My husband hits me all the time but i have no friends or family to help me and no money as he takes?

Becca2002

Time to straighten his @ss up girl. Don't take that. When my 1st ex kept hitting me and my family/friends wouldnt help I took matters in my own hands, the last time I went through the wall he went flying through a window. My advice is hit back that shows you aint taking his sh1t no more. If you feel you can't hit back or you're scared look into some abuse shelters for women and if that isn't in question leave and call the cops have him thrown in jail and in the meantime while he's sitting in jail you find a place to go a place he wouldnt know the first place to look. If your family fears him in any way I wouldn't tell them where I was. Get a restraining order or most states have legal assistance and you can nail him with a divorce. Play it nasty "you fear for your life."
Thats what I would of done if things wouldn't of changed but they did after he realized he pushed me too far and was thrown through a window...
I'm not suggesting you throw him through a window, I'm suggesting that you have him arrested find a place to go that he wouldnt know where to look and get legal assistance.

anon000

phone the nearest womens refuge in the phone book and they can help you make plans to leave this destructive relationship, you do not need any money let the refuge know what is going on and they will help. do not be afraid anylonger find the strength from within and make that call. otherwise your husband will in time get more violent and you as a human being deserve so much more than the pain he is giving you right now. there are people out there who can help including the police they will protect you.

glynis4673

Domestic violence is illegal, and there are many refuges that you can go to if you have no family or friends to help you.

prof

look in the phone book for support groups in your area start with womens aid helpline, domestic abuse should never to tollerated things will only get worse remember he has the problem not you.

lefty

Trying to help someone like you is like trying to help an alcoholic. If you want help you have to help yourself. I think if you truly want to get out of this relationship, you can find a way. Don't bother trying to get back at him, just get out . I tried to help a woman in an abusive relationship once, and she just went back to him. Have some respect for yourself.

lolitakali

Do you own a heavy cast iron pan? Knock him out, take the money, RUN!!! Do you even look back on ***-holes like that?

BREE

You really don't have to face this alone, there is help out there such as domestic violence organisations for women like yourself. When a man hits a women usually it's about having control, and power over the woman, but remember you don't have to face this alone, you deserve respect, and if he's not showing you that, and resorts to hitting you, then you should seek help. Your husband probably feels insecure about himself, that's why he behaves in this way.

I wish you luck.

why are you still with him if he is hitting you? no one has to take that. Surely he must work or go out sometime. Find your local womans refuge centre and go there for help. Alternatively report him to the police and report him for domestic violence.

Anti-technology Girl

There are shelters for women who are abused. I'm sure you don't want to go to a shelter but I can guarantee that if you go, you will no longer have to say, "I don't have any friends." You will also get the professional support to learn how to take care of yourself. Abusers thrive on those who don't have friends and family to call the police on them or confront them. You can call the police yourself but I believe the new "family violence" laws dictate that you both get arrested. Counseling will probably be ordered after attending court how many times. If you can get your husband to go to counseling without an arrest, you're better off. Do you have any children? If so, it is your OBLIGATION to get them out of the house!

Consider this: In abuse situations, the abused has the mistaken impression that the only person who can heal their hurt is the one caused it. When you break free of this thinking you will be on your way to recovery. This is not just your husband's illness. It is yours too. I hope you find the support you need and deserve. Keep us updated and e-mail me anytime.

Samba Queen

Find out if there are shelters or safe houses for battered women and go there! Do not stick around and let this cowardly waste of flesh kill you!

dlgrl=me

you don't need money to get help, contact your council or social services office--online if you have to , they can direct you properly. please don't keep yourself in such a risky situation, it's imperative that you get help TODAY, do not wait, you are worth more and deserve more, he will only grow more and more abusive the longer you let him use you as a punching bag
good luck to you, you can do it!

The Marvellous Mad Madam Mim

There is support out there for people like you... Just reading through your replies so far is enough to make you realise that you have to be strong and you CAN leave him... I understand that you are scared, I too have been in your situation, and I too had no support from family down to my own pride and embarassment... I was fortunate enough to have a lady who, at the time, was assigned to be my "key-worker" in the refuge that I was in, and she has become a great friend who helped me through a very difficult time...

I also know that you probably be making excuses for his behaviour such as "he still loves me" and "I love him, and he is always sorry afterwards"... His behaviour is totally unacceptable and you SHOULDN'T put up with it... But then all the people in the world can tell you that you must leave him, and you musn't put up with it, just as I have.... If you don't want to help yourself then there is nothing much anyone else can do...

I think that firstly you need to leave the house... Even if you continue your relationship, at least you know you have a safe place to go at night... Then start thinking seriously about what you want out of your life... Either you want to be happy or you are content to stay miserable... I know which one I chose... You deserve better and the sooner that you realise that, the sooner you can start to help yourself and seek help... You are not alone, just looking at some of the replies you have received will show you that...

Domestic Violence is sadly very common and not enough women speak up about it and are prepared to do anything about it... Thats why we hear of so many women, and men, being found dead or badly hurt... Don't let yourself be another one we read about in our papers over a cup of tea in the morning... Google womens refuges in your area and start making arrangements to leave...

I left with nothing... No house, no money... But I survived... That surely is more important than material things...

