My husband says I dont have a "REAL" job?

AnswerDude

My wife stays home with our 3 children and home schools two of them and we have child #4 due in June! SHE has a "REAL" job! I don't work anywhere as hard as she does!

Anything that you do that you find fulfilling is great! As long as the bills are paid and you are not without basic necessities. ENJOY your job and ignore your husband!

Sherry F

Tell him if you're not good enough for him someone else out there will take you off his hands, and let him believe you already have someone in mind.

I miss Thailand!!!!

He is just jealous that you have a job you actually like. Tell your husband to grow up and accept the fact that you are happy. Maybe it is him who needs to find a new job...one he actually enjoys so he can stop taking the anger out on you. Great job being a teacher...that is one of the most real jobs out there if you ask me!!!

big d

You have what he wants....He just needs to grow up and become a real man....you might suggest some counseling to help him with his anger management.

Tmarie99

He hates his job... you don't. He's jealous and feels trapped because you can't get a job with insurance benefits, thus trapping him in his hated job.

meghan m

Uhm how is being a preschool teacher not a job? You went to school for it and you have to have a teaching certificate/degree to do it so uhm yeah its definetly a job...Not all jobs give benefits although its a shame you don't have them :( Who cares what he thinks btw, its not like his opinion matters he doesn't even like his job lol

radbagm3

Your husband has no respect for you. It doesn't matter what kind of job it is, it's still bringing in income. You need to enter marriage counseling. I can't imagine what else he says to you.

hah

Sounds like he is unhappy and maybe wants you to be too...I don't know, just a thought. At the end of the day, you are educated, doing what you love to do and he doesn't get to do that. Yeah....of course he is being an idiot, but it can't hurt to try to understand that he is frustrated...it isn't easy always but if you love him, try to get to the bottom of it...good luck.

Billie

Wow, that's a horrible thing to say. I would challenge your husband to come with you to work one day to SEE what a difficult job you actually have! I know one thing, I could never do it! It takes a special person to be a teacher .. and a preschool teacher also needs to have a ton of patience!

I would explain to your husband that saying things like that hurts your feelings. Tell him that you love your job and just because you don't receive health benefits doesn't make it NOT a job. Heck, I'm a stay at home mom that doesn't receive pay or benefits and I consider it a job! lol

Good luck and thank you for being a teacher! :-)

tennis03

He is being ignorant and you don't have to yell or argue to prove your point; you have a degree, salary, and structured hours that you are paid to teach and help develop young children. If that is not enough evidence for him to give you credit than he is simply being bitter about not enjoying his own job. Don't waste your energy just tell him that you happened to find something that you really enjoy that you get paid for so maybe it doesn't seem like a real job in his eyes because you aren't stressed or unhappy with what you do for a living/how you make money. This sounds like his skewed perspective but that doesn't mean you have to own his view on things. Good luck, stand by yourself because you're fortunate to love what you do:)

Brad B

stick with what you like. he just feels that a real job leaves you stressed out and your not

BabeHeart

Yelling doesn't solve anything, and tends to increase stress and blood pressure.

If you bring home a salary and you are required to be at work at a certain time, for a specified period, then you have a "real" job. Thankfully not just anyone can teach preschool...having to have a specialized education for your job makes it even more a 'real job'.

Perhaps your husband is jealous you are doing something you enjoy, and apparently he is not.

Suzianne

I think your hubby is fortunate to have married a preschool teacher. Your profession makes you uniquely qualified to deal with his behavior. His comments are not only disrespectful to you, but give a clear indication of his attitude toward children. Aparently, they are not worthy of professional care in his opinion.

jk1967

he is a low life trrying too play the ole i better than u because i make more money crap so u listen too me game. I think u should keep doing what u do and if it gets too bad just cut him off for a couple weeks he'll change trust me

BeachPrincess12

Your job is very real and he sounds very insensitive. I used to work in daycare/preschool and I loved it with all my heart. I think that it was the most rewarding job i have had. The reason I didn't stick with it was because the pay wasn't so good. If it fits your lifestyle that's great. I hope to one day open my own daycare center. Good luck to you.

tan0301

The reason you don't have a REAL job is because you like what you do. I like what I do too and I think a lot of people view me that way. It is like it isn't work and it isn't valid unless you are miserable or it is physical labor.. well I went to college to keep from doing physical labor and let me tell you I would rather be physically tired than mentally tired any day of the week!

rockyfella25

be happy and stay in yuor job..he has issues he needs too clear up but dont let him drag you down..You have a real job just as he has.

kesiena10

Becuz he sees you are actually enjoying what you do makes it seem less like a job to him.

