My husband is a complete ***.?

fixitman

call your vet and have the husband put to sleep.

No, just kidding......Not sure what to do, but try to discuss it with him calmly. Good luck!!!!

JustJules

Sounds divorce-worthy to me. Your husband is an manipulative immature @ss. Sorry.

Keep the dog, get rid of the husband.

shadez b

Divorce him. He's being mean to you, its not worth it anyway if you're not happy. Let him be someone elses problem...

R A

My ex (get it EX) didnt want me to go out so he removed my spark plugs. Easy, next time he allows you to do something allowhim to sign the divorce papers.

Mummy to Dillon Blake

If my Husband treated me like that I would end our relationship straight away. If he loved you he wouldnt do these things.

Marmib

why aren't those things worthy of a divorce? just because you are married doesn't give him the right to treat you like poop and it doesn't mean you signed up for a life of manipulation and misery. if you have more sad days than happy ones, i'd leave. it sounds like he has control issues anyway. he NEEDs to get a dog and train that instead of trying to train a grown woman!
Good luck!

dickn2000a

You're wrong! These things ARE worthy of divorce. You're right! Your husband is an a**! He has neither love nor respect for you. If you're smart you'll dump him now, before he does something you'll regret.

misskate12001

I'd get a divorce. I wouldn't stay with a man who thought he had any business controlling me, who said cruel things to me, who ignored me for days or left the house without saying where he's going. It could only get worse.

speedy ski

then leave...really, it doesn't sound like you want to stay...go

mthiabrgseke

sounds like an @ss to me. yd u marry him? unless u have kids, id consider divorce. keep the dog, not him.

Dawnia P

I think the issues go much deeper than the dog. It doesn't seem like there is equal respect in the relationship.

??ub?ey?

you guys need to have a 'sit down' talk when he is in a good mood and you need to tell him everything you just wrote in here better yet show him the replies.I personally think that he needs to grow up and respect your happiness and vice versa you two are adults it's time that you bot act it or be prepared to be another statistical divorce.MAKE HIM READ OUR QUESTION AND THE RESPONSES OF HOW HIS BEHAVIOR IS.If that doesn't sink in try counseling

Live.Laugh.Love

Get a divorce b/c obviously u aren't happy.

lbtrusting

He won't let you do this he won't let you do that WTF is he your father or husband he is controlling you and you are allowing it!

WeveLostControl

Sounds like a divorce to me.. if he is trying to manipulate you, then there is something majorly wrong... what he is doing is bordering outside of psychological abuse.You should go get marriage counseling first, but I think things aren't looking all that great... sorry :(

Sweets

I would think they are worthy of divorce. My husband would NEVER tell me what I can and can not do. He may want the dog out but you don't. He needs to deal with it. Honey, no offense, But you need to gain a little bit of control on your relationship. It seems that he has too much control of what goes on in the household.

Good Luck

James Watkin

He's your husband not your daddy. He shouldn't have the option of choosing what you are allowed to do. You are a grown person. What you are describing is emotional abuse and it is only going to get worse. You have to decide if you want to live this way and worse for the rest of your life or if you want to leave and find someone who loves you. Control is not love. It is control.

me me me

DIVORCE

recycler562

Well, these things may be worthy of divorce. From your description, he sounds childish, manipulative, & selfish. Rarely do people "wake up & see the light" and change their most basic personality traits, he is who he is & I would guess that his behavior will only get worse as time goes on. So, what you have to ask yourself is: Is this the way I want to spend the rest of my life?

Becky W

yes divorce him he's controlling you making threats about your dog, people that are cruel too animals are make threats to are dangerous, he might turn on you.

noga

I would keep the dog..give him away!!

bobcat 007

sounds like a looser

Princess Betty

Well, you knew your husband did not like dogs before you got married. You can't make someone change. I think you too need some type of counseling. He has some issues with you that you are not aware of. You need to talk to him, not argue. Something is really wrong.

Brooke G

wow srry to hear that... this is a tuff one... ummm you should just go up to him and be like... i love my dog and i love you and if you want me to give my dog away then i guess you dont love me

thunder51ca

GET A BACKBONE WOMAN or you can just lay down on the floor and let him kick you a few more dozen times------after all you have been putting up with abuse for how many years???

and BTW -- nobody can make you do or feel anything --unless you allow it -- and you have decided that you would let this abusive a***hole control your life.

You are a victim by your OWN choice

blubird2167

You are in the beginning stages of an Abuser. He is verbally & mentally Abusing you. It was probably a mistake to get the dog, seeming as he obviously didn't want the dog, and he is using the dog as a way to hurt you. He may hurt the dog, which concerns me, because the dog is innocent and can't protect himself.
My suggestion is to leave this **** BEFORE something happens- you are obviously 'walking on eggshells,' which is no way to live. Ready "The Dance of Anger" by Lerner. YOU have to change the steps in the dance....he won't. Your in a bad relationship- it won't get better. Get Out! NOW. (take the dog--he/she will love you unconditionally forever )

dmallen321

He is threatened by the dog. perhaps by the attention you give it. That makes him jealous of the animal. Jealousy is a very dangerous emotion, because it is really three emotions happening at the same time. It is love,(loving to get his way), hate in the fact that you defend the dog, and envious of your affection towards it.
Because of his jealousy, then he engages in emotional blackmail, and worse intimidation. It is only a matter of time before this intimidation results in certainly a high degree of passive aggression towards you and the animal you protect. Worse case scenario is one of violence directed towards you. My advice is to set a boundary that if he continue on this course, you will leave. Then follow thru with it.

Ktharlow

Put your husband out in the doghouse, literally until he grows up!

Ktharlow

Put your husband out in the doghouse, literally until he grows up!

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