My husband left me for another woman a year and half ago. they are still together. when will this feeling of ?

idontknowitall

you'll always have some resentment after such and egregious betrayal, and seriously f him and move on with your life

Ronan

Fu** him.
how bout we get married and go over to their house on our honeymoon and wreck the place.

alrozz

Kimberly,
Your not worthless. Just because he wanted someone else doesn't make you worthless. That is just God's way of getting rid of the trash in your life and setting you up for the big one that will be allot better than what he's going thru right now.

You have my blessing.

The Wife

Everything in his life isn't perfect, it just looks that way to you. You are not a loser. A loser is someone who takes vows to love someone through thick and thin forever who then decides in a moment of weakness that someone else may be better. He will never be satisfied and if he cheated with her, he will eventually cheat on her. So keep your head up and find a man who is worthy of you. He is the loser hun, not you.

California SunShine

you need to make room for someone new in your heart.

â™¥ â™¥HONESTY RULESâ™¥â™¥

Stop thinking about it and move on.

Do something good for yourself.

He will cheat on her and leave her too, so be thankful that it's done for you and he's her problem now.

Their life probably isn't as perfect as they try to make it seem

newenglandseers.com

no-one's life is perfect, first off.
and you need to focus on the moments of the day. Experience them now, and stop thinking about HIM in the PAST.
While you are wasting you time like this other 'perfect' men may be coming along and passing you by while you are broken.
In general terms it takes 1/2 the amount of time we spent with someone to get over them.
You almost done, and a great guy is probably in the wings.
Start keeping your eye out for your 'perfect'

free_angel

The feeling will go away when you realize just how worthless and how much of a loser he really is.

*****

The only reason why his life seems to look perfect is BECAUSE you have not DIVORCED him and MAKE his azz PAY $$$ For his neglect as a FAITHFUL HUSBAND !!! OPEN YOUR EYES and find your self worth ...DO NOT LET THIS FOOL SLIDE THAT EASY !!

Helene

Maybe you should try talking to a therapist. Sometimes just talking it out helps. If your ready, try dating again. Get yourself out there. You could also pick up a new hobby. And who knows, you may meet someone that is interested in the same hobby.
Your NOT a loser. He is. Karma will come around to visit him one day.

drewxjacobs

Those feelings will go away when you let go of them. Your husband left you for another woman - why are you beating yourself up over his shortcomings? Just because he left you for someone else does not mean you are not worth loving.

Let it go, get counseling, whatever you need to do to feel whole again and move on. FYI, nobody's life is perfect. It may look that way to you from the outside looking in, but trust me on this one, it's not perfect.

Kris

Who cares what he thinks? It sounds like this whole thing has really hit you too hard. Do yourself a favor and go and talk to someone about how your feeling. No one on YA! is going to be able to fix you, only you can. Going to a behavioral psychiatrist will help you put things in perspective. Don't be afraid, it doesn't mean that there is something wrong with you, it just means you may need a little help. Please go and take back your life.

mick

I think all of that should be a driving force to make yourself a better person and prove that you are a strong person .
you need a boost of confidence . Buy yourself a nice outfit , make sure you are making yourself look good . Even if just going out and doing errands or going to work .
Divorce is not the end of the world . You need to move on and start making plans and growth for yourself and stop worrying about his "perfect" life . Sometimes what you see on the outside is not what is really there .

â‚Sun_Is_Shiningâ‚

Your thinking is skewed. His life isn't perfect. For a start, his new relationship started with cheating, so that's always going to be in the back of their minds. Not exactly comforting for the new woman, to know he can walk out on someone who he's married to.

Also, while introspection after the break up of a relationship is healthy, in order to learn from the experience and grow from it, casting yourself down as being worthless because of a failed marriage is totally counter-productive. You have a right to happiness, and you need to start appreciating all the good things about yourself and hold your head up high. If you don't appreciate yourself and find yourself to be of value, despite the knocks that life has given you, no-one else will be able to, because you won't be able to allow them in.

Grief has it's place, but setting yourself up in this way means you aren't going to move on. You need to. Good luck.

claire c

oops...I believe you stepped into a pile of shitz... Such was your past with this dumpy man...ha ha ..!!. Move on but first wipe off your shoe cause it tends to stink and his odor will get washed away during a good rain . Like on your next walk with the man of your dreams!!.. Chin up girl cause he lost and now you know what you don't want!!

