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box of rain
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Start looking for a good family law attorney now. It will e harder to find one in a hurry, so do it while you have time.
Good luck. |
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Kitten
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Sounds like he might be cheating. His reaction is definitely odd, and it's almost like he's trying to give you a reason for YOU to end things, so he doesn't have to be the bad guy. I hope I'm wrong... |
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Al B
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There is a difference between a close friendship and an intimate one I think, but if you think it is an affair, it is time for counseling. It may be that he considers this woman a close friend but if so, she should be a friend of yours as well. Otherwise try the counseling before a divorce. Good Luck! |
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Bushrod Isbister
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I think hes cheating and that hes hoping you'll divorce him so he can be with that other chick. |
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Jeff x
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yeah cheater. Careful in this situation, Integrity is important. Love is one thing, but with him saying what he did, he is creating an out, a way of taunting you. Wow. Good luck. |
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Rebecca W
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You asked him to state how he would react if he thought this was happening with you and he honestly said he couldn't handle it, in theory.
If you want an answer to a concrete question, ask it in a concrete way. Don't ask for theory and base your response on a concrete.
Work on your communication skills, then use them to work on your marriage. |
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Sands
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You can get really good advice at www.survivinginfidelity. com---this site is great for advice on all kinds of situations. Good luck sweetie. |
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Gypsy Gal
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Yes, it is time to move on |
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Indypendence
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Honestly, I don't know. But his answer sure wasn't very sensitive. I'd be asking myself lots of questions.......like why does he want to make me feel even more insecure. i would straight out ask him. Are you cheating on me?
Now the question to you is, if he is then what are you going to do about it. Are you going to be a wuss and blame yourself or are you going to stand up and be a woman and demand the respect you deserve? |
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that judi
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He is looking for a way out and wants you to make it easier. Get an atty and protect yourself. Cheaters often turn the tables to alleviate their guilt. |
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MJ
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It doesn't sound like an admission but the two of you really need to sit down and discuss the future of your relationship. Find out now before he brings you home a disease. Do not accept the age old excuse of "but we didn't have time for each other" either. If he had time to sneak around and hook up with this bimbo then he sure had enough time to talk with you and check out some counseling. |
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Dood
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He's simply admitting that he knows his situation looks bad. It does not mean he is cheating (though he may be).
Try asking his advice on how he thinks you should view the situation, since he already admitting he would not view it so kindly if the shoe was on the other foot. |
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Edub_1999
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My Husband has made the same comment before. Not quite sure what it means.
I just ignore this comment. If you are truly in love with him. I would let the comment go. There may be nothing going on. Talk to your husband and tell him you are uncomfortable with his relationship with this other female. If he respects your feelings, he will do something about how much time he spends with her.
If you suspect something is going on, tell him. |
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ღKrissyღ
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Yep he admitted that he is a cheater go find a lawyer and make him pay @sshole!!!!!!!!!!!!!! |
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Girl
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Just ask him....r u having an affair? Make him tell you the truth. And if he says yes.....you have to make that tough decision to leave him....after all he did say that he would leave you if you cheated. It is trully not worth goin through all the mess of trying to work it out after an affair. The love you feel is never the same after something like that. Trust me I know. You only have one life to live.....you might as well live it happily with someone who won't hurt you. |
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beastseeksbeauty
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Tell him that's not an answer, unless that's what he's suggesting you do. It's not the answer that an innocent man gives. Either he's got a history of cheating, or you're always on him about it, or both.... |
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867-5309 "Jenny"
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Yes he's a cheater.. |
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ღ♥Jess♥ღ
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It means that some people, even if they are nothing but cheaters, actually have some self worth. Just like my husband when a woman called our home asking for him, to thank him for such a nice time at a bar. He said he would of told me to leave the house no questions asked. He said nothing happened, I didn't believe him, but since then he has given me no reason for doubt. But the little grain is still there, you understand? Some people, especially men, find it difficult to let something go, even if it's just a 'doubt'. And if you thought there was something going on, there probably was. |
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cs2005
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he just confessed to you that he cheating by saying that, i would leave him |
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Krish K
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Leave him if you think there is no way for you to be happy. |
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yes he is admitting it and he said if you did what he did then he would have left you, right? So then leave him. Why be with someone like that, there are too many men to just settle. |
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The Mrs.
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I think he's indirectly admitting it, as well as indirectly telling you he wants a divorce... |
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pictureshygirl
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By him saying what he did, sounds as if he simply validated your feelings and feels you are justified on being upset by them. It does not necessarily mean he was cheating. You and your husband need to talk seriously about this close relationship he has with this other woman and how it is affecting you and eventually the marriage. If he puts this friendship ahead of your feelings and the marriage, then this should be a cause for alarm for you. |
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jade4e83
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probably means he wouldn't be as open and forgiving, aka, he would assume the worst and act on it. kind of an inadvertent way to say he would not believe u. aka, maybe saying u shouldn't believe me. i would give him some space to think and then reask the question...he needs to reevaluate this. |
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ReallyStoopidGirl
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Yes he is admitting it indirectly. Remain calm and find the evidence you need. After you have found it.. then and ONLY then.. discover from him if he is interested in salvaging your relationship. |
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peggy m
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Without being a fly on the wall during the argument, I am guessing that he is admitting to being a very jealous person and he would have jumped to the conclusion that you were cheating on him and would have filed for the divorce without giving any thought to it. Does not necessarily mean he admits to cheating. Flat out ask him...don't beat around the bush. |
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elvlayarvvi fEisty wife and mom
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divorce... forsaking all others is the marital vow and it's to be taken seriously!!! you are to tell him to stop all contact w/ this other woman now... and that means now!!! if he gets in contact w/ her even once more, it's divorce... don't put up w/ this crap... good luck... =) |
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cindra
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I don't think you need any clearer of an answer than this!!! He just admitted to you that he crossed the line and if you did what he did, he'd divorce you in a heartbeat! And, it also sounds like he'd divorce you, even if he "thought" you crossed the line. Either way, you know crossed the line and either way, it doesn't sound like he has much feelings for you at all. |
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Dog Rescuer
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Get to a counselor ASAP... |
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