My husband insists on being a couch potato, and keeping in touch with his ex's...Is this normal?

taylor

well first you should ask him why he wants to be a couch potato and tell him he needs to help you with the pregnacy to. and about the x-wife thing that is so not normal. ask him about it before jumping to solutions.

grrrrme

Sweetie, the key word in your story is ex-wives plural. He has a serious problem, obviously. If he does not want to step up and get a job to support you and his soon to be child then you need to get on with your life. Don't let a so-called man like that keep you down. It is not healthy for you or your new baby on the way. There is no reason for him to contact his ex-wives unless they have children together. But if they don't then he should not be talking to any of them at all. You need to think about your baby now, not you anymore. Everything that happens from this point on will affect your baby. Keep that in mind as you go on your journey. Think about if he is really the person you should be with especially cause you have a little one on the way. I would gather my thoughts, and make him choose. You or your baby do not need the extra stress that he is causing.

Kenya

Not normal, get a divorce.

Pocohontas

Hecks no that isnt normal. U need 2 give him a cerious imean cerious autamatum.Just throw him out.Hes using your time.U have 2 live your life happy. U dont deserve 2 be ignored.Put yur foot down and make him go. I know it Hurts u have 2 start looking out 4 u and that baby. Right now hes going through a faze it will only get worse if u allow the repeated behavior 2 continue. Eithier that or just Stay busy go hang out for long periods on yur free time.Dont let him know or see yur own private skedual. Ignore him. Make him think yur not even interested or attracted 2 him any more. If U ceriously carry out these acts for the weeks and months ahead.Then I bet u without a doubt he will show signs of jealously, hurt and hed finally come 2 his censis that He should be loving u the way u deserve it. Not hurting u. the rest is up 2 u. I got this advise when I got pregnant same thing happend until I flip the script. I know Love hurts but he need 2 share in the same emotions yur experencing -God Bless u and the baby.

sarah y

Sounds to me as if this guy needs a good kick up the backside.you need to tell him how you are feeling `cause all this worry and extra stress could harm your baby.If not then maybe you should threaten him with leaving and divorce and then maybe he will sit up and take note if not then maybe you are better off without him......Good luck.

FeistyLady

I think you already know the answer...NO! It's not normal. He is withdrawing from you and spending his time/energy on his "X". Now, my question to you is "what are you going to do about it?" When men (or women) start to turn their attention to someone else...it's a "signal" to you. The marriage is moving in another direction...my guess is towards "divorce". You stated he has Xes (plural); meaning more than one. Perhaps his behavior is indicative of how they became his Xes.

Now, you can wait until the ball drops or you can start working on YOURSELF, giving your time and attention to improving you. I'm not saying something is wrong with you. I'm saying don't go into denial when you SEE something. PLan on what to do about it! Focus your attention on you and your condition. Being pregnant is emotional within itself; and you don't need to focus on "anyone's" negative actions and emotions. You have your hands full already. DIVORCE is a word, that can come into your REALITY! You can try discussing his behavior with him, however, if he doesn't want to hear it or discuss it...then you will know exactly where you stand.

Everything has a "sign" to it. Please read them. I hope things will work out for you; and if I sound a little "harsh" then good..Sometimes we need to have the TRUTH revealed to us without buttering it up!

illustrat_ed_designs

In order to help your husband, you must first purchase a pair of steel toed work boots, in your size. Secondly, as your husband gets up from the sofa, either to relieve himself, or get a snack, take one of your legs, either left or right, which ever you feel most comfortable with, and bring it back behind you. When it has been brought back as far as possible, firmly and swiftly bring it forward, as fast and as hard as possible and boot his lazy *** out of the door.
If he can disrespect you enough to not only talk with his ex wives (an indication that he can't stick with a relationship and fix problems properly), but also let them talk badly about his wife who is 4 months pregnant with his child (A sign that he really doesn't care about your feelings or respect you enough to stand up for you and defend you to other people) then he obviously isn't the man for you.
Aside from the fact that you and the baby need to be monitored by a doctor every so often to make sure his child is safe and healthy, this guy should get a job to help pay some bills and plan for both of your futures, not just play the lottery and eat Cheetos all day, watching Jerry Springer.

luminosa

Love is blind! Open your eyes and see the light BEFORE your child comes into this world. How old is this guy? He must not be too young since he has plural ex-wives. He's old enough to know better and obviously too old to change for the better. your baby is your top priority. So put your priorities in perspective and make a better life for your child and for you.

