My husband seems to lie about alot of little things. should i be worried?

msbalisong

oh, honey, of course you should be worried...it is not in his or anyone's best interest for him to lie. what is more important for you, now that you realize he is lying, is to be AWARE. be smart, but don't let on to him. the main concern is WHY is he lying? he should not lie to you...you are his equal. the two of you can conquer the world...you are a team...it is not good to decieve others, especially those we love most. people who lie actually think that everyone buys their stories. ha! the more a person lies, the more difficult it is for them to remember which lies they told and to whom. if there are no children involved yet, then perhaps get out while it is easier.

SwtCherri

You should always be worried when you catch her husband or even boyfriend in a lie. Especially when he lies about little small things, imagine the big important things he might be hiding from you. No lie is ever ok!

Sigi H

You better be! Little lies always lead to big lies.....

Kmmv

be afraid.....be very afraid. If he's lying about little meaningless crap, he's lying about much worse!!!

babydollxox

yes. if he cant tell the truth about the little things... why would he tell the truth about the big things. you need to trust him to care for and protect you and he cant even tell the truth,
hun step back and check out the whole picture

e_s_p

yeah,very worried

texasm

Run. He is not trustworthy. Or maybe he is just boosting his ego so he can feel like you want him, or so he can feel like you want to kiss his feet. Depends on what kind of lie, but many many many little lies are still many many many little lies.

f1mudvayne29

If he is a liar..... Yes, I'd be worried. You can't trust a liar.

baily s

My husband used to do this too and it infuriated me. When we finally got to the bottom of it we realized it stemmed from his childhood and extremely catholic mom. She was so controlling and worried about everything he did that he made it habit to just lie about almost everything so he was saying what she wanted to hear.

Anyway, I can almost always tell when my hubby lies, even if its just about something dumb, and it upset me so we talked it over. He told me he just lies so quickly sometimes that he doesn't even realize he did it so we came up with a 30 minute rule, i.e. he can lie but then if he comes clean in the next 30 minutes then I forget all about the lie. It actually worked like a charm.

Interestingly enough studies have found that people who tell more little lies to please other people are more popular than people who don't.

Annonymous

What you have is a chronic liar. This is not your husbands first rodeo with lying, and it won't be his last either. I hate to stick up for liars, but many of them have a hard time doing otherwise. I would keep a closer eye on him, and assure yourself its only "little" things, and not something bigger. Talking to him about it won't do much good, because hes just going to lie to you about changing. I know this better than anybody because I'm a liar myself, so dont take what I say too lightly. Anyways best of luck to you.

valeeta2001

aah... yes i would be if hell lie about little things hell lie about the big things too dont fool yourself

Liz

Well, what do you mean by "worried"? You should definitely understand the fact that if he lies about little things, he is probably lying about big things too. So don't take his word for anything.

Dee R

Yeah...cuz what else could he be lying about.

letterstoheather

my ex boyfriend lied about virtually EVERYTHING! from the time he got up in the morning until he went to bed... he fabricated so many things, i didn't know truth from a lie.

notice he's my ex boyfriend.

kelliedesmarais

When guys are lying they tend to break eye contact with you and try to change the subject quickly. With over 75% of men if given the chance and they knew they wouldnt get caught they would cheat.

ali b

husbands like kid,treat the same,search the cause and tackle it

Keith

Yes you should, coming from a husband that used to lie alot. It just gets worse from here. If a you can help him stop, it would be best if you intervene.

bosskickas

Will i think so, lieing is not a good thing because you will always fell you dont trust him and thats not a good thing, in a relationship. You should always trust the one you love.

You need to tell him to stop the lieing or you could never trust him. will good luck.

jen_pen101

OMG yes you should be totally worried especially is he is hiding stuff behind your back...uhoh thats kinda scary

NeptunesSon

YES!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Be very worried!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!...

Confront him as many times as he does this catch him and expose him in his "little" lies as soon possible and watch what happens!

He has some deep seated issues of which those little lies are merely the teeny tiny tip of the Iceberg that lurks beneath!!!

Be afraid very afraid and wary!

maggie mae

i,d say yes,what could he possibly not tell you.he should,nt have to tell you about previous girlfriends or wives unless he wants to.you should not have to do that either.other than that lies lead to bigger lies.

David M

it depends on what types of lies you suspect and the truth you know. what does your heart of heart tell you?

kim h

Yes you should be worried. He is a liar and there is probably plenty that he lies about that you have not caught him lying about yet.

~~ICEY BLUE EYES~~

Hell YES you should worry..kick his big ole (_(_) to the curb...Then let him worry!! smile

doug brown

no one should lie they will be found out in the end, sit him down & ask him, then ask him the same question in 3 days see ifits the same one..lol

diquarry

i'd say so. he'll have had a lot of practice, so the bigger lies will come easier. diane.

definetely.. but I also believe that people can learn to stop lying if they understand that people around them are not stupid.. I suggest that you introduce in your life RADICAL HONESTY this are books and seminar by Bradley Blanton.. http://www.radicalhonesty.com/ there are many people who lies thinking many justification (white lies, not hurting people, don't want to many explanation etc...)

marheather

Yes

McLovin

Little lies test the waters and lay the foundation for larger lies. Just now, he is testing you to see what kind of nonsense he can successfully feed you. Eventually, and before you know it, you are buying some hum-dingers.
BEWARE

waterfall

if he lies a lot about little thinks he maybe lying about bigger things to .keep an eye on him and your ears open . he may not be lying about important stuff. but just keep in check,OK. And no don't worry. please don't stress its not worth it , if he is lying to you about something big ,worrying and stressing about this what change it and it will only make you sick .Take care.

Cece

No you shouldn't worry. Count this as a blessing. Knowing that he lies all the time and that you want to be with someone you can trust, you don't have to waste another day of your life with him and his lies. Don't let your husband worry you because if he is not meant for you, the marriage will come to an end no matter what you do. You have to decide if you really want to continue to work on your marriage. If so, you may need to see a marriage counselor to get to the bottom of all the lies and help him to know how much it hurts you and that you want to be able to trust him. On the other hand, you may be have reached dead end because a lot of times we spend years out of our lives trying to force relationships that just don't work. Although letting go is difficult, it may be the only way to open the door for the right person to come into your life.

Trust me

Hi, I lie to my wife a lot. in every little thing. I am not proud of doing it but it all started because she can not handle truth and she gets aannoyed on every little thing and blames me for it. I earn almost 1/4th of what she earns and she is ashmed of this fact. She feels that I am not putting enough effort to make living. Truth is that I have had a series of bad luck and as a result, I am still not able to get a decent paying job. I spend all my earning on household expenses and my bank banalce reaches nill towards the month end. My wife's entire earning remains untouched and she feels that she is the only source of earning as I am merely earning to fulfill basic necessities of life. So, she curses me everytime, on any small mistake of mine, she get very angry and blames me for making her life miserable. She fights with me all the time on petty stuff. She loves me alot and I love her the same, but when I see her getting angry on small things, I lie to her to hide the truth that is not ready to accept. My point is: Look in your relationship and try to talk to each other ( i would live to do this but my wife is not ready) and if husband is a constant lier, you need to find out the root cause and then tackle it mutually. Hope this makes some sense.

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