My husband just told me he isn't as turned on by me anymore...?

chella

Eight months is really not very long to suddenly not be turned on to the person you're married to. Unless you jumped up significantly to a size 16 in eight months, I question that reason.

I appreciate honesty, but he needed to be a lot more sensitive about it. I think there's more to this than just claiming weight. I'm sorry you're dealing with this. Hope it works out one way or the other.

Maurice B

He's turning gay right before your very eyes.

alialoggi

A size 16 is big. Lose weight or lose him. Or, I can blow smoke, tell you what you want to hear, but unless you were a size 14 when you met him, then, you gained weight and he's not attracted to you because of it. You can either pount, insist that a size 16 is not big, then he leaves or has an affair, or you can stay your size and find a guy who appreciates your size. Those are your choices. He's going to move on to smaller pastures, he's warning you, most guys don't.

kittykatsback

Only a size 16?

Honey, that is no good. I am sure you are not within you BMI.

Please lookup that term online, and try to understand where he is coming from.

Seriously, I am a 10 and I hate when I fit into my 12s. I know how big 16 is. Don't thumbs down the truth.

Chief Turtle

The dude has issues. Roll up a news paper and swat him. Get that dawg to learn some new tricks.

Lumpy E

Only size 16? Is this a fake question? My opinion is that you're fat and nothing less. Get exercise and eat healthy and maybe he'll "want" you again.

He sounds like an idiot. He should seriously take a look back before 8 months ago and remember why he married you.

Aussiemum

Try to put some more effort into your appearence.

How much weight can a person put on in 8 months? there must have been issues before the wedding.

If I were you I'd start making more effort. for you husband to say that he isnt attracted to you anymore is a BIG thing!

truly speaking

he's cheating. The reason I say that is because No man in his right mind would tell his girl that she doesn't turn him on cause that would probably be the end of their freaky time. The only reason a guy would say that is because he's probably getting it some where else so he can care less if he gets it from you.

Allie M

I suggest counseling!

loveisalosinggame

what ? I hate men they never know what they want?

I'm always right.

I'm only a size 16 and you didn't answer if you did gain weight. if you did, start working out or buy yourself a BOB and don't worry about him.

steve

need to see some pics

Constance Olivia

I have to agree with Maurice. Something is very wrong with your husband, not you. You have only been married 8 months? I was married for 15 years to a man who would tell me how I didn't turn him on. Ended up he was gay. Being intimate every 3 or 4 weeks is not enough!

Jay Seven

kick him in the groin, so it won't be able to enjoy it with anyone else

I love cooking!

No to be mean but a size 16 is big! Girl, you need to lose some weight. Sign up for a membership at a gym. You can't just let yourself go.

Librawriter

Only a size 16? That's fat. Lose the weight. When you are married, you do what your husband wants you to do.

captain

I really don't understand why he married in the first place - you just don't get turned off after 8 months marriage. He has to work at the marriage as well as you - it's not all fairytale romance, it's a partnership. I'd be leaving him quick smart. He sounds just awful. I really feel for you but you deserve better treatment. Good luck babe.

rachelcuttie

o i real really bad for you if you to talk to anyone i am here!!!

an old guy

time to leave then...Im sure someone will find you attractive..

mcalano77

try counseling if you can.. but maybe dump him hon cause u cant diet all the time and he has issues... he might be cheating....

gaby

When you are saying that you are ONLY a size 16, there is something wrong with you! Put the fork down and lose weight, on average people should not be bigger than a size 8.
Men don't get turned on with fat chicks! Sorry to be harsh, but it is the truth. Good Luck!

Latisha B

well i think it's some else that's taking your place between those 3 or 4 weeks

maddy81

wow...that was just mean...i would ditch his a**...he has no respect for you

Just curious

Man I didn't have the guts to tell my wife I was not attraced to her until recently. Do you feel heavy? You see what happens is the when someone does not feel good about herself it shows. Then the other person also does not like her the way she is. So do you feel good about youself? If yes then leave him. If no then do something about it.

Blondie

You should tell him he's an inconsiderate ***hole.

SGt Matthew H Tartaglia

Hello, I am so sorry you are experiencing this as well I am sorry for your husband also, this must really stink. I will do my best to answer this, even though I doi not have as many facts as I would like to have. A lot of times when dating and courting, if that even happens anymore, people can put the foot forward that they would like to be. Yet somehow they cannot maintain that optimism. SO they slip back into the habits they have always had. If being size 16 is what is your habit or lifestyle you will return to that habit. Do you feel healthy? DO you feel fat? Do you feel sexy? Maybe for you size 16 is not large and you carry it well. But size 16 can be a taste for some if you know what I mean. Like in reverse women who will only be with a small man or a large man. Or one who has tattoes or does not have them. Did you loose sizes and then gain back? That can bring all sorts of resentment, especially if that is the thruth and you were dishonest in your dating and did loose weight for the time you were dating. Perhaps you have been plagued by up and down weight, did you reveal this to him? If so then he is a bit of a jerk, if you would respond the same way as he did if the shoe was one the other foot you are hypocrite! I would like to suggest you find what you want and then go from there. Perhaps you can try sex with lights out or wear some sexy accentuating lingerie, there is more than one way to get something done. One more point...Are you healthy? Regardless if your comfortable with yourself, are you healthy? Perhaps the two of you have more going for you than you think, and perhaps you can make a change that is good for you and not feel as though he is dictating your weight or exerting control over you! I hope this helped. God bless and always try and love yourself and each other. Communicate communicate communiate

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