My husband keeps getting asked out!!!?

Audio Godâ„¢

Seems to me two things are happening here.

1- He's doing his best to make you jealous
2- He's making this stuff up.

Good Luck

julie t

you should be glad other people find him attractive don't worry hes married you and loves you and if he makes this clear they will back off give him a beautiful picture of you two at your wedding for his desk this will help lol but seriously if hes faithful to you don't worry and be happy that you have a nice man

Bert

He is being honest with you, nothing to worry about....

Chazza xx Baba due 4/11/09

As long as you trust him you have nothing to worry about. You can be proud that you are with such a loved man!!!

Shaun W

It must be very frustrating for you.

I go out with a girl that works at British Gas and her only colleagues are male. It is difficult for me when she comes home and tells me she has been asked out (again!!!) but you have to believe that you can trust your partner otherwise it is going to be very difficult to cope with.

For the record I trust my girlfriend implicitly and you should not believe in the television when it shows everyone cheating on everyone...its just good television and we love it when a love rat gets caught...ups viewing figures!

susie x â™¥â™¥â™¥

A wedding ring makes no difference to a girl on the pull! You either have to trust him or not, whether he strays or not doesnt depend on what you do, explain your concerns to him. His ego must be sky high, what man wouldnt want all that attention, you know him better than us, good luck hun

Duisend-poot

Girls are like predators, always have to see if they can catch someone elses man , it makes them feel powerful. Ok that has nothing to do with your question. Don't let it worry you too much , my hubby has not worn his wedding ring since the day after we got married. It does not worry me, i don't wear mine as well but a wedding ring means zilch, nada, nothing. If your man wanted to mess around he would have done so long ago. Go-on it is nearly Christmas don't let these thoughts creep into your head and make you unhappy. He is still with you so don't worry. PLEASE don't ever tell females that he is your man, that is when they will really go out of their way to steal him. Bad move.:)))

intoxicatedturtle

A wedding rings attracts women. Suddenly, they see you as the type of guy who will actually settle down...all they have to do is get rid of that pesky current wife. If your husband loves you, and everything is good in your relationship, then you shouldn't let paranoia and jealousy get to you...and if there are already problems in your marriage, well, then, it's just a matter of time...

daytona_girl18

just accept thatu have an attravtive husband and no one else can have him.

Rach

As long as he continues to decline these invitations and is very open with you about it, you should have nothing to worry about.

It's disrespectful of women to ask out a married man, what is wrong with people?

gstolard

Do you trust him?
If the answer is yes then you have to move on or you will never sleep, but if you realize the answer is no, then yall gotta have a sit down chat. Good Luck marriage is forever and if you both are willing to fight for each other then you guys are lucky.

Nile Queen

One of the rules towards marriage, "Dont marry a really cute guy" and if you do - make sure you are sooo beautiful that he only has eyes for you!!

FairGround

1. go to his workplace more often, pretends you meet your husband for lunch or bring him lunch etc, and most importantly let all his co-workers see you, especially the women workers. and be really close to your husband, like kiss him in front of everybody, show them how good you two are.
2. join your husband for his gathering with co-workers, always reminding them you two are wonderful couple.
3. tell your husband to say to the ladies who ask him out by.."my wife will get really piss off if she knows you ask me out"
best luck.

jessieket04

Some girls are just so naive and stupid. He should have a picture of you as a screen saver, that should retort any unwanted/uneeded female attention.....make it a scary photo too!

As long as he's honest with you, you have nothing to fear.

pepzi_bandit

right
it sounds like you got too much time on your hands, your creating problems, sort it out or your insecurity could cause trouble
good luck x

wyatt_bellis

Make sure you look after him and he will have no reason to accept any other offers. He is obviously good looking, so people will talk to him.

Don't give him a reason. If you are happy, then you have no reason to worry.

Cheers!

corkscrewpirate

As long as he isn't acting on it, why worry.

free_angel

Tell him he's handling this very well but don't ever be stupid and take up one of those offers. If he does, he can kiss this marriage goodbye and you're only going to say this once so remember that.

