My husband lied alittle how bad is this?

Kellkat

thats a big red flag!

nic81

Lying is lying - dont accept it. It will only get worse if he thinks it is acceptable.

Tomtabear

Sounds like a gambling problem to me.

Carrie!

This is a REALLY bad sign. How long have you two been married? How long have you known him before you got married? Many women get trapped this way...their credit gets ruined. You need to do a background check on your husband. Look into getting him help for a gambling problem. DO NOT give him access to your money!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

This could be more serious than you think.

lorioh1

Well, not only does he lie, and gamble, but he lies about his gambling, which makes him an addict. When an addict lies to you, it is scary.

check out aadac.com, especially this page:

http://corp.aadac.com/gambling/the_basics_about_gambling/problem_gambling.asp

storvim

I hate to say it, but he really is stealing from you. I can think of 2 options to do if i was in your situation.

1) Leave him, and seek legal advice for theft.
2) Suggest seeking help for his gambling addiction.

mustang.suzy

Get him some help its a addiction and he is not thinking about hurting you he is not thinking at all when he gets the urge. Cancel all credit cards or hide them from him, and get him some help if he refuses leave him for a while.

kimberly b

You call that a little thing? I suppose it is a little thing if you are willing ot deal with it for the rest of your life, and it will probably only get worse. 1800betsoff
good luck

I'm Gonna Tell You

Demand he quit playing or you'll seek a divorce. If he says he refuses to quit. Make good....I'm tell you....if you don't nip this, you will FUQ yourself....watch. Any man to choose gambling over a woman has got a real defect and you can't fix this...it's there forever.

mustanglady

I am sorry, he is addicted and needs to stop before you lose everything!!!

Gar

This is bad and sounds like it going to be the start of somehting even worse. You have to nip this in the bud. If he is going to spend your money hes going to have to earn it. Im sorry but hes going to keep lying, gambling is an addiction just as bad as alcoholism and if you think its a minor problem then you may as well bury your hand in the sand and pretend the problem doesnt exist. Get help straight away make sure he doesnt do it again threaten him with divorce and contact a councillor for him.

pinksmycolor

uh he has a problem now!

snooppoopaloop69

divorce his sorry *** if he doesnt get some help for his gambling addiction

THP

It's big. Not only is gambling with money you don't have, but then hiding it and lying about it....wake up sweetie.

love2travel

Gambling is an addiction, which involves lying and lots more. Here's a site that might shed some light on what is happening: http://www.helpguide.org/mental/gambling_addiction.htm

I wish you luck, hon, yours is not an easy row to hoe.

Dude

Since he likes gambling, you should ask him what the odds are of you being around if he doesn't quit his lying and gambling. If he answers your question ask him if he wants to bet.

advicemom

i think the fact that he lied should (for right now) take a back seat to his gambling problem. has he lied about other things? if not, he probably is developing a real addiction that needs to be treated. drug addicts start lying about money issues; not to hurt those they love, but out of desperation to continue their habit. same with your hub. treat his gambling problem before you go bankrupt. good luck

Bosco

WOW - you must be ANNOYED . You should let him play poker with his own money BUT none of the money you earn AND none of the money .
Cancel EVERY one of your credit cards TONIGHT and find out if he has your name on any .
This man will piss away your life savings if you have any .
Question him WHILE he is on and have him show you HOW he pays .
You may have to divorce him so that your finances are not ruined .

BOSCO

Geez Louise

You are in for a rough time.........he is addicted to gambling and until you get him to admit this and get the help he needs you will be dealing with lying and financial loss. Why wouldn't a husband work? He has way too much time on his hands and if I were you I would disconnect the internet and make sure the money you have is secure. Believe me.......he is addicted....find out what you can do, contact gamblers anonymous. Do whatever it takes to have him realize he has a problem that is bigger than the two of you. Good Luck!

Delilah

This is not a little thing or a small problem that's going to go away. Compulsive gambling is just as serious as any other addiction. He's lying to you and he's not coming clean about what he's doing. Try to get him to go to a gamblers anonymous meeting before he starts gambling with the rent money. Good luck.

cheenarca

very bad.

Lake Lover

He's lying to cover up spending money on online gambling. It will most likely get worse.

You don't need to "trust him in your heart." This is about FACTS - the fact he's lying about gambling and money which is compromising your LIFE.

You cannot trust him. All this lying can compromise your credit. How would you like that? What if you had/have a mortgage and children? Does that sound like a responsible spouse?

I'm sorry - but in my book - that's not acceptable. Demand he get immediate counseling - or separate until you can trust him again.

Some people never get over the gambling addiction. You decide how much you are willing to tolerate.

bouncey1yeah

Sounds to me like your husband has an addiction to online poker and it is causing him to decieve you i suggest you sit down and have a talk with him about this problem, also why is he not working he needs to occupy his time doing something more constructive. Try to be understanding gambling is an addiction.

pistolgrip104

damm that **** up **** him get ah real man that can old down ah job and pay his own bills u know holla if u want to talk so time

kalie s

if your husband is telling lies over an addiction, he needs help. i don't know what your relationship is like and if he has past addiction problems, but if i were you i would duck tail and run. it sounds like you could be in for a lot of heart ache. i feel for you. my first husband was an alcoholic and my second husband turned out to be a pot head. RUN!

Laura

It is scary, and it's difficult to believe if someone is telling the truth from then on.
I'd say perhaps switch bank card accounts, open a new one instead. Tell him he can't be trusted with the bank card.

Yellow :)

I would cancel him account and make sure he didn't EVER go to a casino. He's got a gambling problem.

You call that CHANGE?

2 problems..... the lieing, and an obvious gambling problem, next thing ya know youre gonna have big men in suits carrying guns, at your door, wanting their $$$ he borrowed.

Tell him to get his "A-$$" out there and get a job, geez. whats up with no job, anyways?

Julzz

Loose the liar and find a guy with a job!

cheetah7

Whether it's online poker or actual gambling pubs, it's still gambling. It's not a little thing. It's a start of something big. You have the right to be angry about his lying but you have to be concerned with this developing addiction called gambling. It doesn't matter if he does it with your money or his. Nip it at the bud before it destroys your lives.

kimj

if he lied to you he will lied to you again, with out trust in your relationships you don`t have anything. trust is the #1 thing in a relationships .may be just ask he not to lied to you again , see if you can get the trust back in your heart.

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