My husband never does anything around the house?

cheer mother

Me and my husband have the same problem. We both work 40+ hrs a week to. We have 2 children as well to take care of. We own a business together plus i run a business. This take alot away from the time we spend together. it seems that i do all the work around the house like the cooking, and cleaning, and picking up after the kids. We have tried to work on this problem together. Last year we hired someone to do all the yard work. I can say our children are in alot of sports. He does make time to spend with them, and is always there for every event they are in which i am grateful . It seems that every time i ask him to help with something around the house. He makes an excuse that i work all the time i don't want to do it. Then i have no other choice , but to find the time to do it myself. I will say that we have had alot of problems concerning this, but things have gotten alot better. Now we find the time to do the things around the house together as a family.Me and my husband, and children all have chores that we do every single day together this seems to be working out for us. Hope this help you. Good Luck!!!!!!

Logan

Only pick up your items. It will take a while, but when he runs out of laundry etc... It worked on me.. lol

â™« Mad Luv â™«

sounds to me you both need to sit down and talk!
show him your schedual and his schedual and ask if he cares if you get any personal time?

telling nagging don't do anythign most of these people are right! leave it and he will do it!
that only works if he cares about how the house looks!

i gratefull my man helps out! tho sometimes he won't just do it i have to give him a daily todo list!
some tiems that's just enought to get him rolling!
the other day i put 3 things on the list! he ended up doing like 7 things that were not on the list and the 3 thigns! i was floored!

but we talk about all this and the shared respsonisablites!

melouofs

Hire someone to clean the house, and when he complains about the cost, you explain to him that you doing all the house work is NOT an option, and since he isn't interested in helping, you've taken steps to do what you can.

My husband doesn't want to clean, and I didn't want to do it all myself--we also both work full time. We have someone come in to clean.

My husbnad wouldn't complain about it, though.

God Bless America

My husband was the same way until I told him I was quitting work and stay at home and clean up after him which was a job in itself. We now have a "Clean-Up" day where we both do housework. He dusts and I vacuum and clean other areas. At least it gets him moving. Tell him how you feel and ask him if he would mind helping with the house chores. Tell him you will help him with the yard work as an even trade. Do things together no matter what they are.

Marc

I was stubborn like your husband once. My girlfriend experienced the same thing as you. I was once a slacker and always complained about doing household chores. I never realized that my girlfriend was having a difficult time doing all of those chores on her own until one day, she left me with all of the chores undone. She said, she'll be gone for a week to a visit to her aunt's place and I was left with the chores. The first 2 days were horrible. The dirty dishes were piling up in the sink, there were no more clean dishes to eat on. My clothes were still not washed and they too were piling up and I was running out of underwear. On the 3rd day, I took the day off from work, and did all of the chores. I washed the dishes, did the laundry, and cleaned the rest of the house. For the remaining 4 days, I did the chores after coming from work. And when my girlfriend came back home, her jaw dropped and was amazed to see how clean the house was. I even rearranged the furniture for her. After that, we finally shared the household chores.

I had my laughs and I experienced how difficult it was on the part of my girlfriend. I realized that so I had to help her. At first it was a sloppy start but I got used to it and now, I feel active as ever. We both get along easily and our relationshiop is saved. Hehehe...

I suggest that you take a vacation far away from your husband see how will he cope with it. My girlfriend sure was smart to leave me with the chores for 1 week. I even fell for her trick.

Fixated

Leave him and find someone who will appreciate you and help you out.

Ivy

You could call the cable company and remove the sports package and tell him you needed the extra money to hire a maid to pick up after him. Seriously though, I like Marc's answer.

Seth ...DILF-to-be...HaHaHa :)

Simple, stop doing the things for him. He needs to act like an ADULT and learn to respect the people he lives with by realizing they have to live in that house too and it's therefore everyone's responsibility to keep it tidy.

Queen of Beer

Give him a swift kick in the nutsack. Time to start treating a grown man like a child....sit him down, have a talk, tell him you are his wife, not his slave, etc. Stop doing stuff for him. Tell him to clean up the dog puke that you are sick of him thinking you are his maid. Good luck!

Valerie X Account #20! At Last!

Don't have kids with him- trust me.

Vittorio

be a good wife and do your job

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