly hurt them more my parents hurt me by staying together because they were making eachother miserable and made me miserable in the process GET OUT NOW!!! and while you waiting for your divorce get you some

kelbean

Divorce first and then go for it. Staying together for the children may be doing more harm than good because you are not showing them how a normal loving relationship should be.

sarcastro1976

It's wrong on one level, or you wouldn't be asking. But that's not for others besides you and your husband (and God, if you believe in that) to judge.

If you want this new thing to last, though, it probably won't unless you aren't living with your husband.

inlovewow

Why are you still married? Your husband is cheating on you! What's the deal? Geezzzzzz, you people that want to stay married to cheaters is beyond me!!!!!!!!! Lady, take your children out of that unhealthy household and get a new life elsewhere! Get divorced first before you touch another person. You'd be guilty of adultry! You don't want that hanging over you all the time do you????

Troubled Joe(the ghost of)

go for it. you're entiltled to a bit of slap and tickle.

Gerry

You should have gotten a divorce years ago, Your husband is selfish and wants his own way, show him the door and tell him not to let it hit him in the A-- on the way out and also tell him not to come back, cause you are headed for a better life!

Michelle118

It is wrong. You are in a very screwed up situation and you need to leave this relationship now!

hawndawg

stop suffering and go get some baby.

why won't you just divorce?

babyLemon

The problem with this is that two wrongs do not make a right. And of course, the possible legal ramification that your husband will divorce you based on your indiscretion and on top of that, take away your kids from you.

What you should do, is divorce him and get whatever you can get out of him. If possible, sue the women, too, for the loss of affection between you and your husband. Make sure that you get what you can possibly get from his affairs. And make damn sure that the kids are with you, and demand exorbitant child support. Now, when the ink on the divorce papers is dry, then go shag the new man. :)

* Vee *

Divorce your husband and start dating. You need to move on, your husband has. Even though intimacy is not the main part of a relationship, it is a very important part. Without intimacy, what's the use of being married?

grady e

you would only be doing what he is. Its really not fair doing that to your children you would actually be doing them a favor by leaving him. I am sure you would find someone out there to love you and treat you they way you deserve to be treated, but you need to get rid of your husband.

Paxton S

If you stay together for the kids, it's harder on the kids. If you'd have split 10 years ago, they'd be ok with it by now, instead you're going to subject them to affair, and distrust, whatever else comes with it. You shouldn't be together, and generally speaking, you're out of luck with rebounds, as they have a higher than 95% failure rate if initiated sooner than a year after a break.

CL R

I think it would be wrong. You made a committment to your husband as he did to you. Sure, he has broken his commitments, but if you are to break yours you are coming down to his level. Get a divorce from him, and then move on.

Sam I am

hey, your husbands doing it, i say go for it, why should he get to have fun and not you?

good luck in life.

sassywv

Get a divorce...it's 10 years LONG overdue. I wouldn't have let a man stay in my home where he was cheating on me. You need physical love as well as mental love. Don't become what he is, do it the right way, you'll feel better about yourself in the mornings

h8rz_luv_mizz_t2

DAMN! If u want the marriage to work, see a councelor! If not, get a divorce, women have needs too, u shouldnt put urs aside!

teala

Go for it. Hope you enjoy it.

PiNkY

Well, even though the marriage vows HE took apparently didn't mean anything, YOURS still should! If you want out, get out - he's given you the grounds by cheating. If he wants to see his kids, he can have shared custody - he gave up the right to be a hands-on Dad when he chose to cheat on you. Don't raise your children in a loveless environment and a cheating husband. Get out now and find someone who will love you in every sense of the word AND provide a chance for your children to see how a real marriage should work!!!

I wish you well!!!

kja63

Yes, it is always wrong to break your marriage vows.

I suggest you contact a lawyer and have the lawyer help you file for divorce on the grounds of cruelty or alienation of affection. File for custody of the children as well. Have your lawyer help you getting your husband (in name only) removed from the property.

tragil

You deserve better than this...It is wrong for both of you to do it; couldn't you dissolve the marriage and work out an amicable situation with the children? The most important thing about raising children together is that you are respectful and considerate of one another; not necessarily that you are still married. P.S.- When your kids get older, they will know this arrangement for what it is. They will pick up on the fact that you're not in love. Do you want them to pick up on the idea that infidelity is ok, too? You sound like a loving, responsible person. You deserve someone who values that, and you shouldn't have to settle for a purely physical relationship.

KokoQueen

Okay, so you know your husband is having an affair and he is not intimate with you, but you stayed with this person? What is wrong with you???? Get a divorce!!!!

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