My husband is EXTREMELY jealous!!!?

Toddzilla

Jealousy is simple, it means your husband is very insecure and has a low self esteem... That's it, nothing fancy or mysterious with Jealousy

The artist formerly known as T D

damn... do u have a sister?!

Amber

I would just ask him why he feels like he never has 100% of you. Tell him you are interested on working on your problems but you have to know exactly what you are doing wrong. If he refuses to tell you what's wrong, then tell him that he needs to stop complaining. Make sure you gently point out all of the positive things you do and tell him that taking care of your family consumes all of your time. The next time he asks you if you think another man is attractive, just tell him "oh he is nothing compared to you" and let it be at that. You can also stroke his ego now and then, men love that. Hope it helps.

amy8bug

Sounds like he's just a bit insecure with himself. It may or may not be a reflection on you. It could be childhood problems of not feeling good enough. And/or it could be he doesn't feel your love through the actions that you mentioned.

First and foremost, it really sounds like you're in love with him. If this is true, understand that no man is perfect (or woman). Try to see past this pimple that you don't like and focus on what you do love about him. I don't think that it sounds like a deal breaker, so try to stay calm while he's upset and focus on showing you do love him. Reacting back will only make him doubt more. Let him feel confident in your love by staying loving.

Lastly, maybe try to incorporate more romantic actions into your day. Give him constant love so that he'll feel more confident in your love for him. Some great ideas are listed on www.magicofromance.com.

Peace

He's not supposed to get 100% of you. You are an individual who has a separate life. A marriage is about partnership, not spending every waking second focused on him. I don't have an answer for you, I'm just relieved my husband loves me enough to respect who I am as a person and we have a better marriage for it. I mean, does your husband even thank you for all the work you do on a daily basis? If either of us wash dishes, we take to second to be thankful. It's important not get lazy because laziness breeds disrespect. So if you have trouble communicating this to him, think about seeing a third party to mediate. It's not a big issue, but ignored, it will develop into something bigger. Uh, I guess I did have an answer!

6@5^&%

sounds like you husband is a little crazy

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When my husband got jealous i used to get offended & tell him that he was not to doubt me since i had done everything to gain his trust.. & that i am a respectable & honorable married woman who would never even look at another man.. I told him this mad & one day he finally stopped being jealous..

Worked for me & i hope it works for you too =]
God Bless!!

Ps. I don't make comments about actors either, lol, he'd get so jealous!! ...Men...

sudempski

I kinda like jealousy. Makes me feel loved, protected and looked out for. I know that's not a popular answer, but it is how I feel.

Raquel

my husband is jealous also, and it drives me crazy sometimes. The thing is, I'm the only woman he has ever loved and he was not my first love. So it bothers him about my ex's etc. I know how you feel, this is mine's only real fault as well. Good luck, I guess constant reassurance is all we can do.

Law Professor

So with such a Perfect husband, why would you wanna change them at all ??
None of US Men are perfect and maybe he thinks he doesnt get enough nucly from you dear ??
My suggestion is this just before bedtime, Make him a Favorite Drink and you have one too. And explain to him that your feellng this way. And its hurting your self esteem also.
But do it in a Loving Manner and always let him know that your his Babe also. Then Make mad n passionate loves to right afterwards to reinforce the words also
Good Luck , and Smiles LP :)

OOO K 611

It is amazing how many woman have no clue. It is amazing how many women are so sure their men don't cheat and they are all wrong. He is extremely jealous because he cheats. Check all his cell phone records, work cell phone too. Check all his email addresses including work. You will find all the answers you are looking for. Here are the facts of life you obviously haven't learned yet:

1. There is no Santa
2. There might be a Bigfoot
3. All men cheat, almost all women cheat
4. Marriage ruins all relationships (moving in is the same)
5. Everyone lies (you even lie to yourself)
6. Life is not fair

Good luck and Happy Holidays. Email me
if you want to hear the truth. I don't lie.

â™¥ Andelyn's Mommy â™¥

Sounds familiar, lol...

In all honesty, he may be TERRIFIED that you would ever in his wildest dreams leave him. (Sounds like he has it great!) Best thing you can do is try to have a serious heart to heart with him and/or talk him into counseling (may be difficult). This type of behavior ends marriages all too often. I wish you the best and know how you feel!

that judi

He seems very immature and I would grow VERY weary of this behavior in a grown man. Only you can decided what your limts are in this game.

