My husband just left me for another woman, how the hell do you get over something like this???

nodumgys

jager and xanex?

April C

Easy. It's called a fifth of friends, a shot of support and lots of love.

S K

You'll get over it by finding a guy who's better than your husband.

Samantha B

My husband got another woman pregnant while where married. That is not something you get over. Just remember it is his loss not yours.

neogeoloco@sbcglobal.net

With lots of time. It will probably take a long time, and there's nothing you can do to speed up the process. Just try not to go for lame guys on the rebound.

sngozig

hurt him by ignoring him and doing good for yourself

Fleur de Lis

It takes a while, but you do. I found out my first husband was cheating after only 3 weeks of marriage. I was so hurt and angry. I filed for Divorce. The anger is gone, the hurt is gone and I am Married again.

britney a

Well, that's hard. Just try to focus on something else. Cuase it's hard to get over of something like that. You'll be hurt for a while, but time helps to heal. If you have children then your cure is right there with them but if you don't just try to keep your mind busy as much as possible so that you won't be thinking about it all the time. You'll be fine. It shall pass
Good Luck

James R

Okay, life happens. Are you divorced yet? If not, when this usually happens, the ex-wife usually cleans him out financially.

Missledtngirl

lol take all ya can sister........... get the kids, the house, the cars, land, boat, whatever you can get... get it. Same happened to me. It takes a while to get over it all but you will find closure one day. Just hold ya head high when he is around and prove to him you can make it just fine WITHOUT him. Prove to him that he just brought you down and you are better than he and his "other woman"! When he sees you dating and having a good time.... he will be angry. Just ignore him and things will be fine.

Katie b

honey if he left you for someone else he wasn't worth having in the first place..i;m sure you can do better than him anyway ..my husband left me for someone else too..guess what / he left her for someone else and so on and so on..the creap has been married 4 times after me and once before me..think he's worth cryin over? not!!!!!good luck..get out there and show him what he really lost!!

capulet1970

Time and a good support system. You can't hurry it and you can't force it. I am not sure I agree with the therapy idea. You have to want therapy to want to work. Just going to therapy isn't enough if you are not ready for it.

mz.thang

get even !!!!!

2good4u

By kickin his *** and hers and tell them both 2 kiss yo *** and burn in hell!!!!!!!!!!!

Jennifer L

not an easy thing to do...

therapy is a good answer

or you could do drive-bys and prank his house. (ok, that was not a mature answer but sometimes men act like @ssholes and all you want to do is piss them off!)

txguy8800

You won't like my answer, but in your mind, you'll never get over it. You feel bad, mad, sad and a whole bunch of other emotions all wrapped up into one.

I know cause the same thing happened to me 25 years ago and I'm still p-i-s-s-e-d off about it. Back then, I wish somebody would have told me what I'm about to tell you.

You have two choices here:

1. You can let it mess up the rest of your life and make you miserable. If you do this, however, he wins! Or'

2. You can realize its over, improve your self one day at a time and move on. My goal was to make my ex-wife jealous because she realized she lost a good thing.

Drowning in pity will not help. You can mourn like its a death of something that you thought was beautiful. Then, wipe your tears and move on. The sooner you realize he won't win here, the sooner you'll feel better. Its not easy, but its the only way.

Good Luck Sweetie,
TX Guy

cpewitte27

You get over it in the divorce by getting the house, the car, the kids and the dog. Take him for EVERYTHING he got. Then the other woman will be begging you to take him back cause she'll be tired of supporting his broke a**.

snowflake

You don't ever "get over" it, you grow through it & as you do, you'll realize you're becoming stronger than you ever thought possible..Nothing happens by mistake, it's all for a reason- just keep trudging forward no matter what, even when it feels like you can't..just keep going..You'll know what the reason was in due time..Do not let this beat you...

chickie_momma

I've been there myself! First you get a good (female) lawyer. The rest takes time. You will go through a gauntlet of emotions and you just have to hang in there. One good thing to remeber is that
when someone leaves a marriage for someone else, that new relationship normally doesn't last. (so you will have the last laugh).

ang

Its hard, believe me I know. Me and my exhusband divorced 6 years ago. We have 5 children, the youngest is 6 years old. He constantly cheated throughout our whole marriage, and I cried a lot of tears, you dont get over something like this over night, but, just sit down, think about things that are truly important in your life, is there anything that you ever wanted to do, and couldnt do it before? This may seem like the end of the world, but its not, its the begining. When these things happen, they happen to put you in the place you need to be, as odd, or maybe even dumb as that sounds, its true. I went through so much crap with my ex, but you know what? here it is 6 years later, we get along so good, he calls me every morning and we talk, he'll even call maybe sometimes up to 4 times a day just to talk. Im very happy now, I never thought I would be, but you can get over it and move on, you have to allow yourself to do so, if you dont, if you constantly hold on to something you lost, God cannot bring in something to replace it. Im seeing a man right now, and I know this guy is the one, I am so incredibly happy, he makes me feel so good when Im with him, and truthfully, I have never felt this way before, not even with the ex hubby. Yeah, it took 6 years for the right guy to come in, but.... once it happens, it will definitly be worth the wait, and all the crap youve ever been through. You can do this. A really good book to read, if you have never read this one before is Joel Osteen, Your best life yet. That book will bring you so much inspiration.

