My husband is obsessed with my weight, what should I do?

I Hate Miley Cyrus!

Tell him "You should love me for me, not just my body. I'll lose it as fast as I can, but I'm not going to rush myself. So please stop bringing it up" And if he keeps bringing it up, tell him how insecure you feel already about the weight & you just want to focus on having a healthy baby & a safe, easy pregnancy & that he's not making it any easier for you when he's freaking you out about the weight. And hun, it's normal to feel kind of unattractive when you're pregnant. Do you know how many pregnant women feel the same way you do right now? (Well, I don't myself, but I just know it's A LOT, lol.) And remember, a happy marriage requires honesty & the ability to talk about what's on your mind & if anything's bothering you. So talk to your husband & sincerely ask him to stop bugging you about your weight (& that your weight is YOUR OWN business & you can lose those pounds on your own time!!!) lol. Good luck! :)

suave_girl65

I think you need a new husband who will treat you like you deserve to be treated!

znge

tell him how you feel..... tell him how his comments make you feel.
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errin

you should talk to him about it. tell him that he should be telling you positive things about how you look rather than the negatives. also tell him that its extremely hard to have an "amazing body" right after you have a baby.

Laura C

thats not very supportive of him...

tell him how it makes you feel, if that doesn't work start telling him things you hate about him, things that you know he will be sensitive about. maybe after he knows hot it feels he will stop.

Go Heels

I'm sorry. You are beautiful. Tell your husband to walk around 9 months with a baby! And see what he says now! I'm sorry you have to feel this way. Have you told him how you feel about it? Talking never hurts.

--Good luck, hun.

Happy Holidays.

jakesmilesback

You should be you. Be happy with what you are accomplishing having a baby and all. If he can't support you and can't see anything but weight then he has a serious problem. Tell him how bad it makes you feel. If he can't change, change husbands.

y n

talk to him and tell him how he is hurting you . he should be excited like you about being a father. tell him that after the baby is born is the time for you to lose weight. if he loves you then he will understand. you both should be concerned about the child now. if you can't get him to talk it out maybe a counselor is the answer. good luck and i hope you have a healthy baby.

atiffashep

Find a new husband
I understand because i too am pregnant and feel ginormous but now is your time to enjoy being pregnant don't let him ruin it if hes never been happy with your weight why did he marry you? maybe hes the one with the issues
you should definitely talk to him about it

*~Sandra V~*

This can actually be emotional abuse, so be careful.
You are beautiful and have life in you to think about. I hate to hear this happen to women while pregnant, it may take awhile to loose weight after the baby. His concern should be the health of you and the baby. If he continues tell him how much this hurts you. If he continues decide if this is really what you want for the rest of your life.

CassieD

It is bad to lose weight when your pregnant, it will hurt the baby. keep the weight on and after you give birth try hard to knock off those pounds

katie s

UHM Never let a man treat you like that. Next time he brings it up tell him "When you say stuff like that, which you do constantly, it hurts my feelings and lowers my self esteem. Because you say these things I feel unhappy about the baby growing inside my body because your constantly criticize the weight I am gaining to grow the baby. I will not tolerate you demeaning me about my weight any longer."

Say it like that, matter of factly, so it's not an argument it's just simply laying the law down.

That is mental abuse for him to be saying that to you, and he may not know that so you need to tell him that.

Don't put up with it, girl! You are better than that and he needs to work to deserve you.

upallnight

A counselor would say to tell him how it makes you feel when he says hurtful things. I would tell him that you're concerned also, but to quit nagging me about it. I do much better without so much pressure.

stickyrealwell

well if your having a baby with him i don't really know what to do, i would say dump him but that's not a good idea if your pregnant i would suggest just talking to him about it and tell him that if he doesn'tt stop that you will leave him and stuff (justthreatenn him with leaving him)

ManBeast

Tell him to man up and stop stressing you out .You have enough to deal with without him acting like an azz.He needs to be more supportive of you and he should be kizzing your azz since you are carrying a aby. Damn but these azzholes pizz me off with their juvenile attitudes about women. Maybe you ought to find an older, more mature man sweetie.

Kassy B

I would tell him that he has some things he needs to work on too!! Maybe after the baby comes you two can take a vow to go on one thirty minute walk a day, or something productive together. He needs to stop stressing you out while you are pregnant, and he should be happy with your body the way it is. Stay healthy and good luck! Congratulations!

Goggles

Talk to him about how you feel, how he is pressuring you and how he needs to stop. Then, if you want to, you could lose some weight to make yourself and him happy. And if he really loved you, he shouldn't complain so much about your weight. But since he is complaining so much, losing a little bit wouldn't hurt.

joe7987

What can you do? At the moment, nothing. He needs to realize that and treat you with a little more respect. You have a baby in your stomach and you can't just lose weight at this point. Once you have given birth, then you can worry about starting an exercise regime and making sure you eat right (which I hope you're on a healthy diet at the moment with a baby on the way!) Until then, shrug off his comments and take care of yourself.

Best of Luck,
Joey

Cake Batter

Wow. That really bothers me! Your husband needs to show some understanding! You're pregnant with his child! Talk to him about how uncomfortable and sad that makes you when he treats you that way. Sit him down and say something like you said to us. Tell him you understand that he wants you to lose weight, he's made it clear enough. And say that you knew you wanted to lose some without him having to tell you. Say that planning for the baby is already stressful (exciting, but stressful) and that weight is something that you'll have to deal with after. He's being too critical during a time where he should be worshiping your body, not tearing it down.

andrea

Let him know he is making u feel bad. Tell him to chill down a little. You'll be able to get rid of the extra

mr. Hubb

punch him in the nose

weepy_young_devotchka

punch him in the face and tell him all the things you hate about him. that'll make him feel terrible.

granny

Enjoy the time you have because he will be nuts after the birth. If you have any male friend or male relatives try to get them to talk to him. It's too crazy for him to be obsessed at this stage.

AnoushkaDon'tLikeHaters

Point out his flaws and then take the baby from him. If he has that much respect for you he doesn't deserve you. Think of how he's going to treat your child if it's ever overweight.

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just excercice onec in a while but not much

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