My husband is verbally abusive what should I do?

gweneth lynn paltfeir

just divorce him. this guy's not worthy of you.

Ricknows

wow, you sound so happy- I hope to never get this bad in my marriage where I have to go to answers for help

ladyrena12

ok if your husband loves you he knows that calling you any thing that disrepects you is wrong and hurtful ask him if the next door neighbor can call you the same names.bottom line is love is not suppose to hurt and name calling especially disrespectful names should not be tolerated. good luck also would he want someone calling his mom those names are his daughter if so he need HELP

The Fluff

What you should do is get rid of him. You can't change his personality and can do better.

Mauki90

Hit him over the head with a frying pan and then get the he** outta there.

Maggie Mae

Get crazy! No man should speak to you that way.

dukalink6000

Get counseling first. You may have to consider leaving. Abuse is abuse

T Time

Leave.

fumblingkc

Leave.

doc

DIVORCE HIM!!! It will not get better so leave him. NOW! Call your mother and tell her you will be right over.

rikanbutterfly

its kinda funny...me a 17 year old answering this question...but c my dad was a verbal abuser to my moter and to me....he will keep doin this no matter how much u tell him to stop....then if u leave him he'll say hes srry and that he will cahnge..but then u go back b/c u still love him...but then he abuses u worse than before...so my advise is do wat my mom did after living almost all her life wit him...leave him...go to an abused womens shelter...do something...because if u dont leave him now...things will get worse...he moght even turn to heit u...like my dad did to my mom wen my little brother was in the room......hopefully htis will help u...well adioz

winona e

Guys like this fail to see what it is that they are doing/saying. They always manage to turn something that you say about them back to yourself. Too bad that he is your husband. But, anyway, you have to help yourself. You have to decide for yourself if you want to put up with this or not??? Because it won't change, he won't change, because he won't ever see anything wrong with anything that he does.

Jax

I've seen this way too much with my friends. It IS abuse to call you a -----. He's bullying you bc it's a power trip thing. He doesn't put out bc it is his power over you. He sounds like a loser...have enough faith in yourself to know that you deserve better and there is someone who wants to treat you like the queen you deserve to be treated.

recon

He has no respect for you. You know that anyway. Tell him that i will not stand up for this. Your a good person and deserve a good man who respect. love should not hurt

Dump him, find a real man. He is not gonna stop

Chris D

Now you know when you post a question like that everyone is just going to tell you to get some marriage therapy and they'd be right.

cobrasnake

Get a counsellor to help you.

apostate03

Is your boyfriend a rapper? If so just laugh it off, otherwise throw your plugged in hairdryer into the shower while he's in there.

Moumita

If he says that the way he is calling u (bi@#&), is not wrong, then u also call him same like bus@#& and watch the outcome. If he gets angry, tell him u feel the same when he calls u the same. If this process doesn't work, leave him.

nanny2

Kick his *** out.

hoecake

when he has finally pushed you too far and your gone, he'll be feeling it and hopefully guilt stricken from the way he treated you. go get someone that puts out all day every day if your game.

dragonfire

it's divorce time
i have never called any of my EX GFs/ Wives b i t c h
never
once you cross that line you have lost repsect
for both yourself and the the women in question
time for divorce plain and simple
you have married the wrong person
own up to that fact, never repeat the mistake ( and YES thet early signs were ther all along you just ignored them as so many women do in the rush to get married ) and divorce him, move on and find the right guy this time.

dlmrgnk

He abuses you because the rewards for doing so are greater than the consequences. You can't "get" him to stop. He's the only one who controls his behavior. That's the first step. The second step MAY be to get yourself to a therapist. If he thinks it's not abusive to swear at you, he's going to be a pretty tough case. Here's the deal. We teach people how to treat us and he's learned that it's perfectly OK to abuse you verbally. His abuse is in the form of swearing at you and telling you it's your fault that he doesn't put out.
Your job is to make it clear to him that his abuse MUST stop. You may well have to leave or force him to leave to do that. Something along this line might help. "I know you feel you are doing nothing wrong when you curse and lie to me (it's "your fault" is a lie) but it is very hurtful to me and I feel very miserable. You cannot do that any more. I won't listen and will leave (or you will have to leave) if you continue to do it. I would like for us to go to counseling together and want your permission ot set up an appointment." BUT, be prepared to and DO leave if abuse continues.

daisycutter

Try a marriage councilor. If that doesn't help, may be time to move on.

Forlorn Hope

next time he does it, walk away...

canuticklemepink

Try this first to see if it will work the next time he's abusive and calls you a bi@# walk out crank the car leave stay in a motel over night no not go home till the next late afternoon or evening.

It this don't work its not worth wasting your time With a loser

Good luck!!

berry

Each time he calls you a b*tch, you call him a bast*rd.

rooster2381

take out life insurance on him and next time you see him in the driveway "accidentally run over him a few times". ;-)
(kidding:)
tell him you're talking to a lawyer and he's about to find out the meaning of the word which he seems to enjoy calling you.
but you know the old saying, it takes two to tango, make sure there isn't something you are doing or have done to make him this angry with you. if he's just a slime ball, dump him and get him for child support. the kids don't need to be hearing him talk to you like that, they will think it's okay and do it to their wives someday.
Best Wishes and Good Luck:)

try to calmly explain your side and if you need outside help get even if he doesn't and listen to what the Doctor says if he think you should leave it is a professional diagnosis

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