Poppet

If you two are yelling at each other there are deeper and more serious issues in your marriage than weather or not your job is "real" or not. Truly, seek professional counseling to help you two work on your communication difficulties.

â™¥lovinglifeâ™¥

ask him to come with you so he can understand the work involved. lots of jobs besides preschool teachers dont offer health benefits. if he doesnt respect that you like your job and wont quit hassling you on it just because he hates his, i'd tell him to hit the road! your job will allow you to support yourself!

Judith

You do have a real job- a job is a job! I think your husband is projecting his insecurities and him being unhappy in his job on over to you- because he is helpless by explaining and figuring out - what the real reason is. Men often tend to do that- they really have no way of figuring out what would make sense in a healthy way of communication, because males from child on are often taught- that emotional exchange isn't very masculine!
Yelling at each other isn't helping- it makes it worse!
Give him and yourself the chance to talk - if that is no Option, then give him the ultimatum to change his ways and try to combine them with yours...
I also suggest Couples Therapy- often one Partner cannot see the light at the end of the Tunnel and needs outside help!
Some Programs are on weekends or some go over time- but at least a Try to re connect and discover each other again and helping another!
But I really think a Therapist of both of your choice and that makes you feel comfortable- would be able for both of you to re connect again!
Your Husband is disconnected because of his situation and he just needs the right push in the right direction- I really hope- the he would agree to this!
Another suggestion- depending on how your relationship with his Mother is ( if possible):
Talk to her- often Mothers know especially about their grown children and will be able to give you more insight ! And if you only talk to her on your behalf! I hope it is a good and stable relationship with his mother and you- also sometimes mothers can really work wonders on their grown sons!
And even if not- sometimes those relationships between mothers and their grown kids will clarify , why their kids/sons are so insecure and helpless - so in a way another stepping stone for you to re connect with him in a sensible and acurate way!

anoldmick

Just ignore him when he starts up with that "real job" crap. And tell him you're not about to run away from a job as rewarding as the one you have just for better pay and benefits. Sounds to me like he'd prefer you be the one to work and have the benefits so you can support HIM!

The Token Emo Kid

well you should say he never gave you a real orgasm
oh snap he will get so pissed lol
he sounds like an ***

pay it forward

You are in the perfect situation you do what you love & you don't have to worry about ins. Some people are always critical & he might be that way no matter what so don't worry about.He should count his blessings but you can't make him change just count your blessings cause you are happy & there is not point of ruining your happiness because he doesn't have an appreciative attitude. Besides why is he worrying about you.It sounds like he needs to focus on his own problems & is looking at you so he doesn't have to look at himself.

Jonathan S

that is a perfectly acceptable job. in fact i want to quote my favorite author here.

"I have come to believe that a great teacher is a great artist and that there are as few as there are any other great artists. Teaching might even be the greatest of the arts since the medium is the human mind and spirit." - John Steinbeck

he is just mad bc he has to go to a job that he hates everyday and you are doing something that you love, and he can tell you love doing it. so keep it up. bc they are the future, and without respectable people bringing them up, then the world will soon be an even uglier place.

Louise C

Your husband is being very silly. Of course teaching preschool is a real job, and a very important one at that. His attitude is delplorable. He should be proud of what you do instead of denigrating you. I suspect he may be jealous because you like his job and he doesn't like his. Please don't let him belittle you like this.

starrfyrre

Put him in a room with 20 pre-schoolers for one hour, and I guarantee he'll change his tune.

mt75689

He's free to think whatever he wants. You know your job is real---whether he agrees with that or not doesn't change that fact. Learn to not take his comments seriously. Tease him by saying that if he had a real job, you wouldn't have to work. Tell him that it's a full time job just picking up his slack, and putting up with his ill-informed comments. Tell him that when you married him that you thought he was smarter than that. Say these things in response to your husbands comments. Treat them as though he's playing with you, and have fun giving it back to him.

George T

Whatever job we do we are all as equal as each other. The world could not survive without the people who do the clearing and cleaning as well as those who do the managing. Each job requiring a different skill.Tell him to swap jobs for a day and see if he could cope.

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