msthinkpositive

You may not be able to do any thing. He didn't just get this way, and he won't be trying to change any time soon because you excepted him this way. He's not going to stop talking to his ex's because you let that happen initially too. You can only try asking for the things you want from him, and hope he don't just go undercover with what he's doing (lying about not talking to them), and hope it works.

blondie

Let me save you a lot of heartache,believe me Ive rode the rodeo before best thing is put your foot down and demand he stop talking to his exes, get off his lazy *** and treat you like a lady with respect, like a loving husband would do and if he cant do it yank the damn phone cord out the wall throw the phone out the window dump over the couch with his *** in it and let him hit the floor and go ....do you listen i mean business!!And if that don't work pack up his crap and give him the phone back and say here is the last call you will ever make to one of your exes again tell her to come pick up your sorry no good for nothing butt up and you can live with her she can have ya,but hell she was smarter than me she didn't want ya that's why your not together no more she knows how you are but since she wants to continue to talk to you well she can come get ya and you too can talk live and in person over at her house bye and see ya don't let the door hit ya where the good lord split ya!!

Sexy Dvia

No that is not ok you should get him off of the couch and have him get ready for the baby and block out the ex-wifes #'s

nas88caror 300 09? way to go BK!

time for him to get a job and its not normal for him to do that

Beautiful g

that is not normal at all i would ask him why he keeps in touch with his ex wives.if this guy insist be a couch potato he might as well sleep on it and i wouldn't give him any lip.He needs to know that he is taken, not avalible.

Alex

She should definitely use me, just to get back at him.

Shadow

You need to get some balls and tell him off, and that you need some respect.

Enneirda

Yikes... How do you want to help him? In what area? He is unemployed and he has multiple ex-wives that he still contacts. I think you should consider some serious changes.
I think you should help yourself and get yourself out of there.

manda

kick him to the curb . It sound like your the only one who trying to make a marraige you can do better

boo

you're the one who needs help. if i'm reading right you said " his ex WIVES. " i can see why. dump him.

volcomsteve-o@sbcglobal.net

nope not normal at all u could talk to dr.drew at the radio station he'll figrue it out.

1-800-LOVE-191
it will be open in 10 throught 12 pm

seeking

that is not normal!!!

He could not be on the phone with is ex all the time. He needs to be there for you!!!; that can definitely make a women feel unattractive, unwanted and not appreciated. How do you pay your bills? If he is not bringing in money now or trying to get a job, what makes you think that he will go and get one when the baby arrive you will be stuck doing everything by yourself so be prepared he is showing you know what he is going to so now, those are the signs. It also, sound like he did not let go of certain thing with his ex; they still feeling each other in a way were it pass the comfort zone, be careful they are up to something.

you should have gave him hell to sit there and talk about you with another women that is disrespectful. you better nip it now or things will definitely get worst. =)

cupidgirl

what do you mean, to help HIM!? what does he need help with, he's just an inconsiderate bum! I'm sorry, honey but you better give him a kick in the *** & threaten to leave him unless he starts putting you first, gets a job & cuts off the ex- wives. that is ridiculous!

Paladin

Is it possible that your husband has depressive issues? If so, he may need some professional help to get started again.

If not, if he just doesn't want to take responsibility, then you may have to make other arrangements to make sure you and the baby are secure.

Does he have other children with these ex-wives? If so, then he has a legitimate reason to be in touch with them. If not, then he is being thoughtless about your feelings.

Not only should the red flag being going off in your head, there should be a red alert!

Dead

divorce him.. takem 2 dr.phil... phil would go 4 that hes always doin that kinda crap.... email im ur problem... but no its not normol ur husbands a worthless prink

HOTn'SWEET

sometimes u gotta hurt them 2 help them. warn him first and if this continues get him out or u leave him either way get away from him and quick! he is probably cheating on u with a new girl or an x of his. get custody, child support and a savings account. my mom left my dad and she lived in a place that the cops took her and he never knew where she waz 2 this day. its like a safe house or somthin.

Peanuts

Was your husband like this before you married him? If so, there is not much you can say or do 'cause you married him knowing what he was. However, if this was a change in him after you got married, you need to sit down and have a serious adult conversation telling him how you feel. If that fails, perhaps you should condsider counseling.

pknutson_sws

not normal...shouldn't have married him.

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