Marta L

You need to stand in front of the mirror and check what it is that you do not like about your self,,,,,,,,change it,,,,,,,,then you need to realize that people fall in and out of love easily,,,,,,,,,then you need to start thinking that you are loved and healthy and that unless you change this mode you are currently having, the one for you that is out there, will not find you,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,pick your self up and stop thinking about how good he has it, after all he had the same with you and he left yes? think about that

wingrl

So hard when this happens. The best way to look at it though is that if he did not want you and went after another women then he was not the right man for you and know that you deserve better! Hard to lose the feelings of betrayal but things will get better. Start dating again that will help to boost your self confidence also you may need counseling. Best of luck to you!

tamara

think that you can do better, because you can.
your not a loser, your not worthless.
you are a human being that does not deserve to be treated like ****.
they wont last. a year or so down the line, you watch.
move on, bollucks to him
x

vaughn favrua

what happened. i have ben through hell in my past. mail back if you need someone to talk to

jina

It was over a YEAR ago!!! It's time that you move on. Don't let some scum bag just ruin your life. Consider my step by step guide. First you go and pamper yourself...go get a hair cut..get it colored or something...go get your nails done...go get a massage..go shopping for some new outfits. Create a NEW you. You don't want to be sitting around feeling depressed about yourself and feeling like a loser. When you look better...you feel better...even the hottest girls once in awhile get a makeover...just for a fresh feeling..a fresh start. That's what you need. Then go out with your friends. Positive and fun people. Then you start to meet new people and there you go! ...You need to start new things....do something you always wanted to do...you need to do things that will make you feel positive about yourself. If you're down about this even after a year...you're giving yourself more a reason to be a loser. Don't give him that kind of credit. DO YOU.

Martina-Wayne S

you should say to your self im great person and he left you for another he will leva her too dontworry what comes around goes around

August

i know its not east to just "move on" and i know how you feel. Honestly, i think only time will heal you, sometimes it takes years to get over something like this, like 2 - 3 but it depends on you...on your heart :/. If you can make place in your heart for somebody else, i say do it, because that will help heal faster, and will make you feel like you are special to someone.
Try not to think about him and his 'perfect' life, im sure is far from perfect, and honestly, he probably even misses you, but wont tell you because of ego and crap.. but you don't need that anyway, focus on yourself, on what you like to do, take up hobbies and activities, and find someone else who appreciates you.

you are too much for him, make yourself pretty, change a hairstyle, anything that will make you gain self confidence, do it for you, not for everybody else...

he is a fool and an idiot for losing you...

Pinolera

Please. You think everything is rosy in his life or it may appear to be, but I can tell you often time it isn't. I can tell you too that half the men who cheat on their wives and leave them, they will do it again and seems often time when the second woman has a child it seems to happen then. For all you know, he may be already cheating on her.

marypoppins

when you focus more on you, then, (only then) will you be able to move on.

Now What?!!

It will go away when you allow it to. His life is far from perfect he just makes it seem that way. The moment you move on and feel better about yourself that is when you will see how perfect your husband's life is not. You can start by filing for a divorce.

josaphine_hope

When you stop comparing your life to his, this will start to go away. Even though everything may seem perfect in his life, that is rarely the case. Life is all in what you make of it. Start focusing on your own life, what you have, what are your goals, how can you work towards them.....stop comparing your life and his life because 99% of the time they are like comparing apples and oranges - two totally different fruits! lol

Kimmerz

Just remember this, if he left you for someone else, he will eventually do the same to her. You are not a loser, get out and live your life to the fullest.
And, how do you know everything in his life is perfect? No ones life is perfect, there will always be regrets and hurts.

It will go away when you are ready to let it go. The fact that you asked this question should be an indicator to you that you are still holding on. You can't let go if you are still holding on. Trust me, I know.

blueeyed grl

Oh honey.... I understand the pain and hurt you feel. The only person who can make you feel worth while is YOU. Only you can make yourself feel like a prize instead of scraps. Being left is the most hurtful thing a person can do to us...especially when they leave us for another one waiting in the wings and you are left to mop up the mess of what happened, why's, and all the coulda, shoulda, and woulda's....You did the very best you could. His life "appears" to be perfect but as we all know even your life "appeared" to be perfect on the outside. I am sure no one else knew all the details of your marriage. We present ourselves to the public how we want others to see us.....just because our presentation looks good doesn't always make it so. Look around you. There are marriages falling apart little by little every day but most of those people put on happy faces and fake the closeness. I am not saying that it is the case with your husband but I have yet to ever experience a perfect relationship where everything is always GREAT. Every relationship has its highs and lows.
Try to take the energy that you invest in thinking about him and apply it to yourself and making you the best possible you that you can. Invest in yourself. Be a person that is worthwhile....be the kind of person that one would be excited to know and have fun with. Be a winner. Find something that you are passionate about and go be proactive in it. Learn something new - take a class, be creative, but indulge in yourself.
The hardest steps are always the first ones but you can never get to where you want to be unless you take those first steps.

Good Luck

jeanie beans

Ouch! I'm so sorry.

He left you, he'll leave her,too. He's the loser, not you! His life may look perfect on the outside but I'm sure it's not on the inside! He just wants you to think it's perfect. Men can't admit they've ever done anything wrong! (i've been married for 10yrs)

Get out there and meet someone. Get over him! Move on!
Good luck!!

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