Jealousy has no place in a healthy marriage and is a waste of energy and focus.

beloved~my husband is the EXACT SAME way. Let me first say that the jealousy is actually just insecurity. He loves you to death and he's afraid that you might find someone else attractive and leave him. I understand the frustration because, like you, I would never think of cheating on my husband and it would piss me off that he even THINKS I would. Would I do all I do if I was cheating? sigh...so I feel your pain.

My encouragement is this...it is possible for him to grow out of that. Behind the jealousy is insecurity. Behind the insecurity is fear. Fear.

The bible says that "perfect love casts out fear". We as wives try to give that perfect love to our husbands but really, its the perfect love of God that he needs to have.

I could tell you stories about the extent to which my husband is 'jealous' about other people. The comments about someone on tv is minor compared to some of the stuff I've had to deal with. BUT...he's gotten better. The more he focuses on God, and trusts God..and refuses to let fear control his mind...the less jealous and possessive he becomes.

There is light at the end of the tunnel beloved~ if you get God involved.

callawak2

So if this guy is not cheating, does house work and sounds like an all around great guy, and he was jelous before you got married...why did you marry him and what is it you want? Sounds like you are being a big baby to me. You got what every other woman is yelling that she wants, but you are still not satisfied.

Quasimodo

should have talked to the broad he had the kid with. Bet she could have given you the heads up on this psycho case.

KingDavid

You are very attractive. My wife also is very attractive,,Me?well,,I'm just a regular guy. Sometimes when we married good looking people we feel that we should worry. Iknow, I know we should trust,,I don't think is about you gals,,is about our own insecurities..We know our wives get looked at and we feel inadequate. But because we are men, we tend to hide those feelings behind jealousy and ,machismo. He is insecure,,nothing you did. With lots of TLC and maybe some good talks it should get better....Thanks for being an awesome wife to him by the way!

makeloans2

He sounds like a major control freak. This possessiveness could get worse. Try to talk to him and make him understand how this is making you feel. Some men just don't get it. My ex-husband was like this too and I finally left him after 20 years of putting up with his jealous (for no reason) crap.

ninthnarnian

You do lots (all!) of wonderful things, but make sure you do whatever it is that makes him feel loved- the more he feels love the less insecure he will be. Keep in mind though his behavior borders on abuse, so keep your eyes wide open.

Spindrift

Your hubby has some major insecurity issues and is on the way to becoming a bit of a control freak. Best get both of you into counseling now before this gets worse, which it will...it is important for you to remove yourself from this equation; it has nothing whatsoever to do with you and how you keep the house and the kids, etc it is all to do with him and his feeling of insecurity and fear of loss..if he keeps this up he can lose you by annoying you to the point where you might want to leave him, which is why it is so important for the two of you to get into counseling NOW.

benthr

he's really insecure about you he doesn't feel like he deserves you and in reality he doesn't. at least unless he can get it resolved . it's a problem he has that he has to be willing to change. you really need to see a marriage counselor. it might help to try and boost his ego a bit by telling him you appreciate what he does for the family. evidently he makes fairly good money, other wise you wouldn't be able to be a stay at home job. as you do so much he may not feel needed, all men like to feel needed. and by the way good job !!! i think you do your share, have you tried talking to him about it? communication, with out judgment is hard for a lot of people ,hang in there!!

Peace be onto you...

Know I see why you hide your profile from ur husband. LOL
But you are right it is more of a diary.

cyranonew

They don't come 100% perfect...
Look, you do look great, and I'm sure that a lot of men would be more than interested in you. There is no way your husband can ignore that. It would take a man who is extremely sure of himself to think that he "has 100% of" an extremely attractive wife like you. Perhaps you should be happy that your husband is not that conceited type who takes your love for granted. I'm sure he very much appreciates what you are doing for him and with him, he just doesn't want to lose you.
If that's your husband's only fault perhaps you should just get used to it and play the game so as not to touch his sensitive spot.

kathy s

Your husband needs counseling as soon as possible. His attitude is currently causing mental abuse but could soon lead to physical abuse as well. This could be a dangerous situation. Seek help immediately.

2cute4words

he needs help, it is crazy to be that jealous. Have you ever asked him why he feels that he does not have you 100%. You are right, it is normal for people to think that an actor or actress is good looking.

Try talking to him and asking him why he feels that way. Again it really sounds like he needs help too.

QuEEn B

If he's communicating the way he feels to you apparently it bothers him to some degree. Try being a littel more affectionate and submissive.

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