My husband just recently divorced me because i cheated but it was because i had no where else to turn for love

dyna

hey buddy listen yes you should have talked it out with him didn't me and the girls tell you don't cheat you need to talk to will listen to us next time and guess what its over

Sparkles

You should have divorced him if you were that unhappy. No excuse to cheat.

Metal

Nobody likes a cheater. Remember your wedding vows? For better and for worse? I don't blame him for divorcing you.

Arum Btzad

Cheating is wrong. You should have spoke with your husband if you felt the feeling wasn't mutual. You're in the wrong, and yea, you should have gave your husband more of a chance. Do wedding vows mean nothing to you. If you were that 'unloved' than you should have divorced him, instead your hurt him.

Shame on you.

origamimark

Well, it['s a bit late now, I think. Move on.

roxiecat4200

What you should have done is worked on your marriage, and after you have exhausted all other options then get a divorce and then look elsewhere for love....there is never a reason to cheat.

Ace

It's not just his fault. And you should feel completely responsible for your actions and poor decisions. There is a reason that there are wedding vows.

wenchiepirategirl

Yes, you should have. Don't cheat unless you want to reap the consequences. You did not even give him a chance to redeem himself.

PraiseBob

Well, you are unlikely to find absolution here.

The fact is you cheated and your husband left you for it.

Cherri

Yes, you should have gave your husband more of a chance.

Jeff H

Well he did divorce you didn't he? I guess the answer is yes.

Mongo

You "cheated" and you "had no where else to turn for love". You lose.

PiNkY

YOU cheated - he divorced you.

The truth is: you broke your vows by cheating on him! If anyone was going to give a second chance, it would be HIM giving YOU a second chance, not the other way around.

berydivine

You got exactly what you deserved. When you are married there is NO excuse for cheating. All marriages have hard times but you work it out and never cheat. If you are that unhappy in your marriage that you think you need to cheat, get a divorce first, then go look for your love!

King K

And your problem is? Seems like an appropriate outcome.

um, ok, let me get this straight - he divorced you and you want to know if YOU should give HIM more of a chance? I don't get it. If he divorced you it's up to him to give you the chance because it was you who cheated - not him.
Now, if he's the one wanting to give the relationship another chance I'd say go for it but don't you dare f**k it up because it'll likely be the only chance YOU get.
And I'm sorry but - if you had no where else to turn for love it's NOT an excuse to go cheating. You should have talked to him about it and tried to be a little more proactive.
Just my opinion based on how you worded your question.

Shannon H

Do you think? Cheating is NEVER okay...especially when you haven't "given your husband more of a chance or what." If he divorced you over it, that's your own fault. Learn to treat your next parnter with more respect and dignity and try to work things out between you before you go gallavanting elsewhere. Shame on you!

keithleyjustin

HOMEWRECKER ALERT !!! GOOD FOR YOUR EX HE IS TOO GOOD FOR YOU. IF YOU HAVING ISSUES YOU NEED TO TALK BEFORE DOING SO. MAYBE I CAN HOOK YOU UP WITH MY EX YOU CAN HAVE EACH OTHER,GIRL ON GIRL

neurodoc68

This Yahoo! Answers forum can be a bit rough with the answers given so far. However, it looks like you should have given your marriage more of a chance before you cheated and turned elsewhere for love. Those decisions must have been made long ago, given the divorce. It looks like it is time to move forward, not look backward - you know what went wrong there. Hopefully, you will not make the same mistake again and learn from this one. Best of luck to you.

Steve C

Do not accept an answers on here, about that,,,that should be discussed between you and him,,,even now,, so both can mend. Perhaps some counciling is not too late. at least, you can learn to understand why,, and maybe even turn a divorce, back into marriage. My ex cheated on me, also,, but,, We divorced, because she refused to be a mom to the two kids,,so,, I took the kids and left, ( as per a councilors suggestion) it turned out the best for all.at least the kids had a nice home, and security. But,, after 27 years,, I would consider taking her back,,love does not die.

T Tyme

You know the answer to that question is yes! You were in a mrarriage, not just some boy/girlfriend relationship! When the going got tough the tough was supposed to get going!!! Somewhere along the voyage you quit and settled for someone else when you should have done everything in your power to fix your marriage. But since the two of you have divorced you now need to ask God for forgiveness and then forgive yourself! Live...

S K

Yes, but it's too late.

neisha

WOW....Are you serious? You made a VOW to him on your wedding Day...How Could you? I would Have left you behInD Too Sorry....If IM being To HASH! bUt You were HASH TOO!

cognoscible

I'll simply refer you to one of my previous answers;
http://sg.answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=Amme5sPqxm_ox0vie5RDh7H44gt.?qid=20070525103902AAWZJXZ&show=7#profile-info-8VOtTSpKaa

If you didnt try all this and you didnt try to resolve the problems that made the relationship cold, you didnt give it a chance. And yes of course you should have given it more of a chance!

0000

Even if you weren't getting an love from you, that's no excuse to cheat. You should have divorced him then get with the other person. You cheating makes you the bad one, regardless if he was no showing you any love.

jamie c

If it not their anymore then it not their! Personally he was not doing his job of giving you that love that you wanted! I think that it very wrong to cheat! I think that you need to get on with your life and worry about you and if you have children them. I think that it's very hard to forget about somehing like that. So even if you do try to work out he will bring it up and he will never look at you the same! I think that you did give him the signs but he choose to ignore them, that is his fault! I think that you most likely did it because you want something different and most likely was someone that you work with. I think that you need to let him know that you are sorry and that all we can do now is be friends. Let him know that he has every right to be mad! But every make mistakes and I will live with that mistake for the rest of my life. Also knowing that I will not be with the love of my life! Let him know that what you did was not like you and you wish that you can take it back but I can't and the you are very sorry! Just for your self let him know that you are hurting and that you let him down. My boyfriend that I am with right now has had his first love cheat on him with his best friend and that was 10 years ago and he still has a hard time trusting me! I never have cheated and never will, because I want to be that girl that is like that. i am not saying that I will never cheat, I am saying that I am trying not to but my self in that situration. So what you did to him he will think about for the rest of his life. He will never trust another women or even another person. You know what you have to do to make your self feel better about the situration.

zajucomom

You got what every cheater deserves. Think twice before you cheat again.

hackwilson76

It doesn't matter if you were willing to "give him more of a chance." You should have let him at least keep his dignity and divorce him BEFORE you break your marriage vows- just my opinion

Battery Operated Boyfriend

It no longer matters.

No one who respects and loves their partner will cheat. Opportunities come and go and some are harder than others to walk away from. Every one of us is capable of making the right choice though.

You should have told him what your problems were and then tried to work those out. If that failed you should have filed the divorce yourself instead of running to another man. You betrayed him and your marriage when you choose that course.

banche

Stop making excuses on why you cheated...and leave your poor ex alone. Dudes been through enough.

rcsinga

thats no excuse....... maybe you learned a lesson...... ????

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