Bert

Hi! I know how you feel, betrayal hurts, my ex did that to me, I was crushed, but there is hope, it has change me from the inside out, I gave my life to God, he will console you, heal you, love you, it's simple, I invited Jesus into my heart as my Lord and saviour, He is so awesome....He is love....may God heal your wounds...in Jesus name amen

One Of The Girls

As the old saying goes and I have experienced your pain first hand....time heals all wounds my friend!!! TIME!!! Lots of it too unfortunately!

physandchemteach

You will get over it, but it will take a long time. It took me two years of going to a divorce support group to understand how to deal with my new life. I had to change the way I looked at myself since he had blamed it all on me being old, fat, boring, and dumb. Funny thing is that I had more degrees than he did! After a while I began to understand what happened and know that I can go into a relationship and not have to repeat the horrible ending. I now have someone who loves me much more than the ex ever could.

gen2

Well...look like u been hurt.Very-very hurt.Any ways done be like that.Stand up n carry on your normal life.If he prefer to left u let it be.U still have a long way to go.Just look on your coming days what u need to do.Listen!Stop crying n tell yourself that u can live without (this b"ted).Bye.......sweetie.

maamu

The pain will go away. It will always bother you to some extent that he didn't play the game by the rules though. You were supposed to be married and planninng a future together, instead, while you were home cooking and cleaning, he was sleeping around with someone else.
Here are some things to look forward to:
1. You will no longer have to wait up half the night wondering if he is coming home.
2. You no longer have to cook and clean for someone that never appreciated it, but expected it nonetheless.
3. You can come and go as you please, not worrying if his supper is ready, or if the house isn't tidy enough to meet his expectations.
4. You will ALWAYS know exactly how much is in the bank account now. No more zillion cash advances to worry about that he was taking out to spend on his other women.
5. Get even. He didn't play by the rules, so don't roll over and play dead now. Hire the best damn attorney you can find and take it all. He didn't worry about you when he did this, so it is your turn to do the same.

unionjack07

The answers Ive read here are from a bunch of young immature kids. I am older and understand the hurt that you must be feeling. There is no easy answer to your pain. If you would like to have someone to converse with send me a e-mail and I will try to talk you through this. Until then you have my sympathy and I will leave you with the knowledge that everything happens for a reason even if we cannot understand it at first. Eventually the reason for something occuring will be made clear.

T Kirk

Time.

ra h

Quicker than you would believe right now. Just put on your best smile and get out and do something you enjoy doing. Take dancing lessons, go bowling, go swimming or learn to play golf. Anything you like where a lot of other people are. Try something new. What about squaredancing lessons? You wouldn't believe how much fun that is until you do it. You will meet a lot of people who are enjoying the same thing, and you will find that you have other things in common as well. And before you know it, you'll realize that you are happy. Maybe happier than you have ever been before! You may even discover that you don't need a man to be happy.

jude

we get over it when we stop asking why and we quit blaming ourselves for what they did, these things are never easy to get over, it does hurt to loose the person we thought loved us, what a terribble dissolutionment is is for us to have to face, when we thought we were loved and now they are gone. we really never knew what hit us, and certinly were never given a chance to respond. takes time, and help to get over this, need a good support system to begin with, made up of trusted friends and maybe even a good church. while his self esteem is enhanced by the other woman, yours is deflated and diminished right now, it is normal to feel we can't get over it, but in time we do get over it, and move on, just because we are so tired of hurting. the hurting u feel is the grieving process, which one has to go through so u can move on so that u won't carry this into your next relationship. sure we hurt and we will for awhile but understand this had to do with him and the other woman, and not about u. men sometimes have low self esteems and these other women stoke thir ego's, and make them feel special because it's new and exciting for them. we really can't compete with a new toy, not if the man is immature in the first place.

maryjane_4_everyone

My mother was married to my father for 15 years. In the course of 15 years, they had 3 children (me being one of them). I was the youngest (8 yrs old) when he left her for another woman. Now that I am older (21 years old) we speak about the past and the person my mother was when she was with my father was someone she is not now. She became a better woman, and with that I mean not only for herself, but to her children. Of course, she went through a lot of pain and lost a lot of weight, but I tell you, she's one hell of a woman right now and she knows it!! She looks fantastic too! I adore her, she's my angel. The point is, he left her for another woman, but she only gained from the divorce.

Take it easy, if you can. Don't strain yourself right now. You know what's good to release tension? Working out!! If you're in good shape, I recommend jogging daily. It's really good.

Good luck!

The Original Ma$e

What an ****!
Its a tough one but if ur in Central London maybe I can help begin the process!

;-)

cindy

I want to give my testimony about my situation with jk. When I asked divine.lovespell for help getting him to forgive me and love me again, I really thought things were hopless. You were my last resort, and honestly, I had my doubts that this would even work. But things have changed so dramatically in the last month that I am beyond astonished! He came to me on his own, and told me he wanted to talk. After a long, very good talk, we decided we would give things another try. I am so excited, he loves me again! Things are going so wonderfully. I dont know how to thank divine.lovespell@aol.com

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