I was beaten by an ex and I ran into him recently... I was of course a little scared, but I refused to let him see that, and made it clear when he tried to behave the way he did before (intimidating and aggressive) that I was no longer the scared little girl that I once was... It also gave me a clear viewpoint that in fact, instead of being the big tough man I was so terrified of for so long, he was a pathetic, insecure little boy...

I am now married to a lovely man, so please believe that there are good ones out there... I used to believe that I deserved nothing less and it was only through the support of professionals that I came to realise that I am better than that and deserved so much more...

There is obviously not as much support as there should be, BUT there is some!!! So use it...

Good luck and I hope that you come to realise that all the excuses in the world cannot make his behaviour right...

Be strong and give yourself a chance for the kind of life you deserve and REMEMBER... You are a long time dead... Enjoy your life whilst you have it and don't help someone make it shorter...

xxx

Charlie S

You need to get out find someone who treats you with respect. To save time, I live alone, respect women so come and live with me, we share all expenses and you decide other living arrangements

krystel k

I can relate to your situation and I must say that as much as you must love husband, you really do need to look after your own safety and find a much happier lifestyle. Remember you were only put on this earth once and it should be a very happy and memorable time. No man should hit a woman - you can get help, firstly go and seek legal advice or even talk to your doctor, there may even be a womens refuge around. You get always get your life back together with a little confidence and with support you will bloom.... get a job and maybe you will when ready find the right man who will respect and love you for the person you really are. Good luck and God bless!!

Michelle

Both my mum and one of my best mates were hit by thier partners, what they both found to be the best solution was to go into a shelter for battered women. My friend was so scared that for 6 months she was put in a new house in a new area, this may be the best solution for you. From there you can plan a new life away from him. Starting a new can be hard, but it makes such a difference. Good luck and god bless.

mary l

you have two feet and a door that opens out . walk on out. it will never get better. never....

Tracey E

I was in the same situation years ago. my ex was a total brute. i left him and i left broke. i had no money and two kids. there should be a local womens abuse shelter in your area or near. check yahoo for the yellow pages and look up abuse shelters or call the local police station to ask where the place is at. they should help you and you can remain annoymous. the shelter will provide food and stuff. mine took care of me.

do not be afraid to leave that situation as it only gets worse as time goes on. they do not change no matter how much they cry and beg. i could write you a life history on this topic. email me if you need emotional support.

â™¥monamarieâ™¥

There are a lot of places for help out there. You need to be in touch with womens crisis. Drop off the face of the earth my dear, he is NO GOOD, and dont you think that he will ever change because he wont. This is YOUR life. Live it how you want it girl.

mike-from-spain

Find you local womens refuge, pack a bag and go there while he is out, AND DON'T GO BACK TO HIM!

msqtech

almost every place in the US there are shelters to help women in your situation just when you get the chance call them and get out. You dont deserve abuse. Your local churches should be able to direct you.

Good Luck and God Bless!!

jsjr12469

and they girls r smarter than boys!!!!!boys would not let themselves.get hit and take your $$$$$ away.

Evil J.Twin

Well he can't take your money if you leave him. Sneak out while he's out. Don't let him know where you are. Surely there must be some sort of refuge for people in your situation.

PRINCESS.

Why does he hit you? You sound like he's been doing that since your honeymoon. Why are you with him in the first place, I mean how did you wind up with a fighter for a husband? Cant you try to sit down and work it out? I dont want to believe that you have nowhere to run. GO, or you may not live to see a better day.

goindownbaza

start behaving yourself, do things right the first time,so he won't slap you,or you just might have one of these faces people just want to punch,then theres nothing you can do about it

tennessee_cherokee

Go to the nearest church and talk to the clergy, tell him what is going on and you need help, before your husband kills you, you need to find shelter, I am pretty sure they have domestic violence shelters in the UK , and if you have to, call the police and ask them to recommend a place for you to go to. There is always someone to help you, just finding them is the problem, The church is a sanctuary. Just pack what you can carry on you and get out, you can come back for the rest later with the police in tow, so they can make sure he doesn't hit you while you are getting the rest of your things. But find a program for battered women first, and get the ball rolling. Good Luck to you and God Bless.

Butt

Get out.I Had a girlfriend who's guy did the same undermining her confidence more and more,but she wouldn't leave.He did,i kicked the **** out of him.She's now remarried,teaching and
both are very happy.If your to frightened to take legal action check
the web or your local library for groups,numbers.Stop and talk to
any police officer and they will give you advice.
I pray you leave and are eventually able to get past this
Good Luck

brighteyes62301

Is there a womans shelter you can go to? The next time he hits you call the police on him. Do not take that abuse cuz it will only get worse. If you can't get away you need to bring the law in they can help. Do not alow him to get away with hitting you.

dizzymooo

If you go to the job centre and speak to someone you can get housing benifit and income support so they will help you find a place to live and pay for it and you will get money every week also. There are also hostals.Get out you dont diserve to be hit for not cooking his tea the right way nuts to him if my other half said that he would be wearing it!!!!

Your lucky that it is just you and not a child also, he is showing his true colours now ibet you wouldnt have married him if you knew he was like this would you? You can also get a divorce through legal aid so you dont have to pay for it.

Ive been helping my aunt do all this with her ex.
Be brave do you want to live like this for the rest of your life? Where is your mum or dad cant they help at all even if it means going home with tail between legs.

If you need help dont be scared to ask for it email me if you need to chat good luck x

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