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Isis
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Hi. Look, I am no trained counselor, so take my ideas for what they are worth, but it sure seems like you are feeling hurt and very deeply. You can't ignore that. It will only go deeper into your heart and open up mistrust between you and your spouse. You have got to talk with him about it. Let him know that he hurt you. If he acknowledges this and apologizes, it will make you feel much better. If he does not, you will at least have a good gauge of the level of his feeling about you. |
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bic
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maybe he was just teasing. brush it off. |
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OklahomaSweetie
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If your feelings are hurt then you are not over-reacting. You need to talk to him about it and find out why he said that. |
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cfoxwell99
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I would not take it serious, men can say the silliest things. |
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michael g
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Sounds like he is a bit of a bast-ard! Did he tell you who and why? Does he act honestly and supportive of you normally? Tell him people often laugh at him too but you have always defended him! A white lie can be very helpful at times. And maybe they really are laughing at him! What a loser he is to be so callous to you. |
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chocolatedrop
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well you are a lil but he couldve keep that to his self |
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Justme
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No, women are always sensitive, thats what makes us women. Just let him know that it was not cool and that you feel like after 16 years of marriage, u feel like he is CHANGING. If he loves u, he wont do it again |
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dukalink6000
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Perception is a problerm and as far as I am concerned, I want someone else to tell me.
I just ignore it myself |
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asiantomato84
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he could have been joking with you. Don't let this bother you too much. I would make a much bigger deal if he was tearing you self-esteem down and putting you down on a regular basis. |
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gabriel_demus
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If you are offended, then no, you're not over-reacting, that's not a cool thing to hear about yourself! You need to tell your hubby that it hurt your feelings and that you aren't over-reacting.
Good Luck!
Aloha! |
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watergirl54
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Ask him to explain himself. Was HE embarassed and saying that other people were laughing at you? One comment does not a marriage break. If you have been married 16 yrs, something else is bothering you. |
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Kelly
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Depends on the tone of the voice. My guess is he is just joking. I'm pretty sure he still loves you. |
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Niki
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No, I don't think that you are over reacting! I think that your hubby should have to told you but not that way. It would hurt my feelings too! You shouldn't care what anyone else thinks all that matters is that ya'll are having a great time! And he should be spending more time with your niece instead of shooting pool it was her night not his! |
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lisaisfunn1
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i dont think you were over reacting i would feel the same your right this man is supposed to build you up not tear you down talk to him tell him how he hurt you let him know how you feel remember what might be a big deal to you may not always be a big deal to him so make sure he sees your side |
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kandy p
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lol he just said all that because he is mad because i bet you were having a good time and he got mad because other guy were checking you out. kick his *** girl and tell him to kiss yours |
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Billy
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Hey, just slow down. Nothing happens.
Your husband might be a bit jealous. It is ok, he was jealous because he cares you. Yet, he should let do what you like to, if it is just normal communication. You might need a talk with him. |
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Tony
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Wow.... your marriage must be really fragile that a comment like that would erase 16 years of marriage and good times and change the way you look at him?
Either there is more going on or your an idiot. And I don't think you're an idiot. So what is really going on?
Just my thoughts.... |
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mamma bird
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maybe he is a little jealous you having a great time. you could say, well laughing at me gives somebody else a break. wanna go dancing sat. night. watch his face then |
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♥♥♥GODDESS♥♥♥
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you should have asked him to be more precise about these people who he thought were laughing at you. |
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CoLeY
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I think that you have a right to express your feelings, if it hurt it hurt. Bottom line. Maybe he should learn how to be more sensitive. Remind him about the old rule : If you don't have anything NICE to say, don't' say anything at all! |
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Princesa
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you are over reacting. thats nothing to get too upset about. Maybe people were laughing at you and not with you, not to offend. but it happens. if you're getting this upset about something so small .... i dunno. I hope you guys can last over the important and difficult times |
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Answerkeeper
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You aren't over reacting if he knew you were doing something that made people think you were silly or laugh at you he should have stood up for you a bit or at least stopped you early on and pulled you aside privately and said something.
It may be untrue and he could be jealous people were laughing at things you said in the right way and you took attention from him or he felt you attracted too much attention. Regardless you need to talk to him and set the record straight and find out. It will drive you nuts otherwise.
Ask him to explain his comment you'll know pretty quick if it is true or just his own insecurity speaking up. Try to take criticism calmly and don't get upset if he does point out some social faux pas you made but do ask him to help you not repeat it if it is true you were laughed at. At least your friends had class enough not to let on or make you feel bad which is so far all he has done about the entire issue. |
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Leader Lady Sue
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Just because your husband said that they were laughing at you, doesn't make it so. You should mention to him that his statement hurt your feelings and then let it go. Men are dumb like that. ;-) |
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teresa.edmonds@sbcglobal.net
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No not over reacting. your feelings were hurt and by the man that you love. Men are so silly he is just mad that you were having more fun then he was. Shake it off and keep on going. |
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Sounds like he was trying to spare your feelings by telling you they were laughing at you. How would you have felt if he told you that you were a lousy dancer? Maybe he should have done that instead. |
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texas.okie
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My advice to you would be not to sweat the small stuff and this really is small stuff compared to 16 years of marriage. Pick your battles and make sure it is worth making something out of it first. Know how to approach the situation. You want a solution, not a confrontation.
If you feel you have to talk to him about it, you might start off by tell him that you married him because you wanted to share your life with him, in the good and the bad times, and that his opinion means more to you than anyone elses, and tell him that it hurt you the way he said it, and that you want to know if he was serious or just joking. Then you will know which way to handle it.
If he says he is serious, then don't get mad. Calmly ask him to tell you why he feels like that.. Maybe he heard something. Maybe he was just joking. As I said, don't sweat the small stuff.... I hope it goes well for you. Good luck. |
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early bird
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What was the laughter about? Were you drunk and being foolish? Was he upset because you were ignoring him?
There is more going on here. You both need to discuss what is
the problem!! If you over reacted, could it be that you can't handle the truth. Does he normally say things to hurt you?
Don't lose a good marriage because of one unkind word, get to the bottom of what ever it is. |
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