My husband says as long as he isn't sleeping or touching anyone else he's not cheating, what do you think?

SwEEtie PiE

I don't agree with what he said. There are other forms of cheating besides just physical. There are emotional affairs as well. That's usually how other physical cheating develops.

Georgia Girl

you have a right to be angry with him....all those things you talked about leads to other things!!! Set him straight!!!!!!!!!!!!!

krystaldlrs

You're right and he's wrong. Plain & simple. It is cheating and is disrespectful towards you.I would tell him, either it ends or we do.

Amber H

Apparently not all men think there are boundaries with flirting, I however believe there are and your husband sounds like he is stepping over them. E-mail is no different that face to face. Ask law enforcement about that. You can be held accountable in a court of law by things you say and do online. If you find something print it and keep it...you may need it one day.

Jr.

Well if he is doing it in emails and stuff then it is still cheating. If he wants to do that in emails then he should do it with you and not some other woman. Any time he tells someone else something intimate that is cheating. that should be between you and him and not some mystery lady. Set him strait cause sooner or later it can lead to other things.

miss_peaches

If you feel as though he is disrespecting you... There is a problem that needs to be addressed. If he intimately accepts the approach of another individual (man or woman).... It's CHEATING!!! Furthermore, If the shoe was on the other foot would he feel the same way? If the answer is no, then there is a problem that also needs to be addressed.
"what's good for the goose is good for the gander"

killinshel

You have every right to feel like you do, Your husband is a PIG. And yes there are such things as affairs of the heart too ya know. And he is LUSTING after another woman even if he isn't touching her. I bet they have had some very detailed conversations that he was aroused by... And to me that is cheating. But even worse then that is how he is making you feel unloved. Im sorry you are married to a PIG. Im quite sure he also has some pictures of the naked kind too of these woman, and if he has a web cam well.. when your not home he is puttin on a show. Id advise you to put your foot down, and if that doesn't change things. Then put his azz out. He is a cheater for sure!!!!

Laura

do the same to him.. then lets see what he thinks.

bandaid_46

He is parsing words to rationalize what he's doing. And you shouldn't let him get by with it. He IS cheating in the sense that he is engaging in a kind of foreplay, that will most likely lead to more.

If he loves you he wouldn't be doing this at all.

Autumn's Mom

He doesn't love you and most of all he doesn't respect you.

WOWZA!

I'd feel like he was having an emotional affair....I know it's not physical, but it's emotional.

Heather D

Sometimes having an emotional connection with someone is deeper than a physical one. It would bother me.

pixie

There is a such thing as emotional cheating. I don't think harmless flirting is anything to worry about, but if someone starts to care about him or he cares for someone else that is cheating, also, if he is not telling other people that he is married then most of the time that means he still thinks hes looking.

I think the only cure for men like that is for you to get some guy buddies of your own. I have repeatedly seen with men that they will NOT be capable of putting themselves in your shoes. YOU have to PUT them there, or forget it.

soldierswife87

girl u are a fool to believe that none of that will lead to cheating.u look and sound silly to him to fall for his tricks.girl learn the game.your man is full of you know what.you would have to be stupid to not see that he is trying to play u and make u continue to be the fool.u need to handle that asap before he gets over on your more and more.end this relationship it is a hot mess and is headed for the worse with him acting like this.but down the road,just dont say u didnt see this coming or the signs were not there.!!

larry z

i agree it is a form of cheating. when people do this they do think nothing is wrong, but as long as they continue it will develop in to more always does.it needs to be nipped in the bud and be stopped. all the time being spent on them should be spent on you. i would feel the same way.

Dana

He KNOWS that is wrong, he is just in denial. I think you should give him a taste of his own medicine in a SAFE way... like make up another email account, and start emailing back and forth to yourself. Show him, and whatever his reaction is, let him know that it's not real. 2 wrongs don't make a right.

He knows you won't do anything about it, so he keeps doing it. Maybe you could stay with a friend for a couple nights to show him you're serious. It's not fair to you.

Let him know that it really hurts you. He knows better. I would also install a tracker on his computer, so you can see everything he types. If he doesn't feel bad about that, who knows if he is easing himself into something worse! Good luck.

Smiley

I find emotional cheating to be something women worry about. Men are typically not that emotional. They can be, and at times, but no where like a woman, yet it is women who cannot understand that men do not get overly emotional, so they try to take perspective from something that is not there.

Your husband's attitude is disrespectful. He loves to show you he arrogant enough to brag about what he knows to be disrespectful.

Disrespect and cheating are two different things.

craig b

And we have always been told that adultery is a physical act. THis is where he's coming from.
However, how did Jesus explain it? That if you even "think" about lust in your heart, then you have already committed adultery!
This is where you are with him. He's falling back on the "physical" thing when the destruction is already occurring because it's "in his mind!"
He's lying to you and you already know that.
Your boundaries are being systematically destroyed and your marriage is being dismantled in your husband's head. Time to put a stop to it.
Marriage is like a fence. You are both on one side together or you are split apart by the fence. Your husband has chosen to jump the fence and this is why you feel so hurt.

Patricia

Your last sentence sums it up. If it bothers you that should be enough for him to stop it.

Yes, he's cheating!

LeeH

I think you are in trouble. He is trying to desensitize you to what is right and wrong and he is training you to not question him or become jealous. Later that will make it easier for him to get away with cheating.
Sorry.

Kaya M

Flirting is flirting my dear and I think you are mixing the two together. Nothing is wrong with flirting even if you are married. As long as you are respectful it just words. Telling someone that you are married is not going stop someone from flirting.

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