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Anarchy99
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Dump him! Learn english, and move on! |
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dianesomeone
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you are kidding right???? Why in God's name would you ever consider giving him another chance? You are a meal ticket and nothing more...he could care less about you or your kids....kick him out of your house and raise your kids...you should never look back...good luck |
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Webballs
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Get rid of him!!! This is what you do, get a great divorce lawyer and get him to pay alimony! |
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stacy
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You should get an attorney and fight for your rights. |
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Btieti
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he's no good.....leave him alone! he is not worth your time anymore. |
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glassnegman
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Hello Dear..
If he has ever hit you....DON'T EVER GO BACK TO HIM!!!!!!
Your children do NOT need to grow up in a house where violence is a part of the picture. They do not need to see this as a possible lifestyle choice. Do you want your son to grow up to beat his wife, or your daughter to seek out a man who beats her?? Of course not.
Staying with a man who beats you is definitely increasing the odds that these things will happen, however.
Stay with your mother for now, spend you money on your kids. Divorce your husband, and make him pay child support. Then you can get a house of your own.
Good luck with all of this, I've been in your son's shoes. It's a terrible place to be.
Namaste,
--Tom |
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JadeNicole
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NO DO NOT GIVE HIM ANOTHER CHANCE>>>WHAT IS WRONG WITH YOU?
he threw you out of the house with your children...if you don't love your self...then for gods sake spare a thought for your children...you frustrate me |
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paintedrain2
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I wouldn't risk taking another chance, until he can prove to you that he'd treat you better. |
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Clarkie
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I'm praying that you made this all up, but if you didn't, DO NOT GO BACK there! |
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Barbara
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You need to get a divorce, take the kids, take your house and start a new life.
He is an abuser who preys on your insecurities and good nature to make you feel like you owe him something. You don't. You didn't owe him the last 11 years of salary, and you owe him nothing now.
He should pay child support, etc. Get a good lawyer, document the cheating and beating, and you will get all of that. Until you stand up for yourself your never going to find a good healthy relationship. |
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jemba
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oh my god throw him out of your life if he makes you so miserable
if he abused you onced he'll abused you again
i heard of this woman who got burned alive by he abbusive husband
she 's alive now but she's all burned
divorced him already
i watch that episode on Oprah |
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Surfergirl
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forget about him. he abused you, cheated on you, took your money, disrespected you, and dumped you out on the curb. find a man who will love you AND your children and won't treat you badly. |
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Pinolera
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You said he beat you? What right does he have to beat you? Is he beating the kids and rest assure he will do so one of these days if he hasn't already done so. I think you have a lot of thinking to do. People don't change overnight so don't assume he has. |
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Enigmasam
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For a man who spends on your money, you should really think twice about giving him more. As he is obviously in your explaination trying to find quick cash for the purpose of getting a new home for himself just in case you manage to find the guts to chase him out in the first place. Now is the time you tell him to buck up and find the place he needs on his own. You should not even be asking this here cause everyone will tell you to please stop fooling yourself giving youself the false hopes that he is going to become a GOOD MAN. Cause it is impossible.
My views are these,
1, he wants the money so he can start off somewhere with another lady,
2, he wants to move out on his own so that he can save his face should he get chased out.
3, he is just making use of you for the last time and goodbye... |
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Out on a limb returns
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THROW HIM OUT ON HIS A$$! YOU ARE BETTER AND DESERVE BETTER THAN HIM! |
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Nurse Answer Mama
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Sounds like you and your children are better off without him. |
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William T
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Get yourself together and move on. The courts are on your side, you'll make out OK. |
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free_angel
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Sic an attorney on him and file for divorce. Let him know your kids come first before he does. |
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ASINGLEMOM
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First of all, call the cops on him for beating you. Second, call the cops for trespassing and living on your property. 3rd, call the cops for stealing from you. Just call the cops, get his butt in jail, get a restraining order, and get your child support.
DO IT FOR YOUR KIDS IF NOT FOR YOURSELF. Move on. Nobody deserves that kind of treatment. You should be kicking him out. Don't wait for him to prove anything. He had 11 years to prove his love to you, if he hasn't yet, then get rid of him. Plenty of fish in the sea honey. Don't let your kids live through this. They'll grow up to be angry at both of you. Him for beating you and you for letting him. |
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sweety
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listen, love isint supposed to hurt!!. if you are in a relationship that doesent reward you mentally, physically, emotionally and financially. then you dont need to be in this relationship. it sounds like your husband has some serious issues and he has been using you. its time for you to wise up and accept respomsibility, for your life. you owe it to yourself and your children to get out of this destructive relationship. |
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yo mama
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Hes not worth it.. Good for you for realizing your mistake and trying to correct it... Women need to stop giving men our whole lives and expecting them to do the same... Men will just take whatever you give.. you have to watch out for yourself.. a man will respect a woman who respects herselves-stands up for herself- and takes care of herself
Move on, he is not worth the trouble and mind games he is about to bring on you... start a new 'fun life and try and do things you never could before.. meet new people... and meet your soul mate while you are at it... this guy is trash. |
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versus
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That you are asking the question in this way shows that you already know the answer but are reluctant to go through with it.
You may have legal rights requiring protection, in which case it would be wise to find a lawyer.
If you are worried about being unable to pay a lawyer, consider approaching community groups to help you. They may be able to help you find a family law clinic. They may also be able to assist you with other needs, and connect you with people who can assist your children as well.
There are some resources online which may assist you. A google search using the name of your city and the words 'abused women' will point you to some of them.
This must be a difficult time for you all. Best of luck. |
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The cool one
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Get rid of him. He isn't trust worthy. Your children have grown-up and are manageable. You are financially independent.....go ahead live your life. as it is he has not treated you well. |
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Saheli
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Hi..another typical wife problem. Most of us working females face this horrible situation in life. First of all ...understand your husband fully. He is ready to call you back with real respect and love then go back to him as your children need his support in the society. It is very very difficult to manage without a husband next to you. This society will take utter advantage of you if you are single. But if you feel he will not change at all and will still continue to spend on call girls..continue to beat you...abuse you...better send him out of your life. At least you can give more respectable life to your kids. But keep this option of 'throwing him out' as the last option as the relationship between a husband and a wife is too strong to just to stop at one shot. It is God made..so think and take any step keeping even your children's future in mind...Gud luck..May God bless you. |
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keral
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nothing give him and do divorse and you file a petition in womens coart against his bad behavior |
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picture
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oh my God how can you even ask? throw the *** wipe out of your life and that no good s.o.b. can go straight to the fiery furnace of he*ll. |
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suni
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i do not think you can trust him again....but still have a word with him once and then make a decision....u have ur entire life in front of you.....if you think you can take a divorce and marry again please go ahead...you are a woman of this generation....cannot accept all kind of nonsense from a man |
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Nischai Foundation
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As you mentioned yours was not a "perfect marriage" it raises the question will it become "perfect marriage" if you take him back? I do not think so. I think you need to do lots of brain storming before making any concrete decision on this matter. There are many Q's that need to be answered before you can make a sound decision. Do not allow others to make decision on your behalf not even your dad or mom. Take control of your life.
Here are few Q that I think can help you to move forward:
How are children attached to their dad?
Does he take active part in daily chorus of the house?
Does he and your in-laws are keeping good relationship with you?
Do they respect your suggestions?
Does he keeps you in dark about his daily and nightly activities?
Do you know who all are his friends?
Do you feel more insecure in his absence?
Do you go out for weekends and holidays with him and enjoyed?
Do his presence make you complete family at home?
There are many more Q which are to be answered.
You seriously need a counselling and if you think we can help you please email to nischai_org@yahoo.co.in with more details. |
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John B
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If you take this man back you can look forward to a future of just what it has been. If he took all your paychecks......gave a nice ring to a call girl......and beats you up....those you out of the house when you stop the money.... it is a pretty good guess there is only one reason he keeps you around. Your money.
He does not love or respect you. There is clearly no reason to take this man back. If you like the beatings and the uncertainty of what he will do next then sure take him back. But your time and money would be much better spent on finding a man that you can trust and who will love you....not your money. |
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J T
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No you should not take another chance. If you remain away from his life for some time he will definitely realise your importance in his life. Do not allow him to take any thing for granted. Try to settle yourself with your children and do not commit the same mistake again. |
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