Anthony Taurus

i remember hearing that it's harder to keep a man than it is to get him in the first place. something like that. i wouldnt be overly concerned about it for now. the reason is because he's telling you about these women and maybe even looking for advice on how to handle the situation. if he were a cheating man, you wouldnt hear a word about these women because he'd keep a card up his sleeve so to speak. i think his party boy reputation may have preceded him at work. so these women are looking at him as the guy to hang out with.

so at this time, it seems like a case of trying to update his reputation from single party boy to family man. at this point, it's best to make yourself known at his job. this doesn't mean to become an everyday nuisance. bring him lunch at most twice a week, no more. get known by reception so when you come to the office, they know to greet you as mrs. such-and-such.

right now, you're in a situation where you have to assert your rights or dominance (bad words, but i cant find better) over your husband. you have to let these women know that you do exist and there's a reason he chose you.

lastly, dont waste time. everybody has a price and it isn't always money. sooner or later someone will get to him. keep up the lunch thing for about 3 months str8. then come by once in a while to keep up appearances.

Dunk

Who cares if he's being asked out! Take it as a compliment that people find him attractive enough to want to go out with him! As long as he's not shagging any of them then it's ok! Also, perhaps you should encorage him to go out with the boys more often, other wise he may start resenting married life. This is what happened to my parents and my dad left my mum.

PAMELA O

I know how frustrating it must be for you hearing about all these women that are after him but at least hes being honest with you and telling you about these offers - it would be so much more deceitful if he kept it to himself.
Jealousy is a natural instinct that you are obliged to feel when you hear these stories but as hes being honest and upfront with you about things I wouldnt give him a hard time. Certainly explain that you feel threatened and upset that these women persue your husband - but dont accuse him of anything.
Also - Id just double check that he isnt actually sending out signals to these women to say that he is so popular with them??

Little Muffin

Your husband is most likely still known as being the 'party boy' at work and therefore it is only the people in his team the know his more personal situation ie; now being a married man. The word probably hasnt got around to the people who know him less. These young graduates etc you mention probably ask to try there luck for a date, he's a young attractive man after all! for all they know the wedding ring may mean nothing & he may be willing to see others married or not. However what you need to focus on is what you know - that your husband is not willing to see anyone or cheat in his marriage. He has been very open & honest to you & told you about these situations going on & that is a good thing to be in a marriage, he obviously loves & respects you very much. I know its hard, but try not to worry about these other girls, they mean nothing to him & when you take a look at your husband yourself I expect you can see in a second why they want to go out with him......and why you married him. You wouldnt change him I'm sure so try to not worry about the others that want him & remember - you have him x

joe

Sometimes its nice to still feel you are attractive to others. Yet there is a line that a married man should not cross. It is absolutely wrong for these other girls to be asking him out when they can clearly see his ring. If you dont tell him that it bothers you when they do that then he will never know any different. He is doing the right thing by declining. Make sure he knows that you see that. It will take time for the label "party boy" to turn into "married man" at work.

When talking about it with your nusband be careful not to come off accusatory. BTW- if it ends up that he begins to not tell you when these events happen at work or seems to be hiding the fact that he gets hit on, thats when you need to begin questioning and worrying. As long as he is open, he isn't hiding anything.

puffy

Feel flattered and know he comes home to you every night!

boredatwork

So, would you rather be married to a fat slob who everybody in the company avoids because of his god-awful body odor? Most of this happened when you were engaged and he had no ring. He has a ring now. He can't help it that women in his company find him attractive. If you really want it to stop start dressing him horribly and feeding him very fattening foods. Maybe make him less self-confident and socially awkward too. Sure, he'll have changed for the worse and he'll resent you for it but, hey, at least the ladies at work won't be asking him out!!!!!

fucose_man

Wish I had this guy's problems.

shellysnapz

well as for him refusing these advances...you should not worry about him being asked out....he's refused so that means he's loyal to you...also he has told you about whats happening so he's trustworthy...the only thing that does stand out is...his email address...how have these women got his addy?...he must have given it to them at some point...however if he is getting these advances then i suggest he changes his email so none of them contact him any more, i would not worry about this too much be flattered that women fancy him but be proud that he's yours and yours only....bless you...be happy and be proud...he's yours...no one elses

nicky dakiamadnat600bugmunchsqig

You've only just got married,so you've got to give your husband chance to settle down in that role,he's still behaving as a bachelor.
His colleagues still see him as single,even though he wears a band.That's probably the reason why he's being singled out.
Trust your instincts,but you'll probably find he's just having a laugh and nothing is meant by it.

You can't HANDLE the TRUTH!

Both. Chicks dig him, and there's nothing you can do about that. But it's certainly worth keeping an eye on. Be subtle about it though, and don't obsess over it.

Barbara Doll to you

He shouldn't be telling you. What's he get out of that?
A lot of people get asked out after they're married you only have to say no a few times and the